This is Nadia - Posting the truth

[Isabella_Van]

First off, I apologize for not posting sooner. My phone and internet access were cut off, and I've also been dealing with various officials.

The rapes that I described did not happen.

I WAS sexually and physically assaulted on the 15th of January. It was NOT at my home. I do have switchblade cuts on my breasts, inner thigh, in my vagina, and various bruises. All this was recorded at VGH earlier this week. I was and still am in pain and not able to work, and everything I said about my financial situation was true. He did take all of my money as I was on my way to the bank after that appointment. This has now been reported to the police.

Why didn't I report it right away? I was ashamed, embarassed, and frustrated. I HAD been really sick in December and early January, and had bills owing, and to have that taken and have to start over was too much. Dealing with the police would have taken too much time, I thought.

I had been having problems with how some men treat women for a while now. Abusive men. I was sitting at home and just getting angrier and angrier and ANGRIER at men who hurt women. I know so many women and have heard so many stories but many women hide it.

I really wanted to sit up and make people notice and raise awareness. People asked why I posted it at all, the reason is because it AFFECTS us all. So in my head it made sense to make it as graphic as possible so that women WOULD be more careful. Just because my assault wasn't as graphic as those I posted, it can and does happen. Other women have said they experienced similar things to what I posted. My motives really were positive, it had nothing to do with getting as much money as I could.

I was in shock, not thinking straight, and should have posted the truth instead of embellishing it. And then it just took on a life of it's own and snowballed....and I didn't know what to do. I do suffer from depression and the assault just triggered all these emotions.

I am so very very sorry for the hurt I caused people. I will live with the guilt for the rest of my life. Most of you won't believe I was assaulted at all, but I will post THAT police report if you want me to.

I have dealt with the police and the case is closed.

I received approximately $3000, which went for food, rent, car payment etc.
I will pay it back those who wish me to when I can, I am not going to be in this industry anymore as I realized it is too damaging to my psyche, so I'll be looking for a regular job. Email me at nadia_callandras@hotmail.com and tell me what you'd like me to do. I have always said I would pay people back however I could.

I am not a drug addict. I have a prescription for painkillers for chronic pain. I also have Major Anxiety Disorder, so I take sedatives when I get panicky.

I do not have have a boyfriend, never mind an abusive one, or drug dealers looking for payback.

My child is NEVER present when I am working. I work on the weeks she is with her father. We share 50/50 custody. I would never expose her to what I do. I love my child with every fibre of my being. She is my world. I would do anything to make sure she is happy and secure. Every client I see in my place is either someone I know very well, or I know their board names. Anyone else I rent a hotel room. And as far as painkillers/sedatives, I go without them or a very low dose so as to not interfere with my parenting.

To the person who reported me to child services, I ask that you rescind that call. You reported that I am a drug addict and that I have my child present during sessions. Both are completely untrue and have resulted in my daughter's life being completely disrupted. I am not even allowed to SEE her. No matter what you think of me, do not drag a child into this. She needs her mother. She cries on the phone every time because she misses me and doesn't understand why she can't see me. These accusations will be proven to be untrue, but the for 2 months or so they do their investigation, my daughter's life is being destroyed.

As far as security in my apartment, there were 2 windows that didn't lock properly, I had these silver things that screwed into the wall, but didn't realize they didn't work properly. The entire apartment has now been secured. Isabelle did not have to insist I get security, I've been bugging them for months. As for the "grounding and using sage to clear the air" I was not saying that would be for security, I told Isabelle I was doing it to clear bad ENERGY.

To Isabelle, I will be emailing you privately but I owe you a huge apology. I am so sorry I dragged you into this. You are a beautiful, wonderful, caring person.

Again, all I can say is how very sorry I am, I was in shock, I was desperate, and I know that's no excuse but it is an explanation.

I am sorry.

 

[Ghostwheel1969]

Nadia

First off, I apologize for not posting sooner. My phone and internet access were cut off, and I've also been dealing with various officials.

The rapes that I described did not happen.

I WAS sexually and physically assaulted on the 15th of January. It was NOT at my home. I do have switchblade cuts on my breasts, inner thigh, in my vagina, and various bruises. All this was recorded at VGH earlier this week. I was and still am in pain and not able to work, and everything I said about my financial situation was true. He did take all of my money as I was on my way to the bank after that appointment. This has now been reported to the police.

Why didn't I report it right away? I was ashamed, embarassed, and frustrated. I HAD been really sick in December and early January, and had bills owing, and to have that taken and have to start over was too much. Dealing with the police would have taken too much time, I thought.

I had been having problems with how some men treat women for a while now. Abusive men. I was sitting at home and just getting angrier and angrier and ANGRIER at men who hurt women. I know so many women and have heard so many stories but many women hide it.

I really wanted to sit up and make people notice and raise awareness. People asked why I posted it at all, the reason is because it AFFECTS us all. So in my head it made sense to make it as graphic as possible so that women WOULD be more careful. Just because my assault wasn't as graphic as those I posted, it can and does happen. Other women have said they experienced similar things to what I posted. My motives really were positive, it had nothing to do with getting as much money as I could.

I was in shock, not thinking straight, and should have posted the truth instead of embellishing it. And then it just took on a life of it's own and snowballed....and I didn't know what to do. I do suffer from depression and the assault just triggered all these emotions.

I am so very very sorry for the hurt I caused people. I will live with the guilt for the rest of my life. Most of you won't believe I was assaulted at all, but I will post THAT police report if you want me to.

I have dealt with the police and the case is closed.

I received approximately $3000, which went for food, rent, car payment etc.
I will pay it back those who wish me to when I can, I am not going to be in this industry anymore as I realized it is too damaging to my psyche, so I'll be looking for a regular job. Email me at nadia_callandras@hotmail.com and tell me what you'd like me to do. I have always said I would pay people back however I could.

I am not a drug addict. I have a prescription for painkillers for chronic pain. I also have Major Anxiety Disorder, so I take sedatives when I get panicky.

I do not have have a boyfriend, never mind an abusive one, or drug dealers looking for payback.

My child is NEVER present when I am working. I work on the weeks she is with her father. We share 50/50 custody. I would never expose her to what I do. I love my child with every fibre of my being. She is my world. I would do anything to make sure she is happy and secure. Every client I see in my place is either someone I know very well, or I know their board names. Anyone else I rent a hotel room. And as far as painkillers/sedatives, I go without them or a very low dose so as to not interfere with my parenting.

To the person who reported me to child services, I ask that you rescind that call. You reported that I am a drug addict and that I have my child present during sessions. Both are completely untrue and have resulted in my daughter's life being completely disrupted. I am not even allowed to SEE her. No matter what you think of me, do not drag a child into this. She needs her mother. She cries on the phone every time because she misses me and doesn't understand why she can't see me. These accusations will be proven to be untrue, but the for 2 months or so they do their investigation, my daughter's life is being destroyed.

As far as security in my apartment, there were 2 windows that didn't lock properly, I had these silver things that screwed into the wall, but didn't realize they didn't work properly. The entire apartment has now been secured. Isabelle did not have to insist I get security, I've been bugging them for months. As for the "grounding and using sage to clear the air" I was not saying that would be for security, I told Isabelle I was doing it to clear bad ENERGY.

To Isabelle, I will be emailing you privately but I owe you a huge apology. I am so sorry I dragged you into this. You are a beautiful, wonderful, caring person.

Again, all I can say is how very sorry I am, I was in shock, I was desperate, and I know that's no excuse but it is an explanation.

I am sorry.

What you did was wrong. You know that. You put a lot of people into jeproady, and jeprodized our communal haven here.

I'm not going to speak to specific people here, those that you injured. You of all people know who they are... those that sacrificed, those that suffered, those that were contacted by the authorities time and again following up your story. There were many who were moved, frightened, and angered by your messages. I'm one of them. I went through several different levels of pain due to what you posted. I wasn't even close to being the worst affected by it. Think of that.

I understand that you suffer some ailments. In all concience, please do yourself and all of us a favour, and please get some help for yourself. I, if not we, understand the circumstance to an extent, but it's not over. There are other people involved: family, friends and community. Please do the responsible thing, and create an environment for yourself that's safe.

I'm speaking for myself now: I don't forgive you, but I understand. I put myself out for you, moreso than I should have. At the same time, you still have my love and support... but no more than that. I feel you need to know that you broke a trust with me, and with others, some more dangerous, some more biting. I abhore you for that. I still wish you all the best, but won't ever support you again.

I hope you can reconcile your actions with the people that meant most to you. There are people that spent their reputations, their time, their emotions, their grief on you... and were rewarded with a punctured, deviated version of the truth.

As I said: I only wish for the best outcome, whatever that be. Be assured, however, that your hours of credibility in this forum, in this city, are pretty much done. I hate to say it, but I hope you garnered what you needed. It won't be forthcoming again soon.

Cheers, and good luck,
Ghostwheel

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

As I said on the other site....

I don't believe a word of what you wrote.

You motivation was NOT altruistic it was MATERIALISTIC as indicated by the fact that you created your paypal account the day before you told your story.

I urge people to not believe a word of what you say UNTIL you let someone confirm with your case officer the details of your new story.

Incidentally..... I am not Isabella_Van.... just to be perfectly clear. Nadia's handle has been banned from perb and this is her old handle.

 

[BS Detector]

I really wanted to sit up and make people notice and raise awareness. People asked why I posted it at all, the reason is because it AFFECTS us all. So in my head it made sense to make it as graphic as possible so that women WOULD be more careful. Just because my assault wasn't as graphic as those I posted, it can and does happen. Other women have said they experienced similar things to what I posted. My motives really were positive,

The truth would have made people sit up and take notice. What you did has the very opposite effect and dliutes the seriousness of future rapes because now everyone will have doubts because of you. I for one feel deceived by you, and to think you actually LET Isabelle get into this is disgusting. Your embellishment basically says you trusted no one to understand what happened and we're all so stupid that you had to embellish to make us 'get it'. The sad part of all this is that you really DID get raped but your embellishment actually takes centre stage and what SHOULD be first and foremost (the real incident) has been diluted in people's minds.

A side of me still feels for you for the actual rape but as I said, I feel very deceived and that does not sit well with me. Guys like me are constantly be called names like white knights, lap dogs, you name it, sticking up for ladies like you and you just made us all look like a bunch of effen idiots. I guess maybe I AM an idiot for always trying to help people. A couple of years ago I lent an SP money and never heard a word until recently when I saw she was working again and asked (actually asked her to give it to you). She had the nerve to tell me was a gift and you don't ask for a gift back. These scams are what make it so hard to trust anymore. Maybe one day I'll learn but meanwhile, chalk up another slap in the face.

 

[poontanghunter]

The truth would have made people sit up and take notice. What you did has the very opposite effect and dliutes the seriousness of future rapes because now everyone will have doubts because of you. I for one feel deceived by you, and to think you actually LET Isabelle get into this is disgusting. Your embellishment basically says you trusted no one to understand what happened and we're all so stupid that you had to embellish to make us 'get it'. The sad part of all this is that you really DID get raped but your embellishment actually takes centre stage and what SHOULD be first and foremost (the real incident) has been diluted in people's minds.

A side of me still feels for you for the actual rape but as I said, I feel very deceived and that does not sit well with me. Guys like me are constantly be called names like white knights, lap dogs, you name it, sticking up for ladis like you and you just made us all look like a bunch of effen idiots. I guess maybe I AM an idiot for always tryng to help people. A couple of years ago I lent an SP money and never heard a word until recently when I saw she was working again and was told it was a gift. These scams are what make it so hard to trust anymore. Maybe one day I'll learn but meanwhile, chalk up another slap in the face.

What he said!

but is this truth the truth or will you tell us a new truth later on?

 

[Sit_on_my_face]

WOW...I can't believe what I just read. Thank GOD I never donated. I went with my gut instinct and I was right. Like everyone else too I'm sure.
Sometimes you can see the forest through the trees.

I'm not going to spill my guts on here over this because I think this is pathetic!

What I will say is this and I will do it in 3 simple points.

1 - Nadia you need immediate help!

2 - Dont you dare bring your Child into this!

3 - The 2 people I feel EXTREMELY EXTREME SORRY for is your child and Indy Isabelle for trying to do the right thing.


I would love to see this put to rest but something tells me it would happen.
But the sooner the better. I'm sure Isabelle would Love that too so she can move on.

 

[Verb]

I have no doubt you were injured as it was reported by Issy and I hope you are getting better. That said, your lies are very dissapointing. Even when people called you on it, you keep defending your story until someone actually pushed the envelope and called the authorities. Again, I hope your getting better but no one here will ever believe you.

Wish you the best and get healthy as well to your daughter.

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

I didnt believe a word she said either. She's just this greedy little slimeball

As I said on the other site....

I don't believe a word of what you wrote.

You motivation was NOT altruistic it was MATERIALISTIC as indicated by the fact that you created your paypal account the day before you told your story.

 

[massimor]

Who is going to believe a word from you now, Nadia?
I was with a woman who was just like you. She would lie to get whatevr she wanted from me. She got bruises and scars from tummytuck and facelift wasting my money and would be telling me a very similar story like yours, Nadia.

 

[Ghostwheel1969]

Okay....

Nothing more to see here... let's move on.

That's not a joke, BTW... the threads were dead. Now that she's fucked up again, BCMod, can we close it again? With the old name banned?

Thanks.

Ghostwheel

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

Hey people should have a chance to say something about this scam on perb. Especially the ones who lost 3k to this bullshit

Nothing more to see here... let's move on.

That's not a joke, BTW... the threads were dead. Now that she's fucked up again, BCMod, can we close it again? With the old name banned?

Thanks.

Ghostwheel

 

[Aynia]

Nothing more to see here... let's move on.

That's not a joke, BTW... the threads were dead. Now that she's fucked up again, BCMod, can we close it again? With the old name banned?

Thanks.

Ghostwheel

Ghostwheel

You seem to " call closed" quiet often

this affected all the ladies and several gents

I believe they are entitled without your " I said what I had to" now let's close it mentality

 

[Jodie]

To the person who reported me to child services, I ask that you rescind that call. You reported that I am a drug addict and that I have my child present during sessions. Both are completely untrue and have resulted in my daughter's life being completely disrupted. I am not even allowed to SEE her. No matter what you think of me, do not drag a child into this. She needs her mother. She cries on the phone every time because she misses me and doesn't understand why she can't see me. These accusations will be proven to be untrue, but the for 2 months or so they do their investigation, my daughter's life is being destroyed.

Regardless of what Nadia has done and whatever lies she has told on the internet, nobody should have EVER gotten involved with her child's welfare unless he or she knew absolutely for certain that the child was in danger and/or that the above claims (of drug use and working as an escort with the child present) were true.

Speculation based on what type of parenting skills you think Nadia may or may not have is NOT a reason to report her to the Ministry.

Unless a child is being sexually abused, severely phsyically/emotionally abused, or is being neglected (denied the most basic needs of food, shelter, clothing and education), he or she is almost always better off in the care of parents. Any child psychologist will attest to this.

The psychological impact of being removed from one's home and the care of one's parent(s) is absoultely devastating -- in most cases far moreso than whatever injustices the child is perceived by an outsider to be suffering at home.

The Ministry only removes children from their homes as a last resort, or when the child is believed to be in immediate danger. Reporting untruths that result in a child being removed from his or her home is an unbelievably cruel act.

So, to the person who reported Nadia, unless you are absolutely certain that Nadia is a drug addict and was escorting in the presence of her daughter, please do the right thing and rescind your report. You are subjecting a little girl to unnecessary trauma that will remain with her for the rest of her life. If your interest is genuinely in her child's welfare (as opposed to vigilante justice), you will have no trouble swallowing your pride and attempting to right your wrongs.

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Regardless of what Nadia has done and whatever lies she has told on the internet, nobody should have EVER gotten involved with her child's welfare unless he or she knew absolutely for certain that the child was in danger and/or that the above claims (of drug use and working as an escort with the child present) were true.

Speculation based on what type of parenting skills you think Nadia may or may not have is NOT a reason to report her to the Ministry.

Unless a child is being sexually abused, severely phsyically/emotionally abused, or is being neglected (denied the most basic needs of food, shelter, clothing and education), he or she is almost always better off in the care of parents. Any child psychologist will attest to this.

The psychological impact of being removed from one's home and the care of one's parent(s) is absoultely devastating -- in most cases far moreso than whatever injustices the child is perceived by an outsider to be suffering at home.

The Ministry only removes children from their homes as a last resort, or when the child is believed to be in immediate danger. Reporting untruths that result in a child being removed from his or her home is an unbelievably cruel act.

So, to the person who reported Nadia, unless you are absolutely certain that Nadia is a drug addict and was escorting in the presence of her daughter, please do the right thing and rescind your report. You are subjecting a little girl to unnecessary trauma that will remain with her for the rest of her life. Please get off your pedestal and do the right thing.

I agree that under normal circumstances that would absolutely be the case, however, Nadia shares 50-50 custody with her ex, who has no doubt been given full custody while they are investigating. Nadia made that known herself. Incidentally, it wasn't me.

 

[Aynia]

Sorry Jodie

You and I almost always agree

But I will argue this one

Nadia self admittedly has no food, shelter was in question and subjected herself and HER daughter to severe repercussions for her actions.

We all know not everyone takes being scammed lightly, there are those that will or could be very aggressive with "teaching her a lesson' Sad yes, but very true.

Regardless, I am sure that Child Services is not stupid and unless it was family, they would investigate and determine if there was grounds for removal

let's face it, IF it was a stranger that called I would think they would consider that and perhaps even give her the benefit of the doubt.

The fact that few are willing to protect children baffles me and that is a personal opinion, one I have no desire to debate, but I am confident that if HALF of what Nadia said is true in regards to her stability there is grounds to be concerned.

 

[onemanwoman]

That was just the total wrong decision girl.

 

[Verb]

were not even sure if it is the truth that someone reported her to the child services. Who knows her personally enough to do that? I admit I have no idea what the process is on contacting child services but I am sure it is not a overnight process. Proof and evidence is needed for child services to cut in. Again, how can we believe her about the child services thing???

 

[SexyBoy]

Wow stop reading the boards for a few days and everything changes.....

I still haven't figured out the turning point or thread yet....

 

[InTheBum]

What a stupid BITCH!

I think the Pooners that "orginally" doubted Nadia's "story", should all be apologized to, by the other ladies and gents that jumped all over us!!!!!!!!

The orginal story was clearly exaggerated...anyone that couldn't tell, has very poor judgement.

Personally, I don't give shit about her issues and the sob story she now tries to portray. Go get some therapy you stupid bitch!

 

[BS Detector]

I think the Pooners that "orginally" doubted Nadia's "story", should all be apologized to, by the other ladies and gents that jumped all over us!!!!!!!!

The orginal story was clearly exaggerated...anyone that couldn't tell, has very poor judgement.

Sorry but this issue isn't about you and your 'victory' but,
If you want to sit there and feel good about yourself for dumping all over a rape victim you doubted, without any evidence, and then HAPPENED to be right, have at er buddy but there is no apology from me for wanting to help a potential rape victim. And further more, I stated a few times, She was hurt (That my friend is what was clear) and

anyone that couldn't tell, has very poor judgement.

because we heard that straight from a number of trusted sources. We just did not know how and the story Nadia concocted about the how and when was the lie. Also, you were accidentally right but still give you no right to start calling the others white knights, lap dog etc so if anyone deserves an apology...