Indeed. It's nice to get to know someone and have good conversation afterwards. I like a nice cuddle afterwards. Keeps me warm...mainly cuz I get cold easily.
The feeling of being desired
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Very good comments. There is also the need factor that comes into play. What I needed when I was younger is so much more different than what I need now that I am older. The chemistry and trust is just as important to me as the sex, and knowing that it was just as fulfilling for her, as it was for me.
Some great comments and thoughts here. I really appreciate so many of you taking some time to offer feedback.
I usually book 90-120 minute sessions - exactly so we have some time to build a bit of connection before we hop in the sack. Definitely part of the fun is being a generous reciprocating lover, which I think adds a layer of intimacy.
I like the idea of a cuddle, I haven’t had that as much…usually we lie there afterwards and chat about life or kinks, but not cuddle. Definitely would like that.
There’s really two different sides of this that I enjoy, or would like to enjoy: The first one would be to find/have a regular that gives that feeling of connection, of intimacy and comfort, as well as great sex. The second is that I look for something different or new to experience. For example, none of my past partners have had tattoos, and so I’m looking to find someone who’s absolutely covered in them. Just for a New experience and I find it a turn on . I have a whole list in my head and I’m thoroughly enjoying the experience of working through it 😁
And sometimes, someone before, during, or after a session adds something I’ve never thought of to the list. That’s always fun
I usually book 90-120 minute sessions - exactly so we have some time to build a bit of connection before we hop in the sack. Definitely part of the fun is being a generous reciprocating lover, which I think adds a layer of intimacy.
I like the idea of a cuddle, I haven’t had that as much…usually we lie there afterwards and chat about life or kinks, but not cuddle. Definitely would like that.
There’s really two different sides of this that I enjoy, or would like to enjoy: The first one would be to find/have a regular that gives that feeling of connection, of intimacy and comfort, as well as great sex. The second is that I look for something different or new to experience. For example, none of my past partners have had tattoos, and so I’m looking to find someone who’s absolutely covered in them. Just for a New experience and I find it a turn on . I have a whole list in my head and I’m thoroughly enjoying the experience of working through it 😁
And sometimes, someone before, during, or after a session adds something I’ve never thought of to the list. That’s always fun
Who cares of being desired, I go for one or two good fuck without drama, leaving my feelings at home. As long as I get it, I am satisfied and no complaints.
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Hey, watcha got against Tahiti? If I offer up Tahiti, holy fuk that’s like an epic run away. I’d expect…
“‘YES PLEASE’, I will pack as many sexy outfits in my suitcase as I can! We can by toothpaste and suntan lotion there right? OK, two more thongs will fit! OMG, OMG, Tahiti Treat baby (winky face)”.
lol.
Yes I like the longer sessions where you can get into really discovering what you both like. I particularly like to tease each other with some role play where you can pretend to be someone you are not. We all have fantasies about being someone else and it’s great to have a willing partner to play along with it. I also like cuddling and just holding each other close so you can feel each others energy. We are electric beings and it’s magical to share that energy. 👍
I think every man seeking interaction of the nature we’re all here for is looking to feel desired. In the time I’ve spent in this hobby, I’ve been lucky to have plenty of experiences where there’s been what feels like a genuine “spark” and mutual attraction. I’ve also had many experiences that felt mechanical and passionless.
The most successful experiences I’ve had with providers have been the ones that are at least an hour long, with ample time getting to know the lady and her needs as far as boundaries and preferences are concerned. I arrive clean, groomed, behave like a gentleman, and treat her like a human being. When a lady feels safe and respected, I find a much more fun and easygoing session with actual chemistry can unfold. Spending time on foreplay is great and the post-coital conversation goes a long way and can often beget a spontaneous second round if cards are played properly.
Of course, I’m aware there’s an element of performance on the provider’s part, but I try to do my part and make it as easy as possible for her to play her role in the exchange. This has resulted in me feeling desired, and frankly makes me desire her more as I’ve gotten to know her a little as a person. Even better during repeat sessions, when the provider remembers little things I appreciate and I try to do the same in return. I’ve experienced some genuine friendships with providers, confined to the borders of the paid session. Staying realistic about the nature of the session is key.
It’s a give and take, suffice to say.
The most successful experiences I’ve had with providers have been the ones that are at least an hour long, with ample time getting to know the lady and her needs as far as boundaries and preferences are concerned. I arrive clean, groomed, behave like a gentleman, and treat her like a human being. When a lady feels safe and respected, I find a much more fun and easygoing session with actual chemistry can unfold. Spending time on foreplay is great and the post-coital conversation goes a long way and can often beget a spontaneous second round if cards are played properly.
Of course, I’m aware there’s an element of performance on the provider’s part, but I try to do my part and make it as easy as possible for her to play her role in the exchange. This has resulted in me feeling desired, and frankly makes me desire her more as I’ve gotten to know her a little as a person. Even better during repeat sessions, when the provider remembers little things I appreciate and I try to do the same in return. I’ve experienced some genuine friendships with providers, confined to the borders of the paid session. Staying realistic about the nature of the session is key.
It’s a give and take, suffice to say.
for the guys who say they like longer appointments to form a connection and chemistry etc. why escorts and not sugar babies instead?
an hour long is enough for me, even 30 minutes can lead to good chemistry etc if I see her more than once.
the sex is my main objective with this hobby however, I get everyone has different preferences and reasons
an hour long is enough for me, even 30 minutes can lead to good chemistry etc if I see her more than once.
the sex is my main objective with this hobby however, I get everyone has different preferences and reasons
Honestly I find whole finding a sugar baby thing hella convoluted otherwise I would be down to explore that route. I prefer longer sessions with a connection myself and find it easier to find someone from tryst and leolist with reviews here on perb. Atleast that way I know what I am getting.
yeah I get that. you ever ask to meet with pot sb's for an unpaid coffee or drink first before setting up an arrangement or ppm type deal? that seems to be the modus operandi in the sugar dating world, thats what I and most other guys do, have never had a girl turn that down. that way you know what you are getting, what she looks like in person, and a glimpse of her personality.
Fully agree about those who have been reviewed but if you dip your toes and your unit into the sugaring/online dating world, they all pretty much are the same - meet up for something simple to see if there is attraction. if there is something of a connection, desire etc, go for it.
I don't over think this stuff, try to let the chemistry do its thing. And that can save a lot of $$'s down the road. And frankly can be a good part of the fun in the process.
I agree with your comment having done escorts and sugar dating myself. I believe the op should give sugar dating a try and in my experience will be more of what he's looking for.
I had never considered that and I don’t really know much about it to be honest. I know it’s off-topic for this board so I won’t comment further in order to avoid the mods ire, and subsequent closing of the thread. It looks like they did some editing and re-opened the thread (thanks).
