The Lie of Female Sexuality

[johnsmit]

What seem to determon.. Societies norms for sexuality is the storirs they tell

In our Society it is as much film and media with it adverising that regulat and percribe normal behavour. and show the out come of wild and promiscuous behavior.. And like wise that is how people will acg given any situation that relates to what they have seen because that is the respose expected .

The little girl covering up with a little top.. Is some think promoted by media.. and this adult oriented.. Advertising that makes girl be consummers at an early age..
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Even how guy act.. to the ways women dress.. or behave.. In some ways is a reaction reinforced by media s
Sterio types.. show a way to behave which is acceptable.. Thats why men think it is acceptable to treat wome that dress a certain sex or slutty way.. in a more sexual. disrespectful way..It not right but that is what we quite often see depicted.. so it an excuse to act wrong..

Of course media.. and even book only represent a condensed version of human emotion and behavours.. Wwhich dont allow for a full expretion or exoration of all aspects of human nature.

Deffinetly our sexuallity is a dominent factor in every ones life.. In most cases it is repressed by our miriad of emotional and geo social restraints
. Being selfconchious..trying to fit in and be accepted.. Knowing that certain behavour will get negative reaction from women . and actions wil get you arrested... All contribut to our represtion lf sexual exploration.

Now when you come into a cammunity of like thinking individual that do not conform to tge norm..and have no sexual repretion.. then the barriors come down and liberal and open ness of tbought ant acfion is the normal expression..
That what we find in the sex trade business.. when you loom beyond just the money fod play .. there is far mlre to embrase

 

[CLUB78]

78 - "And if this myriad of reasons result in my wearing something that certain men find sexually arousing, most of the time I have no fucking clue."

Really, you have no clue what men find sexually arousing? Really . . . I guess there is no point in any perbite to visit you ahahahahahaa. Of course you know what mean find sexually arousing. Of course you know that men find just about anything arousing if the woman is sexually attractive. Of course you know that a little skin and show and bounce draws attention. I don't know how many times I have been with a girlfriend and another girl walks buy and does something to grab attention only to hear my girl guffaw or make comment on how slutty or desperate she is . . .. Women know this shit at a very young age while men only learn by women teaching them IF they even have a mind to learn it.

I get your original point and agree with it. I just don't think any of us are totally innocent in it all.

I'm really fucking weird though. I take pride in my ability to be completely oblivious to what others think of me. If you're a decent looking woman and want to have sex you can put on yoga pants and hang out in the supermarket and pick up a guy no doubt. Why go through the effort of getting all dolled up for that reason alone?

I love the opportunity to express my creativity through the way I dress, do my hair/make-up, etc. It is about expressing one's joie de vivre! The joyful expression of color,shape, texture and form. To make oneself a subtle piece of performance art in a sense.

To think that it is about wanting to sexually arouse strange men who may or may not be personally repellant to me is a pedestrian understanding of my personal intentions.

However, this said, I have been an exhibitionist in times past. As Cherise mentioned, toplessness is now legal and I was one of the first people to test this theory on the steps of the legislature during Klondike Days in Edmonton. Many years ago. When people still used libraries for the books. I was put in jail and received death threats. A LOT of death threats. Even one is too many, really. People were angry that someone dared to challenge the system, and admittedly the tabloid conservative paper made me look like a crazy person.

Still, had nothing to do with turning men on, in fact it had the opposite intention. It was about why the hell should I have to hide my body on the off chance buddy might get turned on? There was a time when table legs had to be covered and a flash of ankle was considered erotic. This wasn't out of respect but because women were considered property, sexual property, and viewing any part of them or even anything that resembled female body parts was considered obscene somehow.

I am what I am. We should all be flopping around naked in the sun in my opinion, with everyone just freely being as sexual or non-sexual as they want to be without fear of violence. Personal freedom and self ownership are the most precious things we have. I am the author of my own destiny. I have the right to choose what I wear, who I keep company with, what thoughts I express, whether I tattoo, pierce, change the color of whatever part of my body without being denied the basic human right of being treated with simple dignity.

 

[CLUB78]

I am sorry this happened. And never like the word Knickers being used with negative connotation!

A few years back I was participating in a fund raiser. Dressed head to toe as a clown with the wig, nose and shoes. I went into Timmies. There was a younger man behind me in the long morning line up. He couldn't stop smiling. Obviously because there was a clown in the line. Regardless, he was entranced by my giant red wig. After placing my coffee order, I turned to him and said "How about you and I grab a blueberry fritter, and get the hell out of here?" Then honked my red clown nose and merrily walked away.

By the time I had folded myself into the car(clown suits are awkward) I had his name and number.

The dichotomy of sexuality creates a binary divide. With social categories, starting with simply being male or female. Which rejects the intricacy and fluidity of sexual and gender identity . Beginning in the latter half of the 12th century, a shift occurred. The Catholic church took a position on a matter where as any sexual promiscuity or homosexuality was considered deviant behaviour. Creating a one-story narrative to further reject multiple contingency theories, which demonstrate that people have multiple stories, and individual identities are often times conflicting, multi-layered, and non-linear sexually.. We are taught that as a young woman, like the OP suggests, covering our nipples at a young age is normal. Or how many times has someone asked a young girl who is playing outside with her neighbour, who happens to be a young boy. If that is her new boyfriend. Like its cute and endearing to ask "awe, is that your little boyfriend?" It sets the stage for their thought process.

I say throw heteronormativity out the window and enjoy a universe of unbounded and unregulated sexuality!

I just wanted to declare my love for Knickers in front of the entire Perb world!! You are a truly good human being dear lady

 

[Thora]

I don't feel female sexuality is a lie. For those who have embraced it and experienced it, it is no lie; no exaggeration, no myth.

However, the reality is that we live in a misogynistic world (yes, I used the M word. Sue me). Throughout much of humanity's modern history (particularly since the popularity of monotheistic religions) the role of a female has changed significantly. Where once there were full-breasted, sensuous fertility goddesses there are instead Jezebels and Liliths. Cultures change, and this is to be expected. Nothing stays stagnant for long and if it does it likely withers away into memory.

We have had generations upon generations of repression of female sexual empowerment. Any woman who is seen as sexual is almost without fail also seen as so many negative things: a slut, dirty, vapid, of low character. There are countless excellent articles written from historical, anthropological and psychological/sociological perspectives on the shift regarding attitudes and subsequent customs and beliefs regarding empowered female sexuality.

When a human being - female or man, gay or straight - comes into their sexual power it *is* a powerful thing. And there are plenty of folks out there who appreciate this aspect of another human, but there are also plenty who seek to knock someone into the mud whether it be from fear, jealousy or a deep-rooted belief that one sex is greater or lesser than another and should not outstep their "role".

It's a deeply complex issue that spans centuries, cultures, beliefs and attitudes. But I firmly believe it's not a myth, and I firmly believe that it's a power worth standing up and proclaiming. And if some man or other women (women perpetrate just as much misogyny against each other as men do against women) wants to try to put you back in your place you stand your ground.

But then again, I'm a take-no-shit kinda woman, so that's just my take on it