I am relatively young. 24 years old, I am financially stable and indulge in this hobby once in like 4 months, I have quit this hobby for longer periods such as 8-9 months in the past. However, I have decided I want to go leave this for good since i have been indulging this hobby since 4 years, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
Tips for going Cold Turkey
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Delete your account here and yolo a couple leolist ads....that should do it
I guess the reasons for stopping would be relevant. If you have met someone special and don’t require these services then it should be easy to quit, delete this account and don’t look back.
If you’re depressed because you’ve fallen for a provider which is really easy to do then it will be hard to not see that person, again and again hoping for something that will never happen.
I told a provider she caused me to feel emotions, but I know this is just a business but damn sometimes it feels real.
So the why relates to the how, but deleting perb and never looking at leolist would be a start, but it is definitely addictive.
I feel like stopping all the time, but mostly from shame, guilt, feelings of ineptitude, and those dang emotions.
There should almost be a perb support group for those that have gone to far down the rabbit hole.
Anyway I wish you the best of luck and think of all the money you’ll save. Like a lot. Invest it!
Dude good for you, I tried often over the past, more than a decade now. Usually saw around 2-4 a year so not a lot, but some years saw more or the top ones several times. Still it's such a an expensive habit so better to work on yourself and find a civvie, in fact just focus on your health, hobbies and friends, that is the best distraction to keep this at bay, keeping busy doing things you enjoy with people you enjoy. Quit porn too it just makes you crave getting it wet. If you're decent looking use tinder to hook up or crawl the seedy bars like tonics at 1pm lol a few loose girls go to those kind of places. Good luck man
I mean I do not have a concrete reason to leave tbh. I have not met someone yet, However I have never fallen for a provider although there are some providers whom I like more than the others. I was indulging in this habit more often back when I was in Kelowna although that has dropped significanly from 1-2 twice a month to once in like 8 months. I never had an issue with the habit cause I was at least enjoying it at the time. The only thing that has changed is that now I am back home where they do not offer gfe and still charge a lot, hence indulging once even in a 8-9 months does not feel good afterwards. So yeah that is my reason. That's a good enough reason to leave permanently?
I mean I am quite focused on work and fitness. In decent shape, starting to get my finances on track as well. Friendships become very draining after a while cause drinking is not exactly my thing as I like fitness too much. So yeah wondering what to do on a weekend when other factors are accounted for is a confusing situation, because what do you even look forward to on the weekend then? You mean 1PM or AM for Tonics?
Ya. Why are you paying hundreds of dollars for something youre not enjoying?
It sounds like youre bored and this is just something to do to pass the time. Especially if its with a pretty girl.
Usually a full evaluation of why you’d feel the need to partake again, and finding something that eases the reason for return is beneficial. I hope that journey goes well.
This sounds more like a symptom of something else going on for you. Try and find a decent counsellor and get a handle on what's good in your life and what's missing.
It doesn't seem like seeing an SP once in a while is really an issue, but it seems that way for you. That should be telling you something about you and what's going on (or not going on) in your life.
It doesn't seem like seeing an SP once in a while is really an issue, but it seems that way for you. That should be telling you something about you and what's going on (or not going on) in your life.
There's some good points in the thread for you to reflect on. There's no shame in seeing providers (despite what society makes us feel), but if it's not bringing you joy, and even has become a negative in your life it could be time for change.
In terms of quitting anything cold turkey my recommendation is to make it hard for yourself to automatically reach for something that has become a habit, and importantly, to fill that space in your life with something else. Deleting your accounts, deleting provider numbers, clearing your browser history/favourites, etc. are all things that can make you pause. And in that pause, actively choose a different activity. If you are already into fitness, maybe a sport or something like rock climbing, mountain biking, kayaking. These are things that would fill time, take energy (and money), and also hopefully allow you to meet some friends who are into the same activities! Not everyone is just into drinking in free time, but you won't find the people who aren't at the bar. Those people are out doing things! Best of luck ❤
In terms of quitting anything cold turkey my recommendation is to make it hard for yourself to automatically reach for something that has become a habit, and importantly, to fill that space in your life with something else. Deleting your accounts, deleting provider numbers, clearing your browser history/favourites, etc. are all things that can make you pause. And in that pause, actively choose a different activity. If you are already into fitness, maybe a sport or something like rock climbing, mountain biking, kayaking. These are things that would fill time, take energy (and money), and also hopefully allow you to meet some friends who are into the same activities! Not everyone is just into drinking in free time, but you won't find the people who aren't at the bar. Those people are out doing things! Best of luck ❤
I mean I have gotten financially stable quite recently. So maybe I have realised the value of money. Nevertheless the most important point is back where I am at we do not have GFE, so yeah that certainly results in detaching me from the fun which I used to get from the experience. What you are saying is right, thank you for the advice!
Thanks a lot for the advice,
Yeah this is true. I used to enjoy the habit a lot. Ofc the main reason for not enjoying it is not finding GFE services and just starting to get financially independent as well. Thank you for the advice, guess I should not have started a such an early age lmao.
Have sex with non escorts, its easy to find woman who are more attractive than 99% of escorts, especially at your age,
Seeing escorts regularily also makes your worse at talking to and wheeling civilian woman, so think about that as well.
You can also download this app onto your phone or laptop called "self control" it allows you to block yourself from viewing any website you want. Block yourself from viewing Tryst, Leolist and even this site,
Seeing escorts regularily also makes your worse at talking to and wheeling civilian woman, so think about that as well.
You can also download this app onto your phone or laptop called "self control" it allows you to block yourself from viewing any website you want. Block yourself from viewing Tryst, Leolist and even this site,
It is not a compusive habbit where a trigger makes me want to act out, so I don't need to block anything. Thank you for the tip though, I will certainly keep that in mind. Yeah I disagree with the fact that non escorts are more attractive than escorts lmaoo, but I get where you're coming from.
Sounds like you're living in the wrong area and surrounding yourself with the wrong people then
Pumped and Mckennalees’ answers felt pretty on point to me. As an aside, it can become an addictive behaviour so counselling is a good plan if you feel it slipping down that road. If you have any sort of extended health plan, counselling is usually covered.
