So your piece of paper means that everything said here about love, neglect, longing, desire and so on is meaningless? Perhaps you'd care to actually contribute some of your undoubtedly vast knowledge so us uneducated types might worship at the alter. If you actually make your living with said Masters degree, I'd be very interested in what % of your clients are still in therapy after 3 months.
Time to pause and consider where I've been and where I am going with this hobby
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Boardwalk, I've been in a relationship with the same lady now for about 5 years, it's kind of an SD-SB relationship but it's a bit different. I help her out when I can, usually give her about $1000-1500/mo and she sees me when she can. Often I just put it straight into her bank account.
So it's a very informal arrangement. When we do see each other, which is a couple times a month, we don't have a time limit per se, it's more like I have to be here at a certain time and she has to be there. So we generally meet for a couple of hours at a time and the get togethers are very initimate. Giving her an hour long butt massage is the norm, and there's a lot of careassing etc. Over the years, I've gotten to know what she likes and I get a thrill out of performing these activities on her.
In terms of what we know about each other, it's damn near everything. We've know each others names for years. I know her daughter's name, her b-date. But over the years, we've had some very rocky moments. She even defriended me on her facebook account, and I could probably right a decent book on the whole experience.
Anyway, I was going to PM you rather than post this, but either your box is full or you don't accept PM's. Eitherway that's my experience going down the SD-SB relationship with one individual. It's a funny relationship because even though there's money involved if it's the only person each is seeing, it's very intimate on a number of levels.
I'm just beginning to realize that we're probably in a co-dependant relationship, whereby we simply want/need certain things in live and we choose to get them from each other.
As for the cost of this venture, I personally don't give it a second thought. I'm just glad to be so connected with someone so attractive and sexy that my world gets rocked everytime we meet and if helping her out with her bills is the price for that..it's something I'm glad to do. In fact, I'm probably in the minority but I actually enjoy helping her.
Btw, I don't think the key to this type of relationship is money, rather I think the key is having mutual respect for each other and mutually agreed on borders.
So it's a very informal arrangement. When we do see each other, which is a couple times a month, we don't have a time limit per se, it's more like I have to be here at a certain time and she has to be there. So we generally meet for a couple of hours at a time and the get togethers are very initimate. Giving her an hour long butt massage is the norm, and there's a lot of careassing etc. Over the years, I've gotten to know what she likes and I get a thrill out of performing these activities on her.
In terms of what we know about each other, it's damn near everything. We've know each others names for years. I know her daughter's name, her b-date. But over the years, we've had some very rocky moments. She even defriended me on her facebook account, and I could probably right a decent book on the whole experience.
Anyway, I was going to PM you rather than post this, but either your box is full or you don't accept PM's. Eitherway that's my experience going down the SD-SB relationship with one individual. It's a funny relationship because even though there's money involved if it's the only person each is seeing, it's very intimate on a number of levels.
I'm just beginning to realize that we're probably in a co-dependant relationship, whereby we simply want/need certain things in live and we choose to get them from each other.
As for the cost of this venture, I personally don't give it a second thought. I'm just glad to be so connected with someone so attractive and sexy that my world gets rocked everytime we meet and if helping her out with her bills is the price for that..it's something I'm glad to do. In fact, I'm probably in the minority but I actually enjoy helping her.
Btw, I don't think the key to this type of relationship is money, rather I think the key is having mutual respect for each other and mutually agreed on borders.
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This whole topic is very complex. There's someone close to me that's been at the hobby for about twenty years and really has a blast doing it. Spends, on average, a happy hun or so, per month so maybe...twenty-four to thirty thousand dollars over the two decades. Has provided above and beyond the norm for the family over the years so everything seems to be in balance. He has asked me about going to sex addicts but he lives in a reasonably small town and doesn't want to blow, no pun intended, his cover. He used to have another male friend or two that enjoyed the hobby such that they'd have a blast comparing notes but they've long since retired and it's not as fun for him anymore without others to share war stories with. As this note began...it's a very complex topic....
Questions for you:
1) Are you attached?
2) Does she know your real name, where you work, etc?
3) Do you LK, LFK or DFK?
4) DATY - protected or unprotected?
1) Are you attached?
2) Does she know your real name, where you work, etc?
3) Do you LK, LFK or DFK?
4) DATY - protected or unprotected?
sevenofnine
That is an excellent post!
Made me sit back and think a bit about it.
I also do not think of my regular SP as a whore. She is a person, in fact a very nice person who has made me feel a lot better about myself. She has given a lot to me in the past three or so months.
I would like to spend more time with her but I do not want to infringe nor cross boundaries.
Hanging out, texting and the occasional phone calls outside of 'business' are all good.
Questions for you:
1) Are you attached?
2) Does she know your real name, where you work, etc?
3) Do you LK, LFK or DFK?
4) DATY - protected or unprotected?
1) Are you attached?
2) Does she know your real name, where you work, etc?
3) Do you LK, LFK or DFK?
4) DATY - protected or unprotected?
i think there is no right or wrong way to look at things.
myself personally i believe if you want or need something bad enough just go ahead and do it.
as long as well your ok and understands the reasons why you need to do something,
and worry about it all latter
as far as this hobby goes,
i was in a sexless marriage, i needed to feel something sexually.
my fault i guess, my father was a convicted sex offender so most of my life i was confused with this thing we call sex didn't understand it all, i picked a girl to marry who was as non sexual as possible
not her fault just the way she is,
mine problem well i needed more,
im comfortable with this hobby.
i have seen over twenty girls,
but only repeated with two, they became close friends.
still see one,
have seen her for years and years.
this hobby is many many things and i think alot of stuff has been written about why we trade sex for money
um
when i started this i had big fantasies about all the sex i would have and doing everything i could possible imagine to each and every lady i saw.
she to put it bluntly was just a whore.
now i pay her, for sex,
but i try to make it as mutal as possible.
it has to work and be comfortable for both of us, is what im saying,
i pay her a hell of alot of money and spend a nice long evening with her, supper and drinks before we move to her bedroom and well some guy she picks up of craigs list on the cheap gets more out of her then i do,
but i don't see her as a whore
to me she is not a whore at all
she is my friend. and we have talked about being friends for ever, and even sociliazed out side of this not alot because we both have full lives
i guess what im saying trying to say
is follow your feelings. be honest and follow them
and everything will come to you.
you have to trust yourself and do what you feel is right
and you can only be responsible for yourself
Over the years I have looked for different things from my hobby.... at first it was variety, then it was unique activities (threesomes, toys, etc), now I think I am looking for a more exciting intimacy than I have with my wife. We lead a hectic life, she is going through menopause and we are more friends than lovers. Don't get me wrong - we go at it and we go down on each other, but not the same level of excitement. We used to do it in public (in the water at the beach and stuff like that) - she wouldn't even think of doing that now.
This new lady makes me feel real good about myself. We have fun and laugh and talk - and the sex is mind blowing. She is significantly younger than me, a mother andhappily married. I know her kids name (not her hubbies) and I know all of their ages. We share pictures and stories about our SO and kids. At times it seems a little wierd, but mostly it is okay. As a long time pooner I have always been very careful about protecting my identity - somehow with her I let down my guard - but I am okay with it. As I was driving to the bank earlier today I was thinking about some of the posts that have been in this thread and others that I have posted to (about how much you share with a regular SP, would you ever take her to your house, etc.) I was also thinking about Tiger Woods, Brett Favre and me. First off they have more money (lol). The question some have posed is why would someone who seems to have so much risk it. The answer I think is because they can! Even if they loose half, they are still quite comfortable - thank you very much. In my case I could afford it financially, but I couldn't take the public humiliation. You only live once though. I am going to make the most of it and as the TV commercial says - I would rather regret the things I did than the things I didn't do.
In the case of Tiger, his wife was young and she didn't like him running around.
In the case of Favre, I haven't heard anything about a public out cry (like with Woods) and I haven't heard about him and the Mrs. splitting. I think certain women are okay with it as long as she and the kids get everything they need.
On more than one occassion, when I was coming onto my wife, she said no and followed it up with - "Do whatever you have to do to satisfy yourself". I think she means go jerk off, but maybe, just maybe she means go get it somewhere else - just look after me and the kids. Anyway, that is the way I am taking it.
Appreciate all the past feedback and look forward to more.
This new lady makes me feel real good about myself. We have fun and laugh and talk - and the sex is mind blowing. She is significantly younger than me, a mother andhappily married. I know her kids name (not her hubbies) and I know all of their ages. We share pictures and stories about our SO and kids. At times it seems a little wierd, but mostly it is okay. As a long time pooner I have always been very careful about protecting my identity - somehow with her I let down my guard - but I am okay with it. As I was driving to the bank earlier today I was thinking about some of the posts that have been in this thread and others that I have posted to (about how much you share with a regular SP, would you ever take her to your house, etc.) I was also thinking about Tiger Woods, Brett Favre and me. First off they have more money (lol). The question some have posed is why would someone who seems to have so much risk it. The answer I think is because they can! Even if they loose half, they are still quite comfortable - thank you very much. In my case I could afford it financially, but I couldn't take the public humiliation. You only live once though. I am going to make the most of it and as the TV commercial says - I would rather regret the things I did than the things I didn't do.
In the case of Tiger, his wife was young and she didn't like him running around.
In the case of Favre, I haven't heard anything about a public out cry (like with Woods) and I haven't heard about him and the Mrs. splitting. I think certain women are okay with it as long as she and the kids get everything they need.
On more than one occassion, when I was coming onto my wife, she said no and followed it up with - "Do whatever you have to do to satisfy yourself". I think she means go jerk off, but maybe, just maybe she means go get it somewhere else - just look after me and the kids. Anyway, that is the way I am taking it.
Appreciate all the past feedback and look forward to more.
