I agree. I wouldnt be the man I am today if not for the woman by my side, encouraging me, affirming me, reproving me and loving me. She gives me reason to be better or the best I can be.
Tips for Self-Improvement
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Ok.... I'm stuck in a dilemma of sorts.... so here goes....
I've been meeting up with a few girls, but each and every time, nothing ever comes from it. Meanwhile looking back, it all seemed like missed opportunities.
Using the most recent example, I met a good looking girl, had coffee. We chatted a bit, about random stuff mostly. Throughout the conversation, she was constantly playing with her hair, her earrings, taking off her coat and revealing a very nice top.... and for some reason I didn't notice or acted upon it until it was too late.
Now I'm trying to analyze what I did wrong. My girl buddies has already been telling me that one of my biggest problem is flirting... that I do it unconsciously. Other friends tell me that they hate guys who are "laying it on thick" and being like horndogs.
So now, I always speak as neutral as possible, without any hint of indication that I'm only interested in them physically, and to be respectful as possible.
Or maybe my barrier is the situation I'm in.... student, only part-time job..... and I use that to subconsciously ruin myself. "I'm JUST a student. I DON'T have a career job" etc.
Now I'm starting to wonder how I even had relationships in the past....
Am I just doing everything wrong? Or am I just hitting a patch of bad luck?
I've been meeting up with a few girls, but each and every time, nothing ever comes from it. Meanwhile looking back, it all seemed like missed opportunities.
Using the most recent example, I met a good looking girl, had coffee. We chatted a bit, about random stuff mostly. Throughout the conversation, she was constantly playing with her hair, her earrings, taking off her coat and revealing a very nice top
.... and for some reason I didn't notice or acted upon it until it was too late. Now I'm trying to analyze what I did wrong. My girl buddies has already been telling me that one of my biggest problem is flirting... that I do it unconsciously. Other friends tell me that they hate guys who are "laying it on thick" and being like horndogs.
So now, I always speak as neutral as possible, without any hint of indication that I'm only interested in them physically, and to be respectful as possible.
Or maybe my barrier is the situation I'm in.... student, only part-time job..... and I use that to subconsciously ruin myself. "I'm JUST a student. I DON'T have a career job" etc.
Now I'm starting to wonder how I even had relationships in the past....
Am I just doing everything wrong? Or am I just hitting a patch of bad luck?
Smile be happy things will come to you when you do such a simple thing.
On a more serious note I found that most people have social anxiaty due to fear of rejection. Look you don't always have to sleep with anything that has a pulse two legs and lacks a penis. Conversations and interactions with the opposite sex doesn't have to result in the final primal goal that's in the back of your head. If things work out your happy in your pants, if they don't you just had an engaging conversation and time with somebody that happen to lack a penis.
Another radical concept that works for some but not for many would to be blunt to the point where it could be borderline offensive but you do it with a sarcastic wit. You're happier cause your no longer lying to yourself about the situation. People get confused by the fact that you're such an ass. Yet when doing so you project this sense of confidence that seems strangely appealing. Hence the entire concept of women liking "bad" men holds some weight as you may notice it's the ass's in the world that have more fun. It's all due to the fact they lifted the burden of dancing around touchy subjects and are easier to understand. Lets be realistic who would you respect more the person that states their objectives and goals in a meeting vs some idiot that dances around a subject and talks in circles. Social interaction in everyday life could be viewed as such so give that a try. Though do attempt such things in small portions at first with someone that knows you. There is a very fine line between witty and hated asshole.
On a more serious note I found that most people have social anxiaty due to fear of rejection. Look you don't always have to sleep with anything that has a pulse two legs and lacks a penis. Conversations and interactions with the opposite sex doesn't have to result in the final primal goal that's in the back of your head. If things work out your happy in your pants, if they don't you just had an engaging conversation and time with somebody that happen to lack a penis.
Another radical concept that works for some but not for many would to be blunt to the point where it could be borderline offensive but you do it with a sarcastic wit. You're happier cause your no longer lying to yourself about the situation. People get confused by the fact that you're such an ass. Yet when doing so you project this sense of confidence that seems strangely appealing. Hence the entire concept of women liking "bad" men holds some weight as you may notice it's the ass's in the world that have more fun. It's all due to the fact they lifted the burden of dancing around touchy subjects and are easier to understand. Lets be realistic who would you respect more the person that states their objectives and goals in a meeting vs some idiot that dances around a subject and talks in circles. Social interaction in everyday life could be viewed as such so give that a try. Though do attempt such things in small portions at first with someone that knows you. There is a very fine line between witty and hated asshole.
