Trepidation in seeing a new SP

[johnsmit]

This is not some thing new for me , I allways had anxiety when booking with some one knew.
I had to talk myself into seeing some one . A little pep talk. Or convince myself it would be ok.
That why I usually got a regular that work for my shines level and I stuck with them .I was lucky I saw some of the good girls .

But now it looks like if I don't want to stay a monk I have to venture out there in this uncertain land scape.
It tuff introducing myself yo some one knew that does not know me at all ..or even some one tgat I have seen as a driver but never book with..And they might not even consider seeing me for a few reason . One I am over 60...two they have seen me abd maybe have an unfavorable impression of me , I know they should not but one never know .
The other thing is I jyst have to get comfortable showing all in front of some one new.And explaining my issues of not being able to cum while having a BJ. .or while having sex and I most likely will have to cum by waking off..And not promise that will work lol

When I am with a regular they all ready know that and not feel bad if they can get me off .They are use to it

Also it jyst getting comfortable with a new person in this more intamate situation.

I is a tuff one.

 

[sdw]

This is not some thing new for me , I allways had anxiety when booking with some one knew.
I had to talk myself into seeing some one . A little pep talk. Or convince myself it would be ok.
That why I usually got a regular that work for my shines level and I stuck with them .I was lucky I saw some of the good girls .

But now it looks like if I don't want to stay a monk I have to venture out there in this uncertain land scape.
It tuff introducing myself yo some one knew that does not know me at all ..or even some one tgat I have seen as a driver but never book with..And they might not even consider seeing me for a few reason . One I am over 60...two they have seen me abd maybe have an unfavorable impression of me , I know they should not but one never know .
The other thing is I jyst have to get comfortable showing all in front of some one new.And explaining my issues of not being able to cum while having a BJ. .or while having sex and I most likely will have to cum by waking off..And not promise that will work lol

When I am with a regular they all ready know that and not feel bad if they can get me off .They are use to it

Also it jyst getting comfortable with a new person in this more intamate situation.

I is a tuff one.

I always accept that the first time I see a lady is going to be a wash. Practically no chance of me cumming. What matters on how she handles it and if she accepts that it's not her - it's me.

 

[westwoody]

I only see a few ladies and rarely see someone new.
Consider meeting someone new as an interview.
I don't have any expectations, I just want to meet her in person, and see what she is like.
If we do not hit it off, no big deal, at least my curiosity is satisfied.
The worst thing you can do is put yourself under pressure.

 

[badbadboy]

I try not to have unrealistic expectations when seeing someone new.

I rarely TOFTT and when I do it's an intuitive thing that there might be a connection.

I'm fortunate that sometimes I do have a mutually enjoyable experience with new SP's.

If I do have a positive experience, I tend to repeat many times making them regulars

If not, I just figure it's a YMMV situation not her fault and not mine.

 

[felixthecat]

If not, I just figure it's a YMMV situation not her fault and not mine.

 

[sdw]

sdw's comment is valid. I generally have a frank chat with a new lady at the start of a session to lay out my issues in a few short sentences & ten explain that I am there just for some fun naked time with a pretty lady. If 'it' happens great. If not, I'm not expecting it, so let's just have some fun.

As for trepidation on seeing someone new, it's often the same with civvies as with SPs. One gets comfortable, even in a rut, with a person or small group of people and when change comes, it's scary. The change can be a lady retires / moves / dies or won't see you again for whatever reason or you embarrass yourself & cannot bear to go back. Then, like a pimple faced teenager, you have to screw up your courage and take a risk if you want to carry on having naked fun times....

Been there & done that more than a few times over the decades.

I think it's more difficult with a civilian. 1. You know each other and probably see each other fairly often. 2. If it's awkward or bad, you still have to see each other. 3. Other people know that you dated and will ask both of you why you are no longer dating.

First dates always remind me of this YouTube

And Then, there is this woman's series of tweets on a first date http://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle/...rrowing-first-date-horror-story/ar-BBqNjEd?li

 

[UhOh]

I think it's more difficult with a civilian. 1. You know each other and probably see each other fairly often. 2. If it's awkward or bad, you still have to see each other. 3. Other people know that you dated and will ask both of you why you are no longer dating.

Nah, with civilians you have all night to make it happen without it costing you $2K.

 

[tiger69]

Totally understand lol, I too have some trust issues and ...insecurities when meeting a new SP. Generally for me is not about how I think they'd view me- my ego is big enough I don't worry about that lol, but I generally worry about if we'll make a connection, if I'm wasting my hard earned money, etc. I always make a point to tell them I suffer from delayed ejaculation though so if I don't achieve orgasm they'd not feel as if it's their fault.

 

[johnsmit]

The truth is my trepidation go alot deeper then just meeting a new SP because it not just about sex..As most can tell from my post on how I have been a long time friend with a number of escorts and ex escorts..
That just it , if I connect with them , then I usually get quite friendly . And that is part of why is saw escorts..it filled thd void which I gave allways had.When I was younger I filled it with my work ..and hobby of drawing.And for the most part that works .Unless I got infatuated with some one..then I would be useless fir a while . I never could manage to get a date.

So there were a friend or two before I started seeing escorts.But allways a situation that I could not handle well.
Once I started seeing escort .then I got my self attached very easily and made friends beyond just paying them .

Of course there was the sugar daddy thing for a year and a half befor I learned.
And then I still got involved in girls lives.. from being driver ..to baby sitter..and even visiting and staying with them for a few month..Of course it never was much more then jyst as an older friend. That seems to be where I get myself pegged lol

Now I find that these friends I had are moving one in to relationships and there is no time or place for me there..I guess it part of every ones life. It something I find hard to accept ,lossing a friend in a sense.

Now I am finding my self lonely again, where befor I had someone to call up and talk to.We all need that..and where as before I also had my mom to drop in on .now that does not exist any more .

So seeing a new escort is not just about sex..even though I am not looking for a friend that is what coukd happen along with every thing else. Not sure if I want that . I need sone thing more then Me ..Myself ..and I .That guy is getting a little boring.

Now you might suggest the personals or those other site we are so familiar with .I have found nothing there that appeals to me.And if you have read any if the add on Craigslist of late you will notice that 50 and 60 yr old want 30 abd 40 yrs old lol.

 

[sevenofnine]

I just saw my sp and she told me that she was as nervous as hell at seeing a new client yesterday, and it didn't go well.
so your not alone,

but my sp has been out of it for awhile trying to get back into it.

I think it takes two of you, she feeds off your body language and comfort level. if your nervous it makes her nervous so if both of you are nervous

does it matter, don't worry, easy for me to say I havn't seen anyone else but my sp for a long time.
but it seems to me your to hyped up on it, desperate all ready,

when I make a decision and pass the money to my sp or any sp, its gone, it doesn't really matter, I mean I don't expect anything to happen or demand anything,
the last sp I saw that wasn't my last sp, I paid her everything for anal for bbbj something I wasn't even sure what it was and a supper date,
but I never asked her for anything not one specific service but she was very kind and took care of me,

I still never had anal after ten years in this hobby but oh well, but most girls take care of me. if they don't I don't go back,

I think the first visit is a wash statement is not always true, a couple of pse girls gave me the best first viists ever,
they simply didn't fucking care, just grabbed my cock and sucked it or fucked it, didn't ask didn't wait, or nothing one girl we started as soon as the door was closed in her entrance hall way, fuck she just grabbed my cock and that was that.

I think you have a deeper issue of loneliness

I get it,
I am attached to one particular sp and I asked her what will happen to me when she finally quits or whatever, I get it how sp's or one sp can be a big part of your life.

but enjoy what you have,
I am very fortunate
I mean that I am very very fortunate, I have a family I go home to

I have an sp that puts up with me, she is a friend as well as a hooker to me, we socialize as much or more then sex sometimes.

I get it but

I think we make our own traps in life.

someone once said there is no prison so strong as the one we make for ourselves

as a sixty plus guy too the sex is nothing to brag about especially when you have had medical issues but,
god its nice to taste and smell and feel pussy and feel the warmth of being inside of her,

just enjoy it, if she doesn't mind.

I have felt I think a lot what you have but, like I said I feel very fortunate, its a choice I think to enjoy or bitch and complain that things aren't perfect.

 

[johnsmit]

In the one respect a bout the money
I felt exactly the same .Once I give them the money it gone ..it us now theirs and they don't have yo do any thing for me or to me ...and there us very little I will do It us their choise.
It no different if as a friend they say they need some money .if I can spair it ..I have given it and know that it is unlikely I'll get it back .
That's just the way many women are .

 

[westwoody]

Nah, with civilians you have all night to make it happen without it costing you $2K.

Unless you fuck up and have to pay $1000 or more a month for eighteen years.

 

[johnsmit]

TREPIDATION ...that is a fairly easy word to spell because it spells just like it sounds .Just had to chose if it was tion or sion ☺

And then I picked the right word out of the three choises I hade come up on word complete.

I think that dicribing my feeling over seeing a new escort , as trepidation might be a bit too strong. There definetly is some axseiousness. ., fear of the unknown perhaps, but I can't say that I feel dread,it more like hope for something good to happen .

 

[UhOh]

Unless you fuck up and have to pay $1000 or more a month for eighteen years.

Yes that is a risk but sex is very much a heat of the moment activity where risks are often ignored. Just speaking to the mechanics of the act, its a lot easier to perform when not watching the clock countdown.
The cost of screwing up is another topic.

 

[FreeG]

I'm surprised that anyone WOULDN'T be a little nervous before meeting a new (to you) SP. No matter how many reviews I read or how much I try to convince myself that she is a good choice, I'm always wary that she won't be as pretty as her pictures, she won't be as cool as others say she was, she won't be as enjoyable to be with as I hoped, etc. Sometimes my fears are founded and I wasted some money; usually (fortunately) my research has paid off and I have an enjoyable time.

What I try to do - embrace the trepidation/nerves! Its like skydiving, bungee jumping, stepping on the starting line of a big race, stepping up to the mic for an important brief - try to enjoy the adrenaline rush and nerves in a positive way and use that energy for the joy of the experience!

 

[HunkyBill]

I'm surprised that anyone WOULDN'T be a little nervous before meeting a new (to you) SP. No matter how many reviews I read or how much I try to convince myself that she is a good choice, I'm always wary that she won't be as pretty as her pictures, she won't be as cool as others say she was, she won't be as enjoyable to be with as I hoped, etc. Sometimes my fears are founded and I wasted some money; usually (fortunately) my research has paid off and I have an enjoyable time.

What I try to do - embrace the trepidation/nerves! Its like skydiving, bungee jumping, stepping on the starting line of a big race, stepping up to the mic for an important brief - try to enjoy the adrenaline rush and nerves in a positive way and use that energy for the joy of the experience!

As Ricky from TPB says, why use fancy words, are you writing an essay? Let's just say anxious? :stupid:

I think for most people who read the [credible] reviews here, there really is no to feel anxious or uneasy unless you deep inside feel guilty for what you're doing.

Any way, it's the girl who could feel tense or anxious with a new client. If you're anxious then she has to work harder to get you at ease or she won't care and that makes your experience all the less enjoyable.

 

[BofSea]

I don`t get to do this very often (unlike some) so tend to see the same girl as i`d hate to not have a good time with the limited time I have,but even then it is like a first date with all the butterflies in my stomach.