The Art of Money Exchange

[Pit bull]

I's been talked about on here countless times on how the discreetness of the money exchange should take place when seeing SP's. It seems like it should go unmentioned so the client gets a 'real date' experience. A lot of SP's want to avoid the awkward situation of having to ask for it, having to touch it in front of the client, etc etc..... The transaction is expected to go down with a touch of grace and class.

For me, I love the humiliating aspect of the fantasy of being a 'John' I get so incredibly turned on by escorts because they are being paid to see me. I find the sexiest part of the session is when the escort asks for 'the donation' I just love handing over the stack of bills to her.

Now it's in no way, shape or form an intended act of demeaning the escort. I don't get off making her feel awkward or ashamed.

I think this form of financial domination/humiliation is a popular niche in the phone sex world and fem domme world as its talked about openly on countless phone sex/vitural 'online' dommes, niteflirt, clips4 sale sites, etc but I find it's extremely rare to be actually taken out of the virtual world.

I think this is much different from SD/SB relationships where the SD may exchange gifts, money for sexual services but the transaction itself is not used as a humiliation tool. For example, I would really enjoy a SP to talk more openly about prices, purposely not make it a discreet transaction; she would remind me every few minutes during the session that she is only there because I paid her, teased me for having to pay her, etc etc, counted the money in front of me, etc etc . I guess part of this would come down to the legal issues.

Does this ever happen in real life? Am I alone here? Am I out to lunch here? thoughts?

 

[VanessaofBC]

I's been talked about on here countless times on how the discreetness of the money exchange should take place when seeing SP's. It seems like it should go unmentioned so the client gets a 'real date' experience. A lot of SP's want to avoid the awkward situation of having to ask for it, having to touch it in front of the client, etc etc..... The transaction is expected to go down with a touch of grace and class.

For me, I love the humiliating aspect of the fantasy of being a 'John' I get so incredibly turned on by escorts because they are being paid to see me. I find the sexiest part of the session is when the escort asks for 'the donation' I just love handing over the stack of bills to her.

Now it's in no way, shape or form an intended act of demeaning the escort. I don't get off making her feel awkward or ashamed.

I think this form of financial domination/humiliation is a popular niche in the phone sex world and fem domme world as its talked about openly on countless phone sex/vitural 'online' dommes, niteflirt, clips4 sale sites, etc but I find it's extremely rare to be actually taken out of the virtual world.

I think this is much different from SD/SB relationships where the SD may exchange gifts, money for sexual services but the transaction itself is not used as a humiliation tool. For example, I would really enjoy a SP to talk more openly about prices, purposely not make it a discreet transaction; she would remind me every few minutes during the session that she is only there because I paid her, teased me for having to pay her, etc etc, counted the money in front of me, etc etc . I guess part of this would come down to the legal issues.

Does this ever happen in real life? Am I alone here? Am I out to lunch here? thoughts?

Very, very interesting perspective. Ty, for sharing!

I find a lot of gentlemen nervous when they arrive, whatever the reason may be.

So I am direct.

May I get you a beverage? I ask...
Yes - Ok, I will be right back you can leave the donation here
No - Ok lemme grab some music for us, you can leave the donation here.

That is how i do it.

 

[sensualsixty]

A suggestion that I have thought about:

Put the money in a front pocket of your slacks (with nothing else in it). After the initial greeting, tell the SP that there is something for her in your right (or left) pocket. It just could be a better start to the engagement than the usual blank envelope.

 

[VanessaofBC]

A suggestion that I have thought about:

Put the money in a front pocket of your slacks (with nothing else in it). After the initial greeting, tell the SP that there is something for her in your right (or left) pocket. It just could be a better start to the engagement than the usual blank envelope.

IDK, if I have not met you before that would be an HIGHLY unusual request. So just make sure its your second or third date b4 you say something "cute" like that to a lady.

 

[Man in Submission]

Having not done this many times (yet!), this is definitely something to ponder.

From a slave standpoint, I may do something like go to my knees with a nice bouquet of flowers in one hand and a nice card of appreciation in the other (with the money inside, of course!) and thank my Mistress for the privilege of being in her regal presence, and the honour of catering to her every need and enduring whatever punishment and humiliation she decides to inflict. At that point she takes the flowers and card and I bow down further and tenderly kiss her feet and the ground she walks on.

Or something along those lines anyway! I'm sure I can come up with some more submissive variations to make the donation component of the session something to look forward to, as opposed to having any anxiety or trepidation about it!

MIS

 

[Man in Submission]

You know MIS, it's posters like yourself that make me think of BDSM as being more of a preference (current thoughts) rather than just something freaky enjoyed by freaky people (previous view of it).
Who knows, maybe one day I'll try?

But then again, you're love of the Rangers tends to hurt your over all credibility

Haha LIJ, I drive all my friends up here crazy with my 'Rangerism'. But the point being is that is very much 'from the heart', similar to the intense desire to worship beautiful women. I definitely don't consider it freaky, I don't consider myself freaky. I am told I look quite innocent, so none of my even my closest friends would suspect anything!

I am not even sure it is a preference, it's just something that 'is' ... over the years you try to hide it, you try to deny it, but it is always there. As much as I wouldn't change it - simply because I find it gratifying and rewarding to treat every lady like they are someone very special - it has contributed to more than a few failed relationships (and 2 marriages) along the way.

I was engaged to a beautiful young lady recently and it was so exciting because she started out domming me. But it ended up being unsustainable long-term and when that slipped away, so did a lot of our affection for each other. To find an actual life partner committed to that type of mistress-slave relationship long-term has proved elusive, and after that break-up, I am not sure I will get to experience it again.

Fortunately, I have had the pleasure of meeting a special lady who can periodically help me live out those fantasies and burning desires. I am so looking forward to seeing her again. I don't find our interactions freaky at all, though I'm sure the average person would find them to be quite unique! Just her in complete charge and me acquiescing to any demand. It's an incredible feeling, and even through a bit of pain and humiliation, you form a very intimate bond. The time, unfortunately! seems to fly by.

I can't compare it seeing an SP for regular 'pooning' as it is referred to on here, but I find any perception of uncertainty or mistrust are quickly broken down in this type of relationship. I do not poon with my Mistress, I am not even sure if it is normal to do so, but my feeling is it would tarnish things and possibly diminish my feelings of servitude and submission if we had that type of sex. Of course, I would always love to use my tongue and mouth to bring Mistress to multiple orgasms!

I don't know if all that makes it freaky or weird, but I just don't see any harm in it whatsoever. Man treats Woman like Queen for whatever time they spend together, both find it incredibly erotic and fulfilling, Man leaves with feelings of euphoria and total admiration for Woman, Woman leaves with donation, feelings of empowerment and the reinforcement that there are some genuinely nice men out there and her line of work can be very rewarding - in many ways.

Sorry about ranting on there. Being a Slave and being a diehard Rangers fan - my two greatest loves. In that order!

 

[Man in Submission]

Who knows, maybe one day I'll try?

LIJ - If you go in with an open mind, I think you would enjoy it. You seem to have a pleasant demeanour, which I think is essential if you are going to submit to a woman. The lovely ladies who offer this type of service I find are always respectful of boundaries, and always ask about your boundaries when you first get together. I just have one thing I am not comfortable with and I do make that clear ... but after that I try not to limit the lady is any way. The session goes better when they are in totally command and know ahead of time the places they can't go with you.

I think you would find the experience quite liberating and exhilarating. You may find you even have some natural submissive tendencies you hadn't previously allowed to come to the surface. I know I have found it extremely exciting as I have taken it to new levels over the years that I would never have even dreamed about when I was just coming to terms with these feeling as a teenager. And I think I still have a LOT more to learn and do as a slave.

If you find it's not for you, so be it. But you never know, it may ended up being something you were missing in your life all along, but didn't realize it.

Good luck my friend!

MIS

 

[HawaiianShirtGuy]

I like the invisibility of it - After settling in, I will leave the envelope as I head to the shower. I can see doing the financial submission thing with a lady who was a trusted regular, maybe a full role-play situation, but I would not want it to be awkward for either of us on an initial session.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

pit bull's fantasy reminds me of Tantalizme's fantasy of the totally detached cigarette smoking escort...