tipping

[thornbobber]

After a great session I like to show my appreciation but find it awakward passing her a couple of greens or a red. Am I alone on this or do any of you feel the same awkwardness? Is their any etiquette that makes tipping easier? There are a few ladies out their that are so good at GFE that it is embarassing trying to give them a gratuity. The real genuine ones even try to refuse (might sound odd but has happend). Whats worse is, the better the session, the tougher it gets.
Would appreciate any input, ideas, or experiences you might have including from any ladies.
Got one more question, What the hell does "TOFFT" stand for, it is not on any of the abbreviation lists I have found. LOL I'm sure, but thankx.

 

[alongcamejohn]

Don't hand it directly to the lady, just discreetly leave on a table or nightstand.

TOFTT= take one for the team

 

[A.U.D.R.E.Y]

What about a thank you card?. Its discreet, yet personal & doesn't always imply that there is a tip inside.

That's been my most common experience apart from flowers or wine.

 

[CanadianRocky]

I have an envelope with a tip in it ready before she comes. That way I can decide if she warrants it or not. And also, as it is in an evelope it takes away any awkwardsness. I have even had different amounts in different envolopes.

Some I even have the tip in the envelope with the negotiated fee. I tell them this upfront. This is with women who I have a history with and know pretty much what the session will be like before it happens. Does the tip motivate them to go the extra mile? I doubt it, but it does show that you respect them for their chossen profession. Mia comes to mind. The last time i was with her I booked two hours ($400) plus an extra ($100). I put $600 in an envelope and left it on the desk. When she came in I told her there was $600 in the envelope. True to Mia's classiness she did not take the envelope and disapear into the bathroom. At the end of the session I had to go get the envelope and give it to her. She did not even open it and put it directly into her purse. She is one class act.

Something you have to remember though. It may be awkward for you, but it is not for them. They may have a great time with you and actually like you, but it is about the money.

TOFTT means Take One For The Team. You go out with a new SP that has no track record and no reports written on them.

 

[thornbobber]

Thanks CR, Audrey, and others. good sugestions. It is a class act that I,m referring to, so I will follow the sugestion to include the tip in with the donation envelope. As I have a history with the lady. I do wine and flowers on occasion but don't use it as a replacement for a tip. As CR mentioned, in the end the reality is that it's about the money. In my case the GFE is so awsome I tend to forget about the money. Probably the way it should be.

 

[athaire]

Thanks CR, Audrey, and others. good sugestions. It is a class act that I,m referring to, so I will follow the sugestion to include the tip in with the donation envelope. As I have a history with the lady. I do wine and flowers on occasion but don't use it as a replacement for a tip. As CR mentioned, in the end the reality is that it's about the money. In my case the GFE is so awsome I tend to forget about the money. Probably the way it should be.

If you didn't lose yourself in the experiance and momentarily forget it wouldn't be a true GFE......

 

[planetsmurf]

i always tip before the session by bringing extra money and when they say i will grab your change i always decline. i think that its a good start to the session and you don't have any awkardness at the end of the session

 

[athaire]

i always tip before the session by bringing extra money and when they say i will grab your change i always decline. i think that its a good start to the session and you don't have any awkardness at the end of the session

Wow I've never had one offer to grab change........I tip on occasion but prefer to gift. Feels better to me but I have done both with some gals......

 

[busytigger]

Yep

This is what I do - bring two envelopes, and present the second at the end of the time as a thank you.

I like the idea of a gift, but would want it to be something of value. I have done a gift card for the expected tip amount when I knew where the SP liked to shop, but normally if I bring a gift it is small and is a way to get the appointment off on the right foot - it doesn't replace the tip.

-tigger

I have an envelope with a tip in it ready before she comes. That way I can decide if she warrants it or not. And also, as it is in an evelope it takes away any awkwardsness. I have even had different amounts in different envolopes.

Something you have to remember though. It may be awkward for you, but it is not for them. They may have a great time with you and actually like you, but it is about the money.

 

[sidewinder]

Tipping

........I tip on occasion but prefer to gift. ......

I tend to add a substantial tip with the donation, plus, plus, plus...For instance, our usual session @ SU is two hours. (No Greek, nothing kinky enough to require extra) That's $360.00 I routinely round that off to $400.00 I also bring and leave a fresh bottle of flavoured lube, (THAT shows consideration!) a couple of music CD's and nearly always pack some kind of exotic lunch, and make sure there's enough of that so that V. can offer something nice to one or more of her co-workers or whatever afterwards.

The last one was a BIIIIIIIG hit. cream cheese and lox (!) Sushi rolls from the Fairway's Market on Hillside Asian take-out counter...Starbuck's iced frappucino, and a box of 4 very lucious strawberry tarts. And when she left the room to do "the split" I insisted that the phone lady be the one to open the box and take the first one.

Look, it's a relationship. And relationships like this often involve some kind of ceremony and/or ritual. That's what I like anyway....

Let's see, we've done a gift certificates for lingerie, Thai massage, , and some other bits and pieces, but you get the idea.

With any luck, V. may just one day take me up on the best tip I've ever offered anyone...an all expenses paid trip (including shopping) and not to Langford either!

Call me old-fashioned, but I really enjoy seeing folks who are REALLY happy to see me too!!

 

[miss meiko]

Tipping...

Since, I don't work anymore, so I say it as it is.

Tipping money is way better than presenting gift. No matter what they said on their web sites about tipping or giving gifts.

These are the reasons why:

(Note; Most of the time...not always, but...)

1. Not every girl can bring home flowers.

2. Chocolate is not always a good idea, especially low quality chocalate. I saw tons of chocalate that people left behind for over the years...wasting money!!

3. Lingerie from clients are usually unwearable. Speak from personal experience!!

4. Alcoholic baverage is okay, as long as they are expensive or unique...trust me on this one!

5. Cards...yes they go straight to the bin. Do people want to keep cards from clients which was written to their fake names? No
(In some cases, they didn't even bother to open them!)

6. Gift certificate is not a bad idea.

Many SPs are single moms, poor students and some are just really good girls who want to get a head, so tipping money is always the best. If they are drug addict and so on, don't worry about that...

I know,not many people will agree with me on this. But I have been in this business for a loooooooong time. So, it is what it is, sorry!

 

[sidewinder]

Meiko Makes some very good points...

Tipping money is way better than presenting gift.

Very important that whatever your gifts or tips, it doesn't create a problem for the receiver. ie: a stuffed toy.

How the heck is somebody supposed to bring something like that home, where they may have another relationship on the go?

 

[sidewinder]

I'd like to add something...

With any luck, V. may just one day take me up on the best tip I've ever offered anyone...an all expenses paid trip (including shopping) and not to Langford either!

Actually, I'd like to change the above remarks to reflect the fact that if possible, the trip would be either to my favourite beach in Mexico, or to Paris, France. And finances permitting, it would be a team thing....the three of us...Me, Violet and Seven.

Stranger things have happened!!!