So, what would you do if you found out your favourite SP had an SO. Does it matter? Does it matter if he knows or not. Any ideas or interest in this matter?
SP's and their SO's
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So that is a does not matter then? lol.... And who said anything about doing such naughty things... dear oh dear, I am so shocked
agreed alex......we don't ask about your private life...news flash...some of us have one too!!!
eek.....who knew......secrets out!
xo.....
eek.....who knew......secrets out!
xo.....
I was in a casino last night and I ran into an sp i've seen acouple times with her SO - wierd. We just ignored eachother but I could telll she was uncomfortable.
Personally, I think that if a guy is bothered by the fact that his favorite SP has a SO, then he is perhaps making a little too much of the SP/Client relationship. Granted there is a chance that a person can become emotionally attached to someone else if they spend enough time together (isn't this the nature of friendships?). But to assume that the cordial nature of a favorite SP translates into her not being able to have relationships outside of the SP/client time, without the the client becoming jealous/upset/whatever, is unrealistic and not just a little bit scary.
I have to agree with Alexandria as well. No matter what type of friendly banter, naughty flirting, or anything else that could be (mis)construed for friendship happens, the relationship between the SP and the client is always based on money. Unless of course she starts giving you sessions for free, which might be a different story I suppose... Whether or not the client and SP might have become great friends if they had met outside the realm of her work is irrelevant. She is being nice because she is being paid to be. The SP shouldn't "owe" a guy anything except for the pleasant experience that he pays for, for the time that he has booked her company.
I know that some guys that post on the boards here have managed to cultivate friendships, or friendly acquaintances with the SPs they visit, and this post isn't meant to bash them, or the relationships that have made. I think it is great that they have found somebody that they enjoy spending time with and money on. Perhaps the SP really does enjoy the time that she spends with some of her clients. But I think that it would be naive for the client to think that the SP will not have her own life outside of work that does not involve the client at all.
Ok, I'm getting down off of my rickety soap box now before I fall.
-C.
I have to agree with Alexandria as well. No matter what type of friendly banter, naughty flirting, or anything else that could be (mis)construed for friendship happens, the relationship between the SP and the client is always based on money. Unless of course she starts giving you sessions for free, which might be a different story I suppose... Whether or not the client and SP might have become great friends if they had met outside the realm of her work is irrelevant. She is being nice because she is being paid to be. The SP shouldn't "owe" a guy anything except for the pleasant experience that he pays for, for the time that he has booked her company.
I know that some guys that post on the boards here have managed to cultivate friendships, or friendly acquaintances with the SPs they visit, and this post isn't meant to bash them, or the relationships that have made. I think it is great that they have found somebody that they enjoy spending time with and money on. Perhaps the SP really does enjoy the time that she spends with some of her clients. But I think that it would be naive for the client to think that the SP will not have her own life outside of work that does not involve the client at all.
Ok, I'm getting down off of my rickety soap box now before I fall.
-C.
that was very well put .... chooch ....
all the scenarios were covered .....
just a question to all the sp's ......
if i was a regular with an SP ...
and we happen to run across each other in public ....
is it " rude" to ignore the other party ....
or is it suicidal to say " hi" ...... ??
just curious .....
as sometimes certain actions or lack of certain actions can be construed as being .... " snobby" ... or " hostile" .....
wondering whats " acceptable" behavior ....
thanks ....
all the scenarios were covered .....
just a question to all the sp's ......
if i was a regular with an SP ...
and we happen to run across each other in public ....
is it " rude" to ignore the other party ....
or is it suicidal to say " hi" ...... ??
just curious .....
as sometimes certain actions or lack of certain actions can be construed as being .... " snobby" ... or " hostile" .....
wondering whats " acceptable" behavior ....
thanks ....
SO's
I think neither the client nor the SP should care if the other has a SO.
I get annoyed when some SP's ask me if I am married. I understand they are trying to be nice and start a conversation but this is not the type of topic I want to talk about.
I think neither the client nor the SP should care if the other has a SO.
I get annoyed when some SP's ask me if I am married. I understand they are trying to be nice and start a conversation but this is not the type of topic I want to talk about.
I think I'd rather have a session with someone who has an SO than with one who doesn't. She'd probably be better grounded and happier.
I have never seen any SP more then 5 times, so I guess that maybe why I have never had a regular SP.
I agree that if you acctualy care about a SPs life outside the room then you have crossed the line from client to creepy stalker and you need to stop seeing her.
If you are viewing it from "wonder how the relationship between a SP and thier SO who knows thier a SP works" perspective then your getting into some physological and relationship study stuff.
I agree that if you acctualy care about a SPs life outside the room then you have crossed the line from client to creepy stalker and you need to stop seeing her.
If you are viewing it from "wonder how the relationship between a SP and thier SO who knows thier a SP works" perspective then your getting into some physological and relationship study stuff.
I just don't want to be lied to about it. I think if an SP has a boyfriend, she should say so and be honest. I believe there are some girls out there who lie about being single, when they are not. This must bring them more business (otherwise why do it), but it crosses a line IMHO.
Stacy, this is just my general philosophy on life. I think people should be as honest with each other as possible. I don't mean brutal honesty, like "Do I look fat?" "Sorry you're blotting out the sun." honesty. I mean, point-blank, "Do you have a boyfriend?" "No."
Maybe the guy shouldn't ask the question in the first place, but I think that there ways to deal with the subject without misleading ("Let's not talk about me, hun.")
I've known SPs who have spun so many lies that I sometimes wonder if they remember what the truth is.
Then again, I'm talking about dealing with SPs in the real world. I agree with you that if your relationship is purely professional, then who cares?
I also don't think that saying that if clients lie about their marital status, that it's OK for the SP to do so too. Neither side should lie is all I'm saying.
Maybe the guy shouldn't ask the question in the first place, but I think that there ways to deal with the subject without misleading ("Let's not talk about me, hun.")
I've known SPs who have spun so many lies that I sometimes wonder if they remember what the truth is.
Then again, I'm talking about dealing with SPs in the real world. I agree with you that if your relationship is purely professional, then who cares?
I also don't think that saying that if clients lie about their marital status, that it's OK for the SP to do so too. Neither side should lie is all I'm saying.
Sexy and single 
Poonmaster,
I'm note sure but I wish I knew what your point is.
2 things:
I am a "working girl" with no S/O and I figure what do I actually need a man in my life for at this time when I have lots of fun/sex and friends and I can handle my finances well enough.
2nd, it's not that I wouldn't ever want a man in my life; fate will have it one day! But if I'm a working girl I can't even perceive how I could be an sp - with a boyfriend, it is not gonna work with me--never.
Most important, I quite enjoy what I do and am a happy girl! Having an S/O would be far too much to deal with doing what I do to think I wouldn't be repeatingly hurting that person--which would be selfish AND that is (just) my opinion.
Brooke
Poonmaster,
I'm note sure but I wish I knew what your point is.
2 things:
I am a "working girl" with no S/O and I figure what do I actually need a man in my life for at this time when I have lots of fun/sex and friends and I can handle my finances well enough.
2nd, it's not that I wouldn't ever want a man in my life; fate will have it one day! But if I'm a working girl I can't even perceive how I could be an sp - with a boyfriend, it is not gonna work with me--never.
Most important, I quite enjoy what I do and am a happy girl! Having an S/O would be far too much to deal with doing what I do to think I wouldn't be repeatingly hurting that person--which would be selfish AND that is (just) my opinion.
Brooke
Westwoody, I wouldn't presume to think I owned any girl in the biz. The only time I've ever asked a girl if she has an SO is if they asked me first. Then I think it's a fair topic. This has happened twice. And if I answer honestly, I hope they do the same. That's all I'm saying.
Misunderstood
I guess I did not make myself clear. I would not be upset about finding out and I have had this happen before I just wanted to know other opinions. I still saw the lady and it was better to know. Her man knew about it so that made it all the better for me. Some of the ladies are such good actresses that some guys start to believe that it is real. If you do, it is time to take a break and re-examine what is happening. Take it for what it is, and remember that in this business there is a reason they are called SP's but they are just like everyone else and have lovers, children, families and lives they do not want you to intrude in or know about.
I guess I did not make myself clear. I would not be upset about finding out and I have had this happen before I just wanted to know other opinions. I still saw the lady and it was better to know. Her man knew about it so that made it all the better for me. Some of the ladies are such good actresses that some guys start to believe that it is real. If you do, it is time to take a break and re-examine what is happening. Take it for what it is, and remember that in this business there is a reason they are called SP's but they are just like everyone else and have lovers, children, families and lives they do not want you to intrude in or know about.
Here's a different angle on this. Let's compare the "SP - Client" relationship with a "Doctor - Patient" relationship.
I'm thinking of this because I went to a doctor a few years ago, and she happened to be a very attractive young female doctor. Of course as soon as I saw her, I had all sorts of sexual fantasies running through my head.
I went to the doctors office and saw her for a 1/2 hour. We went into the room, she closed the door, after some talking, I had to drop my pants for a closer examination. I got dressed, we talked some more, and I paid the fee on the way out.
I did not ask the doctor if she had an SO or was married, as it was completely irrelevant to why I was there. I went to the doctor for a medical reason, got the service, paid for it, end of story.
If I ran into her on the street, I would expect that she would not walk up and ask "Has that rash cleared up?". Doctor-Patient confidentiality means that she would be discreet. What happens between a doctor and patient in her office stays between the doctor and patient.
I believe all of this applies to a SP - Client relationship. You pay for a service over a set amount of time. What the SP or client does outside of this "service time" is irrelevant unless it directly affects the health, safety, or quality of the service.
I'm thinking of this because I went to a doctor a few years ago, and she happened to be a very attractive young female doctor. Of course as soon as I saw her, I had all sorts of sexual fantasies running through my head.
I went to the doctors office and saw her for a 1/2 hour. We went into the room, she closed the door, after some talking, I had to drop my pants for a closer examination. I got dressed, we talked some more, and I paid the fee on the way out.
I did not ask the doctor if she had an SO or was married, as it was completely irrelevant to why I was there. I went to the doctor for a medical reason, got the service, paid for it, end of story.
If I ran into her on the street, I would expect that she would not walk up and ask "Has that rash cleared up?". Doctor-Patient confidentiality means that she would be discreet. What happens between a doctor and patient in her office stays between the doctor and patient.
I believe all of this applies to a SP - Client relationship. You pay for a service over a set amount of time. What the SP or client does outside of this "service time" is irrelevant unless it directly affects the health, safety, or quality of the service.
Traveller69, what a very succinct delivery in explaining your approach to this hobby. Well said.Traveller69 said:
a different angle...
OK... I am sure this is just MY kink.... and even though I don't ask, because of the reasons so well stated previously... I IMAGINE during the session that the SP is MARRIED... I get off on this, not sure why, I have even had an sp pretend she was married {don't know if she was or not.... was not the point} Alot about this hobby is the fantasy.
A romantic dinner out with a married lady... a secert affair....
OK... I am sure this is just MY kink.... and even though I don't ask, because of the reasons so well stated previously... I IMAGINE during the session that the SP is MARRIED... I get off on this, not sure why, I have even had an sp pretend she was married {don't know if she was or not.... was not the point} Alot about this hobby is the fantasy.
A romantic dinner out with a married lady... a secert affair....
