SP's and their SO's

[dakota30]

Very well put Traveller69!

And good point Westwoody. That one question becomes 20 almost every time. I will answer the first one honestly. But everything after that gets a curt "I'm not comfortable answering that question". Most guys get it and move on. Some don't and keep asking. They end up having a session with an sp who is uptight, creeped out by the barrage of questions about her personal life and counting the minutes until you get out. Not my idea of a good time!

btw-Interesting twist Oilman

 

[everydayjoe]

i really have to say it is not important either way. the one thing i will say is that, i have had a couple of sp ask if i'm married. now, i am, but it did made me feel all the more worse about what i am doing, which led to a 'soft finish'. i did not repeat with those sp, not due to their service or looks, but because of the dreaded question.

 

[Avery]

I always thought there were two questions that should never be asked between client and escort.

Gentleman never asks lady, "So, why did you become an escort?"

Lady never asks gentleman, "So, are you married?"

It's also not appropriate for the client to ask the escort if she's married or in some kind of relationship.

On the other hand, many times, both parties may volunteer personal information. It's then OK to ask questions based on that, as long as they're not too intrusive. For example, it's OK to ask, "Do you have kids?". It's not OK to ask, "What are your children's names?"

If the client repeats, often some of the barriers come down a little.

 

[Captain Bly]

I always thought there were two questions that should never be asked between client and escort.

Gentleman never asks lady, "So, why did you become an escort?"

Lady never asks gentleman, "So, are you married?"

It's also not appropriate for the client to ask the escort if she's married or in some kind of relationship.

On the other hand, many times, both parties may volunteer personal information. It's then OK to ask questions based on that, as long as they're not too intrusive. For example, it's OK to ask, "Do you have kids?". It's not OK to ask, "What are your children's names?"

If the client repeats, often some of the barriers come down a little.

Amazingly enough I totally agree!!

 

[Nina102]

that was very well put .... chooch ....
all the scenarios were covered .....

just a question to all the sp's ......

if i was a regular with an SP ...
and we happen to run across each other in public ....
is it " rude" to ignore the other party ....
or is it suicidal to say " hi" ...... ??

just curious .....
as sometimes certain actions or lack of certain actions can be construed as being .... " snobby" ... or " hostile" .....

wondering whats " acceptable" behavior ....
thanks ....

I would die if a client came up to me in public. Could you imagine if anyone else was around to hear him call me Nina!?
I think it shows more respect for both parties to simply smile and walk away, until the next visit.

 

[Bugs]

I like Nina's comment about smile and walk away until the next visit. I had an interesting experience at Ikea a few years ago. An SP I see quite regularly and I were sort of roaming the same section. Neither of us said a word to each other just flashed flirty smiles of recognition. I could hardly wait to see her in the studio again.

I'd like to think that this hobby is mostly about fulfilling our bedroom fantasy's and therefore a meeting in public doesn't quite fit. Unless of course you meet somewhere like Victoria's Secret, in which case I'd be more than happy to act as a undie consultant !

 

[~Elexsis~]

that was very well put .... chooch ....
all the scenarios were covered .....

just a question to all the sp's ......

if i was a regular with an SP ...
and we happen to run across each other in public ....
is it " rude" to ignore the other party ....
or is it suicidal to say " hi" ...... ??

just curious .....
as sometimes certain actions or lack of certain actions can be construed as being .... " snobby" ... or " hostile" .....

wondering whats " acceptable" behavior ....
thanks ....

My view on this is if the client notices the sp and makes a jesture than it is polite to make one back and if they wink you wink but discretly it is another thing to run up and assume to make conversation you never know what they are doing in thier personal life play is play and as many others have said us girls have lifes too just like a client does it is equal the way it should be

 

[hardup]

What is discreet?

Webster's say's,

Marked by, exercising, or showing prudence and wise self-restraint in speech and behavior; circumspect.
Free from ostentation or pretension; modest

Interesting,Dictionary .com puts it somewhat different,

adj 1: marked by prudence or modesty and wise self-restraint; "his trusted discreet aide"; "a discreet, finely wrought gold necklace" [ant: indiscreet] 2: unobtrusively perceptive and sympathetic; "a discerning editor"; "a discreet silence" [syn: discerning] 3: heedful of potential consequences; "circumspect actions"; "physicians are now more circumspect about recommending its use"; "a discreet investor"

Seems to me that if you use your head and be "discreet" then all this is for not....All the girls use this word in their advertising and all us guy's are looking for this, soooo....practise discretion, it's just about thinking beforehand.

If I were to see an Provider in the mall and she was alone I may approach her and strike up a conversation just like any other lady....because she is. If she was with someone then a smile and a nod would be more appropriate. To approach her and act like old friends when you don't even know her name(really) is just not being discreet or you're just not bright enough to get it, in which case you should never keep secrets. Come clean and be saved and be on your merry way.

This certainly applies to the girl's as well unless it's me you see out there, come talk...I'm buying lunch

 

[Paris]

This is to answer EnTropys' question. It is not rude to ignore an SP when running into her in public. It is the appropriate thing to do, weather she is alone or not, unless she signals otherwise.

I have run into clients in a public place on occasion, and have winked just to acknowlege that I see them. But that's as far as it goes.

Recently, I went to Banff to ski, and a client of mine who knew that we would be on the same plane that a.m. called to ask me not to acknowlege him if I saw him. Thought it was a tad silly, considering I'm far more considerate then that.

On the other side of the tracks, I think it's rude to sail on by a client and act as though he doesn't exist, when he's trying to say hello to you.

It's a touchy situation, with no one set of rules, as all situations and people differ.

Paris/Caryn

 

[Paris]

I have to agree with Avery 100% about the questions asked between a client and an SP.

I absolutely hate being asked what prompted myself to become an escort.

When asked I always give a blank stare......duh!

And as far as asking a client about his marital status ect.....who in the hell wants to talk about their SO in that type of situation?

I'm supplying a fantasy for an hour or more. Key..........forget the outside world for the time we spend together.

Paris/Caryn

 

[Quimby]

I absolutely hate being asked what prompted myself to become an escort.

I hate when an escort will say "so, what do you do for a living?".

My answer ranges anywhere - from - nuclear physisist to fresh air inspector.

(believe it or not, some will say "Oh, that's interesting" ... brings back memories of Wayne and Garth being interviewd on the radio about waynestock!)

 

[memyselfandI]

I absolutely hate being asked what prompted myself to become an escort.

And as far as asking a client about his marital status ect.....who in the hell wants to talk about their SO in that type of situation?
Paris/Caryn

I agree that both topics are basically unacceptable.

However, I must confess, I am REALLY curious about SPs and they came to be in the profession, how they feel, what they think, etc....

I would NEVER ask! Not in a million years, I'm not that dumb. But I am curious....