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It happens all the time that clients ask, but I personally haven't ever agreed to go on a date with a client. I do know of some SPs who have, although I don't think guys should be encouraged to ask out escorts during their appointments. If someone is looking for a girlfriend that's the wrong place to look. Also, many clients are surprised to learn this, but a lot of escorts are not single & so would not even be available to go on a date with someone they met through their job. Many SPs also have a personal policy of not dating clients. I don't think there is anything wrong with politely asking, but some girls would be bothered by it, & if the guy is turned down, he should NOT persist. I have actually had to stop seeing clients due to them continuously asking me out & telling me that they are in love with me etc.
All the time, and I have never accepted. I have one gent who asked me if we could be "friends with benefits" after seeing him for a year. Yeah right! What your really asking is, "Can we work something out so I don't have to pay?"
Yes, it does happen all the time. In the last year I'd have to say about, 14-15 times.
Yes, it does happen all the time. In the last year I'd have to say about, 14-15 times.
I have also had to stop seeing clients due to them continuously saying that they love me etc. Other than that I do have my own no dating clients policy.
What do SP think about the seriousness of these pooners? I know some ask everyone...Others may really be love of their life? I don't know...
I'm with him. Kind of defeats the purpose of seeing an sp.
I think the guys that do ask their sp out have difficulties seperating sex and emotion. Also with fantasy and reality. They believe all of the fantasy that occurs during gfe.
A lot of escorts will go out on a date with a client. It's called a dinner date or lunch date or overnighter, and she is going to have a rate for that.
If you are someone who asks your sp out, she's going to be really uncomfortable having to bring this up. If you ask what is her dinner date rate, you will be much more successful. Then, if she likes you and will go out with you for free, excluding the cost of services, you've got a good deal going on.
I had to put something on my website regarding this subject as I get asked by clients frequently if I will go to dinner, a concert, a game, coffee, drinks and so on with them as friends or as a date. I keep my personal life very separate to that of my work and I do not like blurring those boundaries. I have limited time as it is, and that time I have is for my friends, family, and myself.
Being that you develop somewhat of a friendship with the clients you see regularly it can be difficult for them to understand, and it has certainly made me uncomfortable on numerous occasions.
Being that you develop somewhat of a friendship with the clients you see regularly it can be difficult for them to understand, and it has certainly made me uncomfortable on numerous occasions.
Get a picture of a really big, musclebound guy and keep it in your bag then when you feel the question may come up, have it 'accidentally' slip out and put it back while saying it is a guy you are seeing. That should put them off.
Do I "date" clients for free?
I don't look at a client and think he is not worth knowing out of a session because he is a pooner.
I tend to get charmed easily. Would I date someone I saw? Probably if he wasn't married already lol.
there have been a few occasions in the past where I kind of want to see a client more often so I lower my overnight rates for him...but soon found out this is not a good thing to do...
Like many girls I have been creeped out by the amount of affection one shows....without really knowing me...
Its almost funny that a guy can have sex with me a few times, we get along as client/sp and then soon they say oh I wish we would have met you some other way....or start calling or emailing out of control.
makes me feel guilty for accepting the "unpaid dinner date" or whatever...theres nothing more terrible than feeling like because you laugh at his jokes or enjoy his conversation you might be leading him on...
there is no way that a client should expect that just because you get along that sex should become free!
and then theres the opposite...
One time I met a really cute boy in calgary who was unbelievable in bed...like he was the energizer bunny...kept going and going and going and for some reason I had the biggest crush...lol
He had a little smirk that I couldn't get enough of...it was like an expression of arrogance almost.
I gave him overnighters for an unbelievable cheap rate just so I could fuck him all night... I mention this because sometimes it is the other way around...
a short example...
I hadn't had cum in my mouth since I was a young teenager...yuck.
so I was working in calgary and a client came in my mouth I just about puked. I thought ok fine I didn't tell him the rules so hes forgiven.
The next guy I saw right after him did it too...after I told him I don't offer cim!!!! maybe some of you remember this cuz I put a post saying Im done offering bbbj because of this situation...
so anyways back to the cute client...
I wanted him to want me lol. I knew he was married and I knew he sees so many sp's how could I ever be his favorite sp?!
lol after those two clients did that too me I thought to myself hhhhm boys must really like to cim...
so a few days later I saw him again and I let him Cum in my mouth...and because I fancied him...I didn't mind his junk in my mouth at all...I just spit it down the sink and smiled at the idea of third times the charm lol.
well soon enough the energizer bunny lost interest in me and well thats no surprise lol I probably creeped him out! so thats my example about how an sp could get carried away...Once upon a time I was willing to do whatever he requested or whatever I thought he might enjoy...
what a retard I was. lol.
Ok but then theres the really sincere and healthy sp/client relationship.
I recently expressed that I had a wonderful session not too long ago...well him and I just clicked. so much in common, and conversation just flows, laughter comes easily and I thought I like this guy and we have become friends...
We have created an understanding that he is married and Im his sp. friend.
If he arranges to see me for sex he pays. If I arrange to see him he is my friend (No hankypanky)
we exchange emails often, we share our thoughts feelings, make plans to paint together, have the occasional movie date, share our accomplishments and so on...
ok another little confession...I haven't had a boy sleep over in my bed in like 3 years. I find it so hard to be held because Im so used to sleeping alone.
lol I let him sleep over. I decided its healthy to be cuddled and I felt safe enough to try with him.
ok so it didn't work, I slept on the couch but it was nice to try
I have one more little scenario to tell....It would be damn silly to say YOU SHOULD NEVER DATE A CLIENT!!!
I met a beautiful boy when I worked at BBC...woah thats a long time ago!
we would fuck occasionally when he was in town and for the longest time it was just that...until he convinced me to visit him...and to work in a new city for fun....well it was fun and this was the start of something great.
lol he is also married...jesus I think theres a pattern here...anyways
now this guy I call my superman is one of my favorite secret lovers...he is so solid..sometimes he is there to keep me grounded...sometimes I am there to keep him grounded...
The sex is so good, because we've known each other for a few years and now there is feelings of honest appreciation there...not just empty passion.
Again we do not have sex unless he pays...and we do not interrupt each others lives....I am so grateful I gave us the chance for this healthy bond to have been created.
And this year we have finally decided to travel together to sunny places Ive never been....Yeeehaw
I can understand why an sp wouldn't want to "date" a client...
however I am not the typical sp. I don't have an SO so maybe I have more time to create these kind of friends with benifits...
Right now Im all about money, and knowledge....and friends with benifits...
Once I am done school, and have savings, and have traveled a bit I will be ready for an SO and I do believe things will change drastically...
Life is what you make it right and well even if I put an end to "danika" who said that I can't keep these few friends with benefits for years to come
ok thats enough...lol
Give the boys a chance ladies, u never know they might make u smile.
Just be very clear of what you want!!! Don't be shy to let the ones you have no interest in know that you don't have time for them...
and the ones you think are cute....don't try to impress them lol ....
You can't force friendship but you can shut one out....
and its always a give and take
guess I'm just not jaded. lol.
D.
I don't look at a client and think he is not worth knowing out of a session because he is a pooner.
I tend to get charmed easily. Would I date someone I saw? Probably if he wasn't married already lol.
there have been a few occasions in the past where I kind of want to see a client more often so I lower my overnight rates for him...but soon found out this is not a good thing to do...
Like many girls I have been creeped out by the amount of affection one shows....without really knowing me...
Its almost funny that a guy can have sex with me a few times, we get along as client/sp and then soon they say oh I wish we would have met you some other way....or start calling or emailing out of control.
makes me feel guilty for accepting the "unpaid dinner date" or whatever...theres nothing more terrible than feeling like because you laugh at his jokes or enjoy his conversation you might be leading him on...
there is no way that a client should expect that just because you get along that sex should become free!
and then theres the opposite...
One time I met a really cute boy in calgary who was unbelievable in bed...like he was the energizer bunny...kept going and going and going and for some reason I had the biggest crush...lol
He had a little smirk that I couldn't get enough of...it was like an expression of arrogance almost.
I gave him overnighters for an unbelievable cheap rate just so I could fuck him all night... I mention this because sometimes it is the other way around...
a short example...
I hadn't had cum in my mouth since I was a young teenager...yuck.
so I was working in calgary and a client came in my mouth I just about puked. I thought ok fine I didn't tell him the rules so hes forgiven.
The next guy I saw right after him did it too...after I told him I don't offer cim!!!! maybe some of you remember this cuz I put a post saying Im done offering bbbj because of this situation...
so anyways back to the cute client...
I wanted him to want me lol. I knew he was married and I knew he sees so many sp's how could I ever be his favorite sp?!
lol after those two clients did that too me I thought to myself hhhhm boys must really like to cim...
so a few days later I saw him again and I let him Cum in my mouth...and because I fancied him...I didn't mind his junk in my mouth at all...I just spit it down the sink and smiled at the idea of third times the charm lol.
well soon enough the energizer bunny lost interest in me and well thats no surprise lol I probably creeped him out! so thats my example about how an sp could get carried away...Once upon a time I was willing to do whatever he requested or whatever I thought he might enjoy...
what a retard I was. lol.
Ok but then theres the really sincere and healthy sp/client relationship.
I recently expressed that I had a wonderful session not too long ago...well him and I just clicked. so much in common, and conversation just flows, laughter comes easily and I thought I like this guy and we have become friends...
We have created an understanding that he is married and Im his sp. friend.
If he arranges to see me for sex he pays. If I arrange to see him he is my friend (No hankypanky)
we exchange emails often, we share our thoughts feelings, make plans to paint together, have the occasional movie date, share our accomplishments and so on...
ok another little confession...I haven't had a boy sleep over in my bed in like 3 years. I find it so hard to be held because Im so used to sleeping alone.
lol I let him sleep over. I decided its healthy to be cuddled and I felt safe enough to try with him.
ok so it didn't work, I slept on the couch but it was nice to try
I have one more little scenario to tell....It would be damn silly to say YOU SHOULD NEVER DATE A CLIENT!!!
I met a beautiful boy when I worked at BBC...woah thats a long time ago!
we would fuck occasionally when he was in town and for the longest time it was just that...until he convinced me to visit him...and to work in a new city for fun....well it was fun and this was the start of something great.
lol he is also married...jesus I think theres a pattern here...anyways
now this guy I call my superman is one of my favorite secret lovers...he is so solid..sometimes he is there to keep me grounded...sometimes I am there to keep him grounded...
The sex is so good, because we've known each other for a few years and now there is feelings of honest appreciation there...not just empty passion.
Again we do not have sex unless he pays...and we do not interrupt each others lives....I am so grateful I gave us the chance for this healthy bond to have been created.
And this year we have finally decided to travel together to sunny places Ive never been....Yeeehaw
I can understand why an sp wouldn't want to "date" a client...
however I am not the typical sp. I don't have an SO so maybe I have more time to create these kind of friends with benifits...
Right now Im all about money, and knowledge....and friends with benifits...
Once I am done school, and have savings, and have traveled a bit I will be ready for an SO and I do believe things will change drastically...
Life is what you make it right and well even if I put an end to "danika" who said that I can't keep these few friends with benefits for years to come
ok thats enough...lol
Give the boys a chance ladies, u never know they might make u smile.
Just be very clear of what you want!!! Don't be shy to let the ones you have no interest in know that you don't have time for them...
and the ones you think are cute....don't try to impress them lol ....
You can't force friendship but you can shut one out....
and its always a give and take
guess I'm just not jaded. lol.
D.
Brussel Sprouts do the same thing for me. Cum is something you aquire a taste for.
lol very true...
the first time Vanessa got cim and on her face and kissed me I freaked out...now I can handle it...who knows I might start to like it lol
right now theres only one boys cum I LIKE to taste and thats good enough for me....
Nah Danika
You probably just got infatuated.
Nothing wrong with that, we are all human.
Not retarded to want something more.
Something I wish everyone would realize in this biz is that when you are close with someone, I mean really close, emotions happen. It's no one persons fault. Pooner's and SPs alike. You have to have an ironclad will to think otherwise.
If it's just sex, that's fine. If you get to know someone and feel a connection, that's different for both sides.
People are people. Personally think if you have boundaries and meet someone who is good to be with, you are robbing yourself of something that could be great longterm.
Like your post tho, not so closeminded. Be well.
You probably just got infatuated.
Nothing wrong with that, we are all human.
Not retarded to want something more.
Something I wish everyone would realize in this biz is that when you are close with someone, I mean really close, emotions happen. It's no one persons fault. Pooner's and SPs alike. You have to have an ironclad will to think otherwise.
If it's just sex, that's fine. If you get to know someone and feel a connection, that's different for both sides.
People are people. Personally think if you have boundaries and meet someone who is good to be with, you are robbing yourself of something that could be great longterm.
Like your post tho, not so closeminded. Be well.
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Cum from somebody who has been drinking is aweful. Cum from somebody who drinks cola is sweet.lol very true...
the first time Vanessa got cim and on her face and kissed me I freaked out...now I can handle it...who knows I might start to like it lol
right now theres only one boys cum I LIKE to taste and thats good enough for me....
With some guys even that wouldn't help. Then they start thinking that the fact that you already have a boyfriend is the ONLY reason you won't be their girlfriend & try to figure out a way to eliminate the boyfriend or lure you away somehow.
Even if a guy really does care about an SP & wants more out of the relationship, if she does not feel the same way he should just accept that; pestering her constantly about why she doesn't want to be his girlfriend will only make her not want to see him anymore.
I am curious as to the reasons behind those, such as Athaire, who said they would never date an SP? Is that just because you could be in a relationship with someone who has sex with other men, or is it because you feel like you couldn't have a normal relationship with someone you met that way, or the fear that they wouldn't trust or respect you because you pay for sex... or...?? What about dating someone who is an SP but who you had never been a client of?
