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Okay Pirate Code, will put you down as another sappy wimpy lonely guy on perb...
i knew you were being sarcastic
but in a way i don't get it.
am i not just being normal.
maybe im confused ok i spent alot of time alone trying to fiqure out my rapist father
so maybe i got it all wrong.
but i see myself as a normal average guy.
shouldn't a normal average guy be attractive or get some interest from a noramal average female.
its just life isn't it.
people are just lonly we need friends companions life mates soul mates some one to just have a coffee with.
i shaved this morining i didn't notice three eyes or two noses
i can hold a conversation i have known to be funny
i like women i enjoy them just to look at or to share a cup of coffee or a simple smile.
i assume women like guys
last time i checked i was a guy.
i mean isn't it normal to be out there flriting talking to women, at work in the coffee line whatever dancers.
that should be the norm shouldn't it.
and the odds are, the more women you meet one of them is going to fancy you.
so why is it so hard to find a companion and have a relationship
but in a way i don't get it.
am i not just being normal.
maybe im confused ok i spent alot of time alone trying to fiqure out my rapist father
so maybe i got it all wrong.
but i see myself as a normal average guy.
shouldn't a normal average guy be attractive or get some interest from a noramal average female.
its just life isn't it.
people are just lonly we need friends companions life mates soul mates some one to just have a coffee with.
i shaved this morining i didn't notice three eyes or two noses
i can hold a conversation i have known to be funny
i like women i enjoy them just to look at or to share a cup of coffee or a simple smile.
i assume women like guys
last time i checked i was a guy.
i mean isn't it normal to be out there flriting talking to women, at work in the coffee line whatever dancers.
that should be the norm shouldn't it.
and the odds are, the more women you meet one of them is going to fancy you.
so why is it so hard to find a companion and have a relationship
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westcoast555
Thought this article was interesting and pertained to this thread... the article was written in the UK but I think it raises some interesting issues about modern relationships, media, and changing attitudes. Thoughts?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...pidemic-more-inflated-sense-fabulousness.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...pidemic-more-inflated-sense-fabulousness.html
Well....what about the rest of us? We are married and happy and have enjoyed a healthy sexual relationship with our wives...but 20 years on...no surprises....same old same old....this is not too deep gentlemen....I am surrounded by like minded men who undress their women colleagues on a regular basis and why? Are they all unhappy or is it something more innate than that? Do the math...married at 25....20 plus years in the bedroom with the same woman who now has aged as we have but we don't see ourselves that way...we see young, hot and sexy in all the SPs and somehow think we might still be that same young person we were back then...so choose between affair, risk it all or enjoy the occasional dalliance with a women who is comfortable with her self and her choices and whose bloom has yet to fade...everyone wins...is that really such a bad thing? Will we all be on our death beds years from now uttering "rosebud" over a life full of regret and superficial relationships? i think not...enjoy it for what it is and don"t get too hung up in the meaning of it all.
Being married and cheating is not okay. Any loser that does this, is simply a fake asshole that doesn't have the nerve to divorce his wife...
That was a long and pretty good read. Makes us normal working guys just want to give up and see a SP every 2 weeks, thats how long my itch is usually.
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LADY-VIA
i find that when i work in this bizz that im less inclined to date as well.... i just dont have the drive. your mind phrame changes, and things become so more comfortable and much less of a headache when your are not seriouse with someone .its not that i dont want a new boyfrienand i do the last one was horrible .. and maybe theorpy would be good. as long as you are trying to better yourself.... i think it could help if you find that you feel like your incomplete. you have to be your own person and if you feel happy then fuck what other people think. you have to be yourself and be comfortable in your own skin and be happy.
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I haven't tried POF, but don't know how it would be any different than any other service I tried. Lifemates was once recommended to me by an escort because she said she had a friend successfully matched by them, so I handed over $2,600, and they only found me 12 dates, each spaced coincidentally a month apart. When I asked them why it was so hard matching me, they told me it was because I was short. Forget about the masters education and the $70,000 a year I was earning 10 years ago or the fact I had no divorced ex or kids. Not a factor.
Looking through online profiles, the shortest most women appear to want to date is 5'10".
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westcoast555
Yes, I can confirm the height thing. Must be genetic. No matter what people say, women are more inclined toward taller men. Anybody who says otherwise is lying. People lie all the time. Best to believe what you see.
I feel for shorter guys.. it's harder. I'm lucky I'm basically 5 10" which is just about the point where no woman will consider you short. I see lots of women who are 5 2" or 5 3" who want a guy over 6 feet. I understand a woman who's like 5 9" and wants to be shorter than her man in heels I guess.
Women also are attracted to 'bad' boys a lot of the time. I'm sure I'm not the only guy who's been told by women that he's 'too nice'. The thing about POF is that it's free.. so you're not wasting any money.. just your time.
I've about had it with the online dating thing. You're randomly encountering women with attitude who can't meet a guy in their social circle or at work... so you're just exposing yourself to a wider circle of rejection. On the other hand, sometimes it works and you do in fact get laid.
For the most part, I agree with you. But, as a mature female, I can tell you that most guys above a certain age make it more difficult for themselves by narrowing their search to much younger women. I see it all the time on POF. The typical guy aged 50 specifies that he's looking to date someone in the 35-45 age range and he even has the nerve to say "Age is just a number." Meaning that the woman should ignore his age, but he won't ignore hers. Guys are usually very specific about the physical types and are pretty well asking for everything, including someone who will go fishing and hunting with them, and then the next day put on a gourmet dinner. For those of you who think its your height, I suspect its just because of the very narrow pool you are trying to appeal to.
Nah, you guys got it all wrong. This height crap is just that, sure height is needed on a supermodel but man I tell you I work in a BIG ass office and I've seen tall people get no attention from ladies and short guys marry in their 20s. And these guys are under 5 feet 5. Its all about the chemistry when you meet in person not some personal ads where its like buying a used car or a race horse ( well you get the idea).
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westcoast555
Well you are right in some respects... in the real world people are thrown together and they get to see each other in social/work settings, get to know each other and things work out based on chemistry, intangibles, compatibility on a deeper level. That's great.
Online however, people often tend to lead with a bullshit 'laundry list' of key attributes and screen out what would very likely be a good partner. I suspect you're also getting a sample that's skewed towards people with a bit of a 'fussiness' problem in the first place otherwise they would have found somebody in real life. I include myself in that category of course. I tend to be more concerned with looks than I should be.. but I am more compatible with intelligent, kind, good natured women who have a dry sense of humour and some intellectual ability. Hard to find that bundled with a cute, perky athletic looking woman...
Oh Dear.. Life is hard isn't it?
Height makes it easier to get laid. Marrying on the other hand is more about stability.
