You may get more responses if you mention a couple of things you are into. One persons extreme can be anothers vanilla.
I've had conversations with people who thought using an ovipositor was run of the mill and couldn't understand why a girl they met at a bar freaked at it (I'm not into that in case that is your thing). And I have also seen people who were so self conscious of opening up about what they perceived to be an extreme and embarrassing deviance, and it was something as innocuous as liking stocking and garters (with no fetish associated with it).
If you are a little more open about what you are looking for, you will be much more likely to find a great match for it.
I hope you have a fabulous experience!