Sp's and Boyfriends..

[Ironhead]

I think we have been over this ground before.

I am just curious if it is possible to make that relationship last.
I have dated strippers, which is kind of the same thing. They don't actually sleep with thier clients. We had fun for a short time. The hours sucked and keeping the relationship quite became a bother.

Would you be able to lay in the same bed with a girl who may have sleeped with a few guys everyday of the week?
Would you live off her money? or use your own.
It is my experience that these kind of relationship never last long-term.
I think there comes a point where either party wnats to make more of the relationship.Do we have kids?

Myself, I found it strange,knowing that she does what she does.Yes, you can treat it as just another job.Much easier to do with stripper,than a sp.
I don't think that being an Sp is "just another job" It comes with far more risks and safety issues. It could also be a problem form the Sp< reg. clients, if she works all hrs of the day,everyday.
I don't know, it does affect a girls dignity and self-esteem.

I think I would have a problem after a while. It may be fun for a while,but I don't think it is a long-term deal. There would have to be some very deep feelings and hard discussions with both parties.

 

[Nickthenoob]

Good question. I'll respond better when I have that situation.

Nicado

 

[DJLAW]

it aint fun.

it fucks with your head.

 

[LaCreme]

Be careful. Before you know it..you start to have feelings.

Then it's all fucked up and complicated.

yeah thanks because it fuck up the head that why also i left to think about it more and more and in canada is no good to have feeling..i only love my self is all i need.

 

[Man Mountain]

Avarice the time traveller

Be careful. Before you know it..you start to have feelings.

Then it's all fucked up and complicated.

He sounds like someone I know.

How the hell did you quote a post 12 minutes before it was posted?! You're like some kind of witchy woman!

 

[visiting]

How the hell did you quote a post 12 minutes before it was posted?! You're like some kind of witchy woman!

Ya WTF? do you know what i am thinking now AVA?

 

[TheRater]

Be careful. Before you know it..you start to have feelings.

Then it's all fucked up and complicated.

He sounds like someone I know.

Love is not sex. Sadly, less than 0.05% of humans understand this.

- TR

 

[Verb]

I was asked about this before from a SP and I declind as it was gonna be too weird.

She wanted me to live with her but I don't think I can handle it when she gets a appointment and she is banging in the next room...Way too much confusion.

 

[citylover]

Personally, I am far more interested in reading a thread about SP's & their girlfriends

I guess you could say it's the perv(b) in me

BUt only if you go into ALL the dirty li'l details...heeheehee, uhuhuhuhuh... yes... dirty....yes... dirty....yes... dirty....yes... dirty........................

 

[Lady Companion]

If you require external validation, that I doubt it is for you

If you are seeking validation from others that it will work - then I really doubt it would for you. It takes an exceedingly secure man to honestly be able to handle having his partner entertain. He needs to truly understand that sex and love are not the same thing, and be secure in the fact that she loves him on an entirely different level that is unique to him. He has to trust that her heart belongs to him, and know that she would come to him and discuss matters if lines began to blend.

Very few men are able to handle this on a present basis. I should clarify....very few GOOD men are able to handle this. There are plenty who are looking to gain something from the relationship (be it money or the fantasy of being with a provider). I wouldn't define these as being true relationships, and certainly wouldn't define them as being loving ones.

If a man is able to compartmentalize his partners occupation, and he truly trusts her and loves her for who she is as an individual (being an SP does not define who we are - it is simply something we choose to do) then yes, I do think it is entirely possible to have a wonderfully loving relationship. All pairings are wrought with trials, and this industry simply brings to the table some unique ones which haven't been hashed out for decades in mainstream pop psych.

As an interesting aside, I find it amazing how many ladies are in this industry with spouses who have absolutely no clue as to what they do.

 

[CJ Tylers]

I'm a pretty open minded guy, and I'm able to separate the person from the job. Also, I have pretty much always known (and accept) that love does not equate to sex.

That said, I doubt I'd be able to cope with a spouse that is an active SP. Chances are, for the most part, I'd be worried sick for them (re: safety etc). I'd also worry that she'd have a common acquaintance as a cleint. At that point, the thought of my spouse in bed with someone else would probably piss me off... and so it would continue, day in, day out, until either she quit or we'd break up.

Perhaps it's a failing of my upbrining/mindset. I really don't know... but I think that any man that is interesting in a woman who is also a sp should really examine his feelings (and reasons). He needs to be honest with himself as well as her, as dishonesty will only lead to upset in the future.

That being said, if you find someone that you really click with...someone that you feel as though you've known them forever and want to continue in that vein... don't give up on them or a relationship with them. The benefits of that kind of a relationship are priceless.

Now, all I need to do is find someone like that for myself. *sigh*

 

[john23]

I'd say if you are genuinely helping people in whatever way then I can't really complain about it.

 

[TheRater]

And I'll bet most of those who do understand this are guys.

Actually, no. Women are the ones who understand this best.

- TR

 

[freakychef]

Alright I know something about this....

...my current wife is an ex escort. It has alot of complications but it can be worked out if both parties are willing. At the end of the day you have to share something more than just sex with him/her. I personally know full well love is love and different from sex. I have personally fallen in love with 4-5 sp's in my life, most of the situations did not last. however as well for me I would not trade any of those experiences for the world! Look as I see it we are all only human and you could fall for someone you meet anytime, anywhere. Not just through this situation. It must be extremely difficult for the sp to sepperate reality and "work" sometimes. IMO