SPs being late on confirmed booking time

[westwoody]

The whole point of seeing ladies is to have fun and reduce stress.
If someone wants to jerk my chain and waste my time they can fuck off, there are lots of others who can tell time and act properly.
Don’t enable these people! Patronise the good ones instead.

 

[JustGerry]

The whole point of seeing ladies is to have fun and reduce stress.
If someone wants to jerk my chain and waste my time they can fuck off, there are lots of others who can tell time and act properly.
Don’t enable these people! Patronise the good ones instead.

If I went to a show that started an hour late I'd ask for my money back and leave. My time is valuable too.

 

[luvsdaty]

These types of threads always seem to turn into a bitchfsst. This and pricing threads

 

[westwoody]

It’s important for people to vent.
To know it doesn’t just happen to them.
That it may piss you off but you learn from it and move on.

 

[wintersurfer]

I let them know I have arrived 5 min before the date, will send a “ready” at the agreed time, if I don’t hear back in 5min I bail…

 

[ThroatsFTW!!]

Well thanks everyone for the thoughts.

I feel like there’s some give and take on this but for me that’s like 15-20 mins. Her reasoning was the guy before me took forever and while I appreciate an extra 5-10 mins if needed at the end of a session to make it happen more than that is just being disrespectful of her time and I don’t push beyond that unless she clearly agrees to it and when it happens it’s usually cause I’m the last client of the day.
At some point an SP has to be able to say “hey pal we’re done here” IMO or it’s like visiting the doctors office where you arrive and they are late and you sit for 45 plus mins. And that’s not cool for doctors either but much more understandable. If someone is scheduling so back to back that they can’t make dates happen on time then it’s gonna hurt their customer retention. In this case was her call but I’ve been on the other side and decided I just couldn’t handle the repetitive lateness and stopped seeing them.

 

[Kissmepassionately]

I've been late, but am usually 10 minutes early, sit in my car and wait for 5 minutes before the appointment to text and let them know I am there.
But have also been late, but let them know that I was running late, and if I had a 90 minute session booked, I only stayed the 90 from the time the session was to begin, but paid for the 90, because it was my fault.
Was a total no show once, it was a regular, and I just couldn't make it, so called and told her that I wasn't able to make it, and rebooked the next appointment for the next day. When I saw her the next day I paid her for 2 sessions, because it was my fault that I no showed, the hwy was closed due to an accident.

 

[YYC]

For me it's about 15 minutes and then I bail. I dated a provider once after knowing her and seeing her for a couple of years. It was funny but when I was a client she wasn't a second late, not ever, but as soon as we started dating she was late for everything

 

[Equity Market investor]

3?!! Nevermind after the 1st but, You'd think you would have learned after the 2nd lol 😂😜

My 2nd ex wife.
All three.
Drove me fucking crazy.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

3?!! Nevermind after the 1st but, You'd think you would have learned after the 2nd lol 😂😜

I think the complete quote was:

westwoody said:
Some people can’t follow a schedule or manage their time. We’ve had employees who were late three days a week.
Whether it’s laziness, disrespect or some kind of medical condition I don’t care.

MPH then said
My 2nd ex wife.
All three.
Drove me fucking crazy.

And this brings up something I see happening more and more, not just with some SP's but with a lot more of the general public. Time and appointments seem to be a suggestion. Obviously these people are more important than the folks whose time they are wasting, whether its a state of self importance, a sense of entitlement or they're just assholes. But as I noted about my 2nd wife (none after that by the way) she seemed afflicted with all three. I was way too forgiving but hoo eee, did I learn my lesson after that abuse. Now I don't wait, I cut and leave, pretty much no matter what the situation. And fuck do I feel good about that!!

 

[Kissmepassionately]

Being late unless a good reason, is just them showing how disrespectful they are. They don't see you as important, or else wouldn't waste your time like that.
Find a better class of people to hang out with, you deserve it.

I had a business meeting last week, me and the fellow I was meeting live about a 7 hour drive apart, so we chose a spot mid way between us to meet.
I to into consideration that things can happen, a snow storm means driving slower, a flat tire i have to change, etc. So I left 4.5 hours early of our meeting time, for what should be a 3.5 hour drive if all goes well.
I got to the meeting point, went for a walk to stretch my legs, and then into a shoe store looking for some new shoes. At a half hour before we were to meet, I sent him a text saying I was in town, just shoe shopping but only 3 minutes from the restaurant we were going to.
He replied immediately, I am 5 minutes away.
I hurried up and bought the shoes and hustled over there, and we began 25 minutes before our agreed upon time.
I saw that as a sign of us both respecting the other person.

 

[grusse]

My patience varies with where I am.
In Thailand or the Philippines 15 minutes late equates to being 5 minutes early,lol.
And the ladies performance is reward for patience.
Here I've been fortunate usually no issues but I'll wait 15 minutes.
Yrs ago there was a well-known lady who'd see me off the clock but a 4pm date would turn into a late night rendezvous..less hassle to see her at her agency.

 

[Kissmepassionately]

My patience varies with where I am.
In Thailand or the Philippines 15 minutes late equates to being 5 minutes early,lol.
And the ladies performance is reward for patience.
Here I've been fortunate usually no issues but I'll wait 15 minutes.
Yrs ago there was a well-known lady who'd see me off the clock but a 4pm date would turn into a late night rendezvous..less hassle to see her at her agency.

In Japan, Vietnam, Korea, and Hong Kong, I found that being only 5 minutes early, was basically considered being late to them.

 

[PuntMeister]

On the Integrity—>Flakey scale, I value integrity.

I get my shit together so that I am on time, all the time. If something comes up, like a flat tire, speeding ticket, or medical emergency, then I text in advance. Yup, my heart could be failing and I’d still text, “uh, sorry babe, not feeling well; huge regrets but must cancel”. Then dial 911. I expect the same level of respect and integrity too. Yes shit happens, but if either person doesn’t communicate clearly and TIMELY, then they lack integrity

So, sure, I will wait 10-30 mins (once), for an appointment where the communication is timely and solid. But no contact 10 mins after appointment time, then she’s a flake, and I bail at 15mins (my mood won’t be good for a session at that point anyway, and beer on tap is a reliable mood adjuster 😆 ).

 

[PuntMeister]

There was one dude a while back that said he would reverse-flake any sp’s that ghosted him. He’d setup another appointment from a text app or burner number, then wait 10 mins after start time to see if any “hey, where are you?” text comes through. Then ask for ten mins more, cuz you know, a hair follicle might be out of place or something, then comes up with other excuses until he gets blocked.

A bit of a douche move for sure, but karma ain’t always pretty. Anyway, bad idea cuz it makes all us pooners look bad. I’d rather just tell her she’s too unreliable for me and wish her well.

 

[jgg]

Being late unless a good reason, is just them showing how disrespectful they are. They don't see you as important, or else wouldn't waste your time like that.
Find a better class of people to hang out with, you deserve it.

I had a business meeting last week, me and the fellow I was meeting live about a 7 hour drive apart, so we chose a spot mid way between us to meet.
I to into consideration that things can happen, a snow storm means driving slower, a flat tire i have to change, etc. So I left 4.5 hours early of our meeting time, for what should be a 3.5 hour drive if all goes well.
I got to the meeting point, went for a walk to stretch my legs, and then into a shoe store looking for some new shoes. At a half hour before we were to meet, I sent him a text saying I was in town, just shoe shopping but only 3 minutes from the restaurant we were going to.
He replied immediately, I am 5 minutes away.
I hurried up and bought the shoes and hustled over there, and we began 25 minutes before our agreed upon time.
I saw that as a sign of us both respecting the other person.

If you are on time, you're already late...said no millennial, ever.

 

[Cock Throppled]

On the Integrity—>Flakey scale, I value integrity.

I get my shit together so that I am on time, all the time. If something comes up, like a flat tire, speeding ticket, or medical emergency, then I text in advance. Yup, my heart could be failing and I’d still text, “uh, sorry babe, not feeling well; huge regrets but must cancel”. Then dial 911. I expect the same level of respect and integrity too. Yes shit happens, but if either person doesn’t communicate clearly and TIMELY, then they lack integrity

So, sure, I will wait 10-30 mins (once), for an appointment where the communication is timely and solid. But no contact 10 mins after appointment time, then she’s a flake, and I bail at 15mins (my mood won’t be good for a session at that point anyway, and beer on tap is a reliable mood adjuster 😆 ).

This is also my operating policy for any appointment with anyone, for any reason. It doesn't take much nowadays to communicate. It's not like anyone has to search for a phone.
I was permanently ghosted by an SP, I was a regular for for 2 years. Never any issues I was aware of. Reached out a to her a couple of times, never received a reply, and still have no idea why. I'd like to know to make sure I don't inadvertently do something to piss off another SP. Throwing away a trusted, safe regular doesn't make sense. I think it might be her own issues, but who knows?

 

[PuntMeister]

This is also my operating policy for any appointment with anyone, for any reason. It doesn't take much nowadays to communicate. It's not like anyone has to search for a phone.
I was permanently ghosted by an SP, I was a regular for for 2 years. Never any issues I was aware of. Reached out a to her a couple of times, never received a reply, and still have no idea why. I'd like to know to make sure I don't inadvertently do something to piss off another SP. Throwing away a trusted, safe regular doesn't make sense. I think it might be her own issues, but who knows?

Sucks. I feel for you CT’d. You deserved at least a bye-bye or a reason for getting ghosted. Guess this crap comes with the territory.

Sometimes I don’t get a reply after a few good sessions either, over-think things, assume I have pissed her off in some way but can’t imagine how. I let it slide. Then one day downstream, just send an innocuous ‘are you available Wednesday; seen you before would like to see you again’, and next thing I know, we’re back in the saddle. Happened twice—both times it was shit going on in her life and the woman just needed some space. Woulda been nice to know but I guess at the time her life complexities took priority. At least it was nice to learn later that I did nothing wrong; and even got chided for waiting so long to reconnect! WTF? Oh, well guess if women weren’t so mysterious to me I wouldn’t crave spending time with them so much. Now if I could just get them to flake down a teensie bit? Lol.

 

[rlock]

This is also my operating policy for any appointment with anyone, for any reason. It doesn't take much nowadays to communicate. It's not like anyone has to search for a phone.

That's not always true.

I had problems communicating once with an SP because she was sending info via some method using MMS messages, which my burner phone could not read, unless I was able to poach WiFi at Starbucks or something. Same issue with communicating via email only - you want to look at it, you the ability to go online to get that webmail.

Another time, I got a "hey are you coming" text like half an hour before an appointment. I was driving, going over a bridge, so it was not like I could answer while driving. Since I didn't respond within a minute or two, the SW cancelled the appointment, figuring I was no-showing, and I had to seek someone else out on the fly.

Still another time, I got almost cancelled / assumed no show, because I thought I had made clear I was going to be there, and she didn't think I had replied clearly enough & close enough to the appointment time. I got lucky in that she was not gone from the building yet, but she had thought I had bailed, when I was right outside & on time, waiting to be let in. (Which makes one reconsider when some SW's say: "I want only minimal communications, like 3 messages from inquiry to confirmation, and keep it discreet".)

The point is: communication in the field does not always go smoothly.

 

[westwoody]

I got a "hey are you coming" text like half an hour before an appointment. I was driving, going over a bridge, so it was not like I could answer while driving

This is really annoying!
It’s a 45 minute drive from where I live in the boonies to the incall…and get 3 or four messages “are you coming?”, “how far away are you?”.
I stop to text that I will be there in 30 minutes. Ten minutes later: “how long will you be?”
Then the “Can you go to Starbucks and get me a blahblahblah…”
So you fuck around for fifteen minutes getting a stupid coffee and she goes “ah this isn’t what I wanted”. And doesn’t drink it.