Just wondering what to do. I just received a call from a SP I have seen a couple of times here in Vancouver and for a weekend in Vegas the May long weekend. I wrote about this SP before, as she is part time and only sees one client a week on Saturday night. She just phoned me and asked if I was busy tomorrow, I wasn’t so I said so. I suggested we do the dinner and date thing as we have done in the past, but she said she didn’t want to go out, but would throw some steaks on the grill and we can stay in at her place. Now, I don’t know if this is a date or a session, should I ask her if I should pay her, or would that be insulting? She is a great lady with a great career and like she told me she does escorting more for sthrill than financial reasons, so if any of you ladies read this, what should I do pay her as always, ask her if she wants to be paid or treat it like a date. I am so confused!!
Totally confused
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Far as I'm concerned if she asked you it means leave your bank card at home. This is why gettin involved with SP's as you are is a bad thing, as you can see confusion has already begun. I don't wanna think it but 5 may get you 10 she at the perfect point where you are having a good time and forgot all about any thoughts of money asks you if you can "help her out". Thats when you think to your self "awwwwwwwwww fuck off, I friggen knew it", but you say uhhhhh, ya I guess so.
Now the line is blurred and she will semi dictate when there is free time and not free time.
Well I say assume you don't have to pay, but don't be surprised if in someway you end up paying anyways, and if you don't!!! consider it an evening with someone you wanted to be with more than anyone else.
Now the line is blurred and she will semi dictate when there is free time and not free time.
Well I say assume you don't have to pay, but don't be surprised if in someway you end up paying anyways, and if you don't!!! consider it an evening with someone you wanted to be with more than anyone else.
I think it's an outside of work thing until sex comes up. You don't pay to visit over steaks! However you will have to think of a funny way to say "is this business or pleasure?" but only when it starts going the way your usual sessions go. Maybe she just wants to be-friend you, she might be insulted if you assume?
Although "I suggested we do the dinner and date thing" may have indicated to her that this will be a regular session, in which case are you willing to pay? If it's not in your budget thats fair too, just be true to what you want, if it's a visit with a friend over a home cooked meal, there is no harm in that!
Although "I suggested we do the dinner and date thing" may have indicated to her that this will be a regular session, in which case are you willing to pay? If it's not in your budget thats fair too, just be true to what you want, if it's a visit with a friend over a home cooked meal, there is no harm in that!
Thanks Massagegirl,
I guess this a confusing situation because she is not a SP in the sense that she advertises, etc. I was introduced to her by a colleague and have seen her twice and had such a nice time we went to Vegas for the weekend. I know that she is not in it for the money because she has a professional career that allows her to have a nice lifestyle and she told me that when she turned thirty, she divorced, finished her graduate degree and started to explore her sensual side. We seemed to have hit it off, but I am not ready for a relationship with anybody, just ended a two year relationship and begun to see SPs because it was a safe way to have sex without feelings and expectations and head games getting in the way. When I am in town we e-mail and chat once in a while, and the last e-mail she sent said that she hasn’t seen anybody for a month and was looking forward to my returning. I guess I didn’t think about it too much at the time, but I hope she is not doing this because of me. I like her but want no complications for a while, so I liked the SP-Client dynamic and would hate to hurt her, so that is why I am not sure of what to do.
I guess this a confusing situation because she is not a SP in the sense that she advertises, etc. I was introduced to her by a colleague and have seen her twice and had such a nice time we went to Vegas for the weekend. I know that she is not in it for the money because she has a professional career that allows her to have a nice lifestyle and she told me that when she turned thirty, she divorced, finished her graduate degree and started to explore her sensual side. We seemed to have hit it off, but I am not ready for a relationship with anybody, just ended a two year relationship and begun to see SPs because it was a safe way to have sex without feelings and expectations and head games getting in the way. When I am in town we e-mail and chat once in a while, and the last e-mail she sent said that she hasn’t seen anybody for a month and was looking forward to my returning. I guess I didn’t think about it too much at the time, but I hope she is not doing this because of me. I like her but want no complications for a while, so I liked the SP-Client dynamic and would hate to hurt her, so that is why I am not sure of what to do.
If it's just business and you intend for it to remain just business, cancel and let her know you'll be in touch.
If she wants a relationship other than sp/client, she'll understand that you don't and I'm sure that since you've seen eachother only once that it wouldn't be all that devastating.
If it's business she had in mind.....then why is she contacting you? I'd view that as spam.
Either way it's best that she knows that sp/client is what you have in mind and that this particular arrangement would involve YOU contacting HER.
If she wants a relationship other than sp/client, she'll understand that you don't and I'm sure that since you've seen eachother only once that it wouldn't be all that devastating.
If it's business she had in mind.....then why is she contacting you? I'd view that as spam.
Either way it's best that she knows that sp/client is what you have in mind and that this particular arrangement would involve YOU contacting HER.
Give the nature of the way she wants to run her business, it sounds to me like its business. Her service is the ultimate GFE for a small select clientel. If it wasn't business I think she would have said so. But to be safe, if your interested in the date, bring her fee. If its not business and she truly wants to spend time with you she will turn it down. If you're not interested in that type of relationship with an SP then insist on paying her.
I tend to see it the same way that Hitrack does, I might tuck an envelope full of some colored paper in my pocket to avoid any embarassment just in case, but I too go with the assumption that you've been asked out, not told of an opening in her schedule.
