The Women I Am Attracted to vs the Women Attracted to Me

[Theguyfromvictoria]

Wondering if anyone else experiences this (or is that why we're here?)

The women I am attracted to are nothing like the ones attracted to me.

Huh?

I'm a middle age white guy. Pretty average, LOL. Should take better care of myself physically. But I am always well dressed, well groomed, and think I present myself well.
I am a 'nice guy' as they'd say.


Who am I attracted to? Young, exotic brunettes. Long Hair. And Koreans. Oh those Koreans...damn...The occasional blonde...and the odd soccer mom...pretty broad range of tastes..

I think my ultimate fantasy right now is the lovely Laya of Black Orchid over in Nanaimo: http://www.blackorchid.net/i.php?l=1&p=est&d=est_d&eid=135


But when I go out, who's attracted to me? Never the hot (or even semi-hot) MILFs. It seems to the down-and-out. The small BBWs. The tall girls. Women I basically have no interest in...

Why is that? Anyone else have the same thing?

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Wondering if anyone else experiences this (or is that why we're here?)

The women I am attracted to are nothing like the ones attracted to me.

Huh?

I'm a middle age white guy. Pretty average, LOL. Should take better care of myself physically. But I am always well dressed, well groomed, and think I present myself well.
I am a 'nice guy' as they'd say.


Who am I attracted to? Young, exotic brunettes. Long Hair. And Koreans. Oh those Koreans...damn...The occasional blonde...and the odd soccer mom...pretty broad range of tastes..

I think my ultimate fantasy right now is the lovely Laya of Black Orchid over in Nanaimo: http://www.blackorchid.net/i.php?l=1&p=est&d=est_d&eid=135


But when I go out, who's attracted to me? Never the hot (or even semi-hot) MILFs. It seems to the down-and-out. The small BBWs. The tall girls. Women I basically have no interest in...

Why is that? Anyone else have the same thing?

What is middle age? How young is young like 24ish? Maybe you should try the gym along with getting in shape. Go to a cool gym, not the old people gym. Join a dating website where you can list the things your exactly looking for. You wont find it here or on at a massage parlor. Nothing wrong with MILFs either, your telling me you wouldn't want JLo if she wanted you?

Sometimes its not always about looks, you also need to have things in common and want the same things. Someone in there twenties most likely doesn't have the same goals as someone in there early forties.

Just my 2 cents but then again I'm single..lol

 

[Theguyfromvictoria]

Thanks all. Interesting discussion. Appreciate the comments.

Just to clarify - in no way, shape, or form do I expect a young 20-something to be attracted to me. I get it.

My question was more along the lines of 'why am I attracted to them?' Or 'why-oh-why as I white guy do I love Asian women?'

I find it interesting, that's all.

@YVR_Hacker: great feedback
@GiaEbonyPrincess: yes I love MILFs too! I would be happy if one was attracted to me that wasn't seemingly down-and-our or BBW (no disrespect intended - just not for me)

 

[westwoody]

Love women because of who they are, not what they look like.

An ideal woman enjoys your company as much as you enjoy hers.

 

[MissingOne]

The woman I married when in my thirties is not much like the imaginary woman I thought I wanted to marry when I was in my twenties. It has worked out well though.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

"Old people gym"? Ouch.

I am just playing...but if we want to be real. He is not going to find a 20something year old in a aqua fit class for seniors....really

 

[ParadiseChaser]

I am so absolutely terrible at reading the signs when a girl is attracted to me I have no idea whose type I am.

 

[JonnyBoi]

If this hobby has taught me anything is that I prefer a lady with a kind soul, a naughty bedside manner and I.. .don't really care what she looks like..
tall/short/races/hair length or colour/etc..

I've been attracted to a lot (aaaand it's always embarrassing when they catch me just staring into their eyes or the way they smile.. :hopelessness: what? I mean, I was paying attention to the conversation.. lol) but I have 0 clue which ones are attracted to me (if any). LOL.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Thanks all. Interesting discussion. Appreciate the comments.

Just to clarify - in no way, shape, or form do I expect a young 20-something to be attracted to me. I get it.

My question was more along the lines of 'why am I attracted to them?' Or 'why-oh-why as I white guy do I love Asian women?'

I find it interesting, that's all.

@YVR_Hacker: great feedback
@GiaEbonyPrincess: yes I love MILFs too! I would be happy if one was attracted to me that wasn't seemingly down-and-our or BBW (no disrespect intended - just not for me)

I was just thinking maybe you should try Seeking Arrangement (SA), just a thought.

 

[sevenofnine]

as an old old fart,

I would have to say its mental,, all in your state of mind,

there are times when I was such a miserable creep. I would say people were afraid of me,
I had that way about me,

there are times when I was so depressed lonely, it was like I had a target on my fore head come and pick on me, all the bullies just loved me,

there have been times when I can look someone in the eye, and simply laugh with the joy of simply being alive, friends life women were easy.

it is all about whats going on between the ears.
my 2 cents

 

[jgg]

The dream woman for me:

I would really enjoy and feel good riding on the BC Ferries with her.

And during this great time of the year, sitting on the deck of a hotel next to the river, her peacefully leaning her head on my shoulder.

In the wintertime in WHISTLER, having hot beverages with her, snuggled up on the couch in a WARM room.

And a captivating personality.

Respectfully,
Tim McGee.

Sound wonderful. Go live your dream Tim. They are out there.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

No rose for me...oh well

Back into The Bachelor mode.

I'm 5'10" as noted. And, I prefer women who are 4'11" to 5'6". If I were The Bachelor, I would want half to be 5'7" or taller. That's because we have to send home about 15 women on the first night. Guess which 15 contestants would get sent home, because if not passing my "Tim McGee Clearance, 5'6"?"

If I couldn't do this HEIGHT thing, I'd next wish for half if the women being A or B cups, and 10 with DD or larger. That way, I'd keep the A-B cuties (with bonus points to the A-Cup Club Girls), and give the more busty women a chance to hook up with OTHER male past Bachelorette contestants!

What if my final four ladies were 5'0" to 5'3", all with A or B cups AND sweet, cute, quiet and shy personalities? I would be TIED on who to give my Final Rose to!

Respectfully,
Tim McGee.

I definitely would not make the cut!!!

I am 5'9" and a half (no heels) with 32 enhanced DD's

 

[87112]

5 2 to 5 6 is my ideal. Cause I am vertically challenged. Soft face, someone talkative and has been thru some hard times and not thinking relationships are fairly tales.

 

[mrman848]

Looks like the OP can't use google, youtube, or click on advertisement popups.

All the info is out there pal.

Now, most of it hammers the personality aspect. Making it sound like 90% of what girls are attracted to is personality.
But in reality its:
50% perspnality
50% physical fitness.

And of course, the less attractive a woman is, the more she is will to settle(same for guys).

Oh, and asian women - its like you must be fit or skinny or your not even an option.

 

[KingofClubs]

An attractive body and pretty face will initially catch my attention, but it's her personality, intelligence and attitude that keeps it.

I know the money in the envelope is a key part of the equation as to why she's attracted to me...for the hour.

 

[Total Slacker]

I typically can be attracted to ladies of any age, race, shape, or height on any given day. As a middle aged guy with some dough, right now I'm attracted to much younger women. Maybe it's the time of year, maybe it's that I've led a pretty sheltered existence sexually due to my career and other circumstances and I missed out on circulating in my early 20's. They seem attracted to me too for some reason. I look a bit younger than I am, average looking IMO, in good shape, and a good guy who smiles a lot and I'm financially secure. Yeah, they probably sense the financially secure part.

I've been checking out this site for a while now and haven't taken "the plunge" but I imagine if or when I do, it will probably be with a much younger girl.

 

[Caramel]

whenever I hear a middle aged/older man wanting girls young enough to be a daughter be interested in them, I think why didn't these guys take their chances when THEY were young? It's a bit too late for the majority, sure there are a small group of young women who prefer older men (especially if they look good), but the majority of young women want a man closer to their age (in a typical society at least).

It also depends on what you're really looking for, is it sex or a relationship too? For sexual reasons, most women will pick looks first just like men do because the reason is only physical, so if you're 50 years old with a nice body/good looking face & hair, you will probably have better luck. The women that you don't find attractive at all are probably in the same league as you, that's why they are settling for you, they understand the reality of it. But don't fret, I'm sure we've all seen our share of couples where the girl is so hot or even just cute/average, what is she thinking dating "THAT" guy? Especially the other way around, guy is very good looking yet his girl/wife is not...in our opinions of course.