Yes, sometimes VERY special ladies move to independent status. True, for some the perks include being very selective and choosy about who they see.
Don't get me wrong, at VIPS the ladies are encouraged to refuse anyone they wish on ANY merit, also true - this is not a common practice at most agencies.
We are humans with diverse personalities and we all connect differently. I've always seen my job as trying to help people find amazing sweet connections,
but some of it is a bit of an art and some of it is a bit of trial and error even for independents.
As an example, I was at the spa yesterday when you were blowing up this thread and had a wonderful massage from a lovely East Indian lady.
To be honest, we had nothing in common - we would not be natural lunch buddies. In fact, I think that my extensive graphic shunga body art
might have even made her feel uncomfortable. If in the future she chose not to service me, I would be totally ok with that.
Of course, I showed up showered, I was respectful, appreciative and I left a nice tip. It still doesn't make me her ideal client - and that is ok.
SDK, at the end of the day I try to not see your posts as trolling, although I have referred to them like that before. When I read your posts I see a human who is in great
emotional duress over his desire and need to participate in this industry. I can say you are not alone. One of the most common pillow talk conversations for married
clients is their love, respect and admiration of their partners at home. It is a deep and personal struggle for many clients to put their needs over someone they love and respect.
This could start a whole different discourse so I regress, but still, you are not alone, and possibly it is something you can discuss with a sex-positive therapist.
I will say that Steverino nailed it perfectly, but will add - who are you I or anyone for that matter to say that everyone feels the same about everything
- goodness that's just a very arrogant and close-minded view of reality.
True as humans we all do things and take risks that we know could end detrimentally. Personally, I KNOW at my age I should not drink copious amounts of egg nog over Christmas,
I know it's also a bad idea to freeze it and drink it on my birthday - but I do it every year. Alas that creamy nog going down my throat brings me great joy and satisfaction
and if it ends my years in this mortal coil earlier than expected - so be it - life is for enjoying.
To all those with love support and kind words - I sometimes find these things overwhelming, but please don't ever stop, they are our fule and we thank you for it.
I know the work we do is important, I know that we strive as a group to go up and beyond, and I KNOW how life-changing we are to every last one of you.
I Have been doing this job for 18 years, 30 if you count me being a teenager writing down licence plates for my girlfriends working kiddy track in Vancouver.
I have seen the good bad and ugly of this industry, I have seen people thrive and people self destruct, trust me there are parts of this job that lay heavy on my soul every day.
Overall the good always outways the bad, but that has taken work, and doing things differently than the rest.
I greatly appreciate all of you who have seen the difference and role model we have tried to foster in this industry,
we are far from perfect but we strive to be different and better every day.
