SP's returning my phone call

[sensualsixty]

Every once in a while when I call an SP, I connect with their voice mail. I will either say that I will call back another time, or ask them to return the call before a certain time.

I am alarmed by the number of times the SP has returned the call a few minutes later, even though I have said that I would call again. I had called when I had a window of opportunity to talk to the SP, and during the interval before she called, my wife, a client, my father-in-law, whoever, could have entered the location from which I was calling. That could place me in a very awkward situation.

It happened again today when I got a call back from a high profile perb advertiser. The SP may think that if they do not follow up they may miss an opportunity for an engagement, but that returned call could possibly create a major problem for a potential client.

SP's - think about it please.

 

[rockinbods35]

They probably didn't even check their voicemail and just saw a missed call on their phone and as your number was probably not blocked they called you right back.

Texts are less intrusive if you have privacy issues regarding taking or placing phone calls so that might be the way to go. I almost exclusively text, and more sp"s that not will return texts (even those that say no text please) and you can book that way...just keep your phone locked or delete your text history if you have concerns about others finding that info on your phone...now that would be very embarrassing.

That being said many phones will show a brief preview of a text even in the locked home screen when it first comes in..so you might want to check your phone and see if there is a way to change that setting if you want to keep texts between you and an sp discreet. Especially if you have a habit of leaving your phone laying around unattended.

 

[Alix Turner]

Every once in a while when I call an SP, I connect with their voice mail. I will either say that I will call back another time, or ask them to return the call before a certain time.

I am alarmed by the number of times the SP has returned the call a few minutes later, even though I have said that I would call again. I had called when I had a window of opportunity to talk to the SP, and during the interval before she called, my wife, a client, my father-in-law, whoever, could have entered the location from which I was calling. That could place me in a very awkward situation.

It happened again today when I got a call back from a high profile perb advertiser. The SP may think that if they do not follow up they may miss an opportunity for an engagement, but that returned call could possibly create a major problem for a potential client.

SP's - think about it please.

While I absolutely do follow any directions given in voice mails and when I just miss a call by seconds I send an ambiguous text to let them know..not to be rude, but I try not to leave my fate in the hands of others and highly recommend you give it a try. You might want to 1) time your calls differently 2) use a different phone for those calls and 3) keep it on silent or turned off when you would have potentially life altering results should you receive a call from an escort.

there you have it, no more shaking your head at close calls.

 

[badbadboy]

While I absolutely do follow any directions given in voice mails and when I just miss a call by seconds I send an ambiguous text to let them know..not to be rude, but I try not to leave my fate in the hands of others and highly recommend you give it a try. You might want to 1) time your calls differently 2) use a different phone for those calls and 3) keep it on silent or turned off when you would have potentially life altering results should you receive a call from an escort.

there you have it, no more shaking your head at close calls.

All good advice :nod:

You are very good with all communications Alix. It's refreshing since some Ladies never return calls but prefer email or texting.

 

[pinkpanther]

Like rockinbods35 say, they could have just not checked their voicemail and saw your number and returned your call as a courtesy.

I recommend using an app which I use called Vault. You can save a contact, messages, etc. on their and they are removed from your phone contacts and out of site. The vault app is also hidden and accessible through a key code on your dial pad. Anyways, you can choose how to receive calls from your hidden contacts numbers, like receive the regularly, or have them go straight to voicemail.

Anyways, it's your own risk and you can't rely on others actions, nor can you blame them if you are stupid enough to get caught at an awkward moment.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

SPs walk such a fine line...on the one hand, the guys want us to treat this like a business, and take our marketing and our salesmanship, as well as our customer service, very seriously. Then a lady calls a client back, seemingly within a few minutes of the missed call, and he gets upset that she may have called him when it was no longer convenient for him to talk.

To the OP, I totally get the possible difficulties inherent in calling SPs, and most of us are really careful with every gentleman's privacy. But you really have to set things up in such a way that YOU protect your privacy. You can never expect someone to read your mind, or to have any inkling as to your unique situation. And yes, sometimes it takes more time to listen to the voicemail, and the lady might want you to know that a) she's taken your call very seriously and b) she is making an attempt to get back to you asap.

And, now that texting is all the rage, it does seem appropriate to respond to a missed phone call with a text. When I do so, I never put anything that could cross any boundaries in the text.

"Sorry I missed your call...I'm free to talk now! Alex"

 

[twotip]

I prefer to make my initial contact via text message. This way they can get back to me at their convenience. It is very rare that I actually call.

 

[MissingOne]

...I don't own a cell phone and have no interest in the hassle...

That alone makes me a fan.

 

[screwtape1963]

Every once in a while when I call an SP, I connect with their voice mail. I will either say that I will call back another time, or ask them to return the call before a certain time.

I am alarmed by the number of times the SP has returned the call a few minutes later, even though I have said that I would call again. I had called when I had a window of opportunity to talk to the SP, and during the interval before she called, my wife, a client, my father-in-law, whoever, could have entered the location from which I was calling. That could place me in a very awkward situation.

It happened again today when I got a call back from a high profile perb advertiser. The SP may think that if they do not follow up they may miss an opportunity for an engagement, but that returned call could possibly create a major problem for a potential client.

SP's - think about it please.

I'm a bit puzzled by how an 'inconveniently timed' phone call like this could possibly create a "major" problem. Or are you old enough to be contacting SPs legally but not yet old enough to have figured out how to answer your phone with: "Hello? Who did you say you want? Sorry, you must have the wrong number." and hang up again?

I'm sure any SP worth contacting would be able to figure out the score on that one PDQ.

 

[here4fun]

I think some care a thought need to be used by all parties. Guys put some thought into when you call, if a call back is made within a few minutes and that is not a good time for you, you should probably not have made the first call. Ladies please call/text back within the time specified and with some tact.

Also let remember that pocket dialing does happen.

 

[screwtape1963]

Maybe you're a newbie and don't comprehend how much damage an unexpected/unsolicited text or call can cause?

Text, maybe. Call ... right back to YOUR cellphone located in YOUR pocket? Uhmm... no. Unless of course the guy placed the original call from a common-use company/home landline that could be answered by any number of inconvenient people. But using a phone like that to call in the first place (at least without *67 callblocking first) would be so completely, totally and utterly stupid that nobody would ever do it in this age of personal cellphones, right?

 

[dickotoole]

Happened to me a few times, and is nerve racking every time. Typically I have busy days, sometimes meetings are for work or I have an hour or so with family during a day. In between meetings I make calls so I might have 5 or 15 or even 30 minutes to make calls and set up a date for the evening or later in the day. If an SP calls me back (and it has happened) when I happen to be with my wife, and she is using my phone so answers, it can be a problem, especially if the SP starts the conversation by saying, "I just received a call from this number . .." So, I have learned to be prepared to say, "Hello (inquisitively), oh, ah, ya, I must have miss dialed, sorry" and hang up. That works once, the second time you're done.

So, SPs don't call back unless asked to. Simple as that. And if there is a time frame then call IN that time frame. I know I work hard and have a busy work schedule so I can afford to play at this, and at many other things, don't fuck the whole thing up by calling back without following what has been requested. It would be like me drilling your ass right after you specifically told me you don't do greek. Sorry, just doesn't cut it. Be professional and call as and when requested.

Personally I just wish SPs never called back. Pooners can always call later when I have time and it is SAFE to do so.

 

[LalaniElectrica]

This is why I much prefer e-mail so both parties can communicate discreetly and at the most convenient times, less potential for problems to arise. If someone asks me not to call back I will try my utmost not to do so. There is always room for error or if an sp gets many calls at once or pocket dials accidentally, so e-mail is a lot better in every way initially or to arrange an appointment time. I am sometimes unable to answer my phone, or if I get an unclear message I do not return the call, so pooners, try email which is more reliable and discreet and you will have more luck in your communications that way. I sometimes have to schedule time to talk as if I am in an appointment I do not answer calls…

Cheers and Good Luck!

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[LalaniElectrica]

This is why I much prefer e-mail so both parties can communicate discreetly and at the most convenient times, less potential for problems to arise. If someone asks me not to call back I will try my utmost not to do so. There is always room for error or if an sp gets many calls at once or pocket dials accidentally, so e-mail is a lot better in every way initially or to arrange an appointment time. I am sometimes unable to answer my phone, or if I get an unclear message I do not return the call, so pooners, try email which is more reliable and discreet and you will have more luck in your communications that way. I sometimes have to schedule time to talk as if I am in an appointment I do not answer calls…

Cheers and Good Luck!

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[dickotoole]

Lalani, your process, "If someone asks me not to call back I will try my utmost not to do so" puts the onus on the pooner to request that you not call back and even then there is no guarantee, you will "try your utmost."

Why call unless specifically asked to call? On the chance you will get a date would be the only reason. So, on that chance you are prepared to take the risk, for the pooner mind you, that his wife may answer and all that entails. That's harsh

 

[Mutt66]

his wife may answer and all that entails. That's harsh

Callling an SP with a phone that a wife may use is, to put it politely, HIGHLY ill-advised. Screwtape1963 was a little more blunt with his wording. I totally agree with his comments.

Quoting a couple of the SPs here:

Alex - you really have to set things up in such a way that YOU protect your privacy
Alix - I try not to leave my fate in the hands of others

Ultimately, it's up the to caller to, pardon the pun, protect their own ass.

Ideally, as another pooner has stated elsewhere, you may want to invest in a cheap pay as you go flip phone for calling SPs. Turn off the ringer (or stash it) when you're in mixed company.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Every once in a while when I call an SP, I connect with their voice mail. I will either say that I will call back another time, or ask them to return the call before a certain time.

I am alarmed by the number of times the SP has returned the call a few minutes later, even though I have said that I would call again. I had called when I had a window of opportunity to talk to the SP, and during the interval before she called, my wife, a client, my father-in-law, whoever, could have entered the location from which I was calling. That could place me in a very awkward situation.

It happened again today when I got a call back from a high profile perb advertiser. The SP may think that if they do not follow up they may miss an opportunity for an engagement, but that returned call could possibly create a major problem for a potential client.

SP's - think about it please.

I do not have voicemail.

If a client does not send a text and I have missed that call because I am away from the phone and it is within five minutes, I usually call back and say. " Hi, its Vanessa do I have the wrong number?", giving the client a chance to easily terminate the call. If I cannot answer the phone I send one of those automated texts, you know the generic one that says "I am in a meeting" or "Please call back later" and I just hope they do get back!

I could never imagine doing strictly email, I need to talk to my clients and hear their voice and get a "vibe".

 

[LalaniElectrica]

Yes Mutt good call, in the age of technology there are many methods of communication for sure!

"Lalani, your process, "If someone asks me not to call back I will try my utmost not to do so" puts the onus on the pooner to request that you not call back and even then there is no guarantee, you will "try your utmost."

Why call unless specifically asked to call? On the chance you will get a date would be the only reason. So, on that chance you are prepared to take the risk, for the pooner mind you, that his wife may answer and all that entails. That's harsh"

I do not call back unless asked to do so, the only room for error is in the event of a pocket dial or something of that nature which is the only way it would happen, nothing harsh about that, why would you be so critical of my response, there is no reason for that, I am as discreet as I can possibly be in those situations. Many a time I have those who say plz I will call you back, or do not call I will call at a later time… if there is no message there is no call back. As I said, e-mail is much better and much more discreet for those who are concerned about this issue. Cheers!

 

[LalaniElectrica]

Yes Mutt good call, in the age of technology there are many methods of communication for sure!

"Lalani, your process, "If someone asks me not to call back I will try my utmost not to do so" puts the onus on the pooner to request that you not call back and even then there is no guarantee, you will "try your utmost."

Why call unless specifically asked to call? On the chance you will get a date would be the only reason. So, on that chance you are prepared to take the risk, for the pooner mind you, that his wife may answer and all that entails. That's harsh"

I do not call back unless asked to do so, the only room for error is in the event of a pocket dial or something of that nature which is the only way it would happen, nothing harsh about that, why would you be so critical of my response, there is no reason for that, I am as discreet as I can possibly be in those situations. Many a time I have those who say plz I will call you back, or do not call I will call at a later time… if there is no message there is no call back. As I said, e-mail is much better and much more discreet for those who are concerned about this issue. Cheers!

 

[haakon]

Callling an SP with a phone that a wife may use is, to put it politely, HIGHLY ill-advised. Screwtape1963 was a little more blunt with his wording. I totally agree with his comments.

Quoting a couple of the SPs here:

Alex - you really have to set things up in such a way that YOU protect your privacy
Alix - I try not to leave my fate in the hands of others

Ultimately, it's up the to caller to, pardon the pun, protect their own ass.

Ideally, as another pooner has stated elsewhere, you may want to invest in a cheap pay as you go flip phone for calling SPs. Turn off the ringer (or stash it) when you're in mixed company.

Excellently put. If a simple call back will put you in jeopardy, you have to assume that that is exactly what may happen. Use a separate phone and have it stowed and turned off when it would be awkward to answer it. I don't think you can expect the provider to, in all cases, hear, understand, and follow your crystal clear instructions on when it is okay or not okay to call back.