The problems with GFE

[Markl]

Just a note to those very sensitive guys and GFE experience SPs.

For one, If a person after a few sessions tells you they are falling in love with you, set them straight. It isn't fair to string them along and hope that they'll return to you just because of how they feel.

I've fallen in love with my SP, but my SP was always upfront with me about the way she felt and was always honest. I cherished that, even though I will love her forever now. I don't fall out of love ever. I know I am not the typical person going hunting for sex or whatever. I have always gone looking for intimacy.

If you are someone like me, you can post on this thread and we can talk about it, it'll help. Life is too short not to be in love, and I never fall out of love, no matter the years. I still love my ex-fiancee, and one other person who is a SP.

I will always love them both, and it doesn't matter to me if they don't love me. I give my love unconditionally. Giving them happiness is all that matters, even if they don't understand that. Giving them happiness makes me happy.

Erroll

 

[rescue911]

huh

what the f**k is this all about???

 

[Markl]

Duh

It's about guys like me who fall in love with their SP.

 

[Guardian Angel]

It's about guys like me who fall in love with their SP.

It can happen. Maybe one will fall in love with you too! After all, we are all just people in the end.

G.A.

 

[geek]

It can happen. Maybe one will fall in love with you too! After all, we are all just people in the end.

G.A.

One can hope

 

[Markl]

Not this time though

I wish that were true of this situation Guardian.

She already loves her BF and engaged to be married. You know, I wish them the best because I just want her to be happy.

I was distraught at first over the whole thing, but when I think about what is best for her, if he can make her happy, then that is the best thing for her.

Besides, I'm in the "too nice" category.

Erroll

 

[Krustee]

Besides, I'm in the "too nice" category.

Erroll

Yeah & your a customer.

 

[Yman]

As Stuart Smalley would say : " I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough and Doggone it, People Like Me.. "

Seemed like a good time for a positive affirmation

 

[Markl]

Meh

Does being a customer mean they can't care?

What ever happened to people caring about people, just because?
I'm naive I know.
Erroll

 

[Valium]

I think this quote is appropriate here

there is one golden rule in pooning and this rule should never be broken:


never fall in love with an sp

there is a corollary to this rule for sp’s:

never fall in love with a client

It is possible to make friends with SP's in the biz but any more than that is just asking for trouble. The good SP's can fool you into thinking the feelings are mutual but in the end they will hurt you the most.

 

[moi]

it CAN Happen, i know a few SP's who did get in relationships with their clients, but that was few and far between.

and if this girl is engaged, you should let go and start looking elsewhere

gl!

 

[Sit_on_my_face]

I wish that were true of this situation Guardian.

She already loves her BF and engaged to be married. You know, I wish them the best because I just want her to be happy.

I was distraught at first over the whole thing, but when I think about what is best for her, if he can make her happy, then that is the best thing for her.

Besides, I'm in the "too nice" category.

Erroll

Markl, My suggestion to you is that if this situation ends up driving you crazy, having sleepless night, and eating you up alive inside. Stop seeing her for good. I know that seems selfish but love and emotions can lead you on the wrong side. I'm sure all of the girls on here are here for one reason only and it's not to find relationships.

If you can handle this girl your talking about with someone else ( marriage ) then fine, but watch yourself.

You can get attached to any girl on here after a few visits. Intimicy along with the right chemistry can make it extremely hard not to fall in love with her.

Afterall, guys and girls are wired that way.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Dude just remind yourself that while you might be only seeing her she's seeing 3-4 other guys every day, more likely than not 7 days week. Don't fall for the act, she's a ho and you're a john so keep it in perspective. Even if her pussy speaks in tongues!

I would suggest you take a break from the hobby for a while until you get your head properly screwed on again and you can see things for what they really are.

 

[wpgguy]

I agree 100%, take a break, maybe a permanent one, before this drives you crazy.

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

You have to move on & let go.

Stalking isn't cool.

Just because someone will let you have sex with them when you pay enough money, it doesn't mean they "LOVE" you. What it means it that you had money, they needed money and they now have your money.

People that are so desperate that they imagine relationships where there can never be one are the reason that everyone needs to strictly control what they let people know about them.

Here is some reality for the "sensitive lovers" out there.

If, you can't get a date with anyone of the thousands of women that a man runs into in the course of a normal life, the woman you pay for sex is having sex with you for the money. She does not love you, she may not even like you. She is fucking you because you paid her money.

Yes, there are guys that SPs fall in love with. These are the guys who are fucking the girl next door, the waitress at the coffee shop, the receptionist at your work and all the rest of the thousands of women who won't have sex with you. That guy, the one who can get a date, may occasionally pay for sex if he wants to fuck and the current gf is out of town. Unlike you, he doesn't HAVE to pay for sex.

The above was a public service message for all the working girls that have had to change working names, working cities and all other aspects of their lives because some repulsive troll couldn't understand that she doesn't, can't, won't ever love you. No amount of "sensitive" posts, threats of bad reviews, parking in front of her incall, parking at her child's school or going to her school or work will ever change that.

Stop stalking her.

Exactly!

She's engaged. And even if she isn't, if she's telling you she is, what she's saying is "I will NEVER date you. Please don't embarrass yourself by asking."

For her sake, stop seeing her. If you are obsessing over her, please get help.

I know first hand how scary it is to have a delusional stalker who was obsessed and loved me. He was creepy beyond belief and caused nothing but grief for 2 years. He knew I was involved and even bought my SO a christmas present. Apparently he just can't let go and I still hear about it from time to time.

You have got to let go. Let go of your exs as well. It's not healthy to be in love with someone endlessly. You might want to seek counseling.

 

[Markl]

Jeez

Good lord people I'm not stalking her.

I only call her once in a while... stop the drama.
I wouldn't do anything to upset her like that. I only have her best interests at heart.

alinburnaby is probably her boyfriend for all I know, since he joined around the first time I posted here.

I'm not upset or anything like that.. quite the opposite, I've been happier lately than the last 3 months.

/sigh

 

[Markl]

Well said

Well said Nina.
A wise woman told me today, life is much too short to not enjoy it.

 

[Willingham]

Uggg

I fell in love with an SP - ruined me for a long time. I had to get pro help, it was literally driving me insane. Very scary and not a place I ever care to visit again.

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Isabelle has a SO???? Talk about a thread starter!!

1. I may or may not have one now. I did at the time (1.5 years ago).
2. We do actually have personal lives. Which are none of your business.
3. End of story.

 

[Krustee]

Good lord people I'm not stalking her.

I only call her once in a while... stop the drama.
I wouldn't do anything to upset her like that. I only have her best interests at heart.

/sigh

Well give me her number & address & I'll stalk her for ya.

Jeez man ya gotta keep close tabs on em or they'll get away!