Tips Turned Down

[rt6030]

A couple occasions I tipped at AMPs and my tips were politely returned. Its not like there were too little. Both times the tips were $20. And one time I paid included tipped and the SP told me it was free this time. I insisted to pay and she took the donation but returned the tip. These sessions went well and the weren't any problem.
Has this happened to you guys out there? I'm not Asian so I'm not sure what to do in case this is a cultural thing. I hope this is not a subtle signal I'm not welcomed. I went back after all that and it was business as usual. But I didn't tip anymore. I feel akward because I want to tip for good service. I'm confused if this was a good or bad gesture from house.

 

[lukom]

The difference between the women who work in this field versus those who work in fields where tips are very much needed is that some SP's charge rates where tips are not needed. It's not like a minimum wage barista or server job. I have only been declined a tip by two SP's. One I tipped again on other times, and sometimes she gracefully accepted them and other times she hasn't. The other I never got to see her again. I'd say continue offering tips each time you see an SP, and leave it to her to decide if she want to return it. The greatest tip you can offer an SP is a good attitude, respect, gratitude, and continuing to give her your business, those who decline tips may decline it as a way to see you continue returning. Others may be having a good/busy day and may feel they don't need the extra tips that day.

 

[rt6030]

"The greatest tip you can offer an SP is a good attitude, respect, gratitude, and continuing to give her your business, those who decline tips may decline it as a way to see you continue returning."
My gut feeling tells me this is the case.

Thank you for your perspective, lukom!

 

[angry anderson]

I've had them return the entire donation.They say " No. Really. I should be paying you".

 

[felixthecat]

I went back after all that and it was business as usual. But I didn't tip anymore. I feel awkward because I want to tip for good service.

Don't worry. Repeat business is the best way to show your appreciation, they say, and it's true. I imagine almost any SP would prefer a repeat visit and no tip than a $20 tip and no repeat.

They say " No. Really. I should be paying you".

I've heard that too. It wasn't followed by any attempts to return me the donation, let alone extra. What does that mean? :noidea:

 

[MissingOne]

... I've heard that too. It wasn't followed by any attempts to return me the donation, let alone extra. What does that mean? :noidea:

It probably means she's flattering you, hoping that you will respond by repeating.

Flattery works, or at least it does with me. There's an AMP lady, older and nothing special for looks, who always says very nice things about me when I visit her. It works like a charm; I keep repeating. I know she's nice to me because it's her job to be nice, but she does her job well, and so I respond.

 

[lukom]

It probably means she's flattering you, hoping that you will respond by repeating.

Flattery works, or at least it does with me. There's an AMP lady, older and nothing special for looks, who always says very nice things about me when I visit her. It works like a charm; I keep repeating. I know she's nice to me because it's her job to be nice, but she does her job well, and so I respond.

I'd rather have someone closer to my age who has a natural look and is into me, than an instagram model type who hates her job in this field.

 

[Crookedmember]

I used to have a problem with the girls turning my tip down, but that was before I got circumcised.

 

[KinkyKatey]

I used to have a problem with the girls turning my tip down, but that was before I got circumcised.

Bahaha, well played.

Xo
Katey

 

[nwtl]

Flattery works, or at least it does with me. There's an AMP lady, older and nothing special for looks, who always says very nice things about me when I visit her. It works like a charm; I keep repeating. I know she's nice to me because it's her job to be nice, but she does her job well, and so I respond.

This is very well said.

 

[happycanuck99]

I once had a great session with a lovely Asian lady (working through an AMP). I'd given her the donation before the session. After the session, as I was on my way out, I reached for my wallet to try to tip her. She quite forcefully (not in any kind of negative way) turned it down, making it clear it was unnecessary. I tried more than once, but she insisted. To be quite honest, my appreciation of her increased considerably. However, that's only a one-time experience so far.