Spanking.....

[Lee Marvin]

I don't get it:
Please tell me what you know.
Ladies?

 

[badbadboy]

Some really enjoy a love tap and some rightfully so prefer not to have paw prints left on their butts.

My problem is I have sometimes got in the moment and laid a smack on one of those who don't like it.

A definite WTF are you thinking BBB?

:doh:

 

[Lee Marvin]

Really? I had no idea. I actually thought it was a girl thing.
Is it a s/m thing? Submissive? Or just the nerves and endorphins you mentioned. Is a level of actual pain required or is the act itself enough?

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I always ask first but a surprising number of women ( and I suspect men) like it. I've had a couple of women who actually encourage me to hit harder. They've told me it's the sound of a loud slap plus the rush Miss Tanya describes that turns them on. I don't get it but I am happy to accommodate those that do. Like I said, I always ask first. To each his/herown.

Yup...I appreciate being on the receiving end of a good firm spanking!!

 

[Flavius]

Yup...I appreciate being on the receiving end of a good firm spanking!!

I can vouch for that!

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I can vouch for that!

Yes...yes, you can!!

 

[Lee Marvin]

I'm really looking for advice. I don't know what my goal is. Is it kind of like most things sexual:start out gentle and take it as far as it is working? Yeah, I guess I just answered my own question.
I'm happy to do this for my partner but without the right context and knowledge of what I'm supposed to be doing I'm reticent.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I'm really looking for advice. I don't know what my goal is. Is it kind of like most things sexual:start out gentle and take it as far as it is working? Yeah, I guess I just answered my own question.
I'm happy to do this for my partner but without the right context and knowledge of what I'm supposed to be doing I'm reticent.

And...copy pasta! This is a great article...

https://www.lelo.com/blog/lelo-explains-adult-spanking/

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I'm really looking for advice. I don't know what my goal is. Is it kind of like most things sexual:start out gentle and take it as far as it is working? Yeah, I guess I just answered my own question.
I'm happy to do this for my partner but without the right context and knowledge of what I'm supposed to be doing I'm reticent.

Here you go...


https://www.lelo.com/blog/lelo-explains-adult-spanking/

and

https://www.lelo.com/blog/makes-erotic-spanking-feel-good/

Enjoy your Sunday read, folks. Any further research that needs a participant, just let me know! :eyebrows:

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I don't usually start out of the gate with a provider who I'm seeing for the first time with spanking. It's more "when the adrenaline and sensual juices get going," that it becomes hot for me! (being on the receiving end) When a new lady is massaging my back, butt and legs, I may say, "Feel free to slap me on the butt!" I'm amazed to this day, how many women are not only willing to do it, but they seem to WELCOME that opportunity. When I say "feel free to lightly slap me on the butt," some say, "just lightly?" and I know that I'm in business! Or, they slap me after I say "feel free to," and they do it HARD!

Of course, there are some who either outright say that they're not comfortable with it, which I will fully respect. Then there are those women who don't say outright that they are uncomfortable, but it seems pretty obvious, and I don't push it.

There's also a different kind (same degree, but just difference in kind) of appeal and sexiness, about getting spanked by a different type of woman: Hot blonde, brunette, Irish redhead, Middle-Eastern, hot light-skinned black, and Asian.

I've had some women ask me to spank THEM, and as much as I love getting smacked hard on the bottom, I'm not quite as comfortable slapping a woman on HER bottom, even though she asks me, and even says "you can do it harder!"

Sometimes, in the mutual shower, a provider has no knowledge about my liking of spanking, and on their own accord, they slap me in the shower, and I know that I'm in business!

I've had very few opportunities to date English women, but from when I watched porn movies, I know that English women can spank very hard! When I dated Martini (Surrey Ladies), after bbbj, bls, dfk, she happened to be in a "kneeling position," I laid myself across her lap, and she knew EXACTLY what to do: She rubbed my butt with her hand, and started giving me hard firm English spankings! I had NO trouble cumming inside of her, in less than a minute, because I was so hard!

In my real life, when I worked as a lifeguard, I did an early morning lap swim with a guard named Cindy, who was 5'8", blonde and busty. One time, I was late coming out for my rotation, she came into the office to get me, said "You're late for your rotation," and smacked me on the bottom, and being 23 at the time, I got an IMMEDIATE hard-on! As soon as I got home that night, I jacked off thinking about Cindy. That was when I also started to see providers (not as frequently, at that age), and it just happens that a few months after the "Cindy story," I saw a hot tall blonde provider, who gave me my first hard firm hand spankings!

I also enjoy being on the giving end of an OTK. (Feel free to affirm, anybody!)

People either don't know or don't remember that initially I started advertising as a domme only, and that initially, it was a lot of hard spankings with happy endings. As I was healing from a dog bite to my dominant hand at the time, I wound up with badly bruised palms more than once those first few weeks! (I kept getting more and more requests along the lines of "I don't like that domme stuff...do you do GFE?" and the rest was, as they say, history...) So there's the Girlfriend Experience, and then there's the "You & Your Girlfriend Are KINKY" experience, I guess...I always like bringing some kink into the mix!

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[Lee Marvin]

Thanks Erica
I knew you would help me. I have a much better idea now. I sort of shrank back when asked for a spanking because I knew my ignorance was exposed. This gives me more confidence to partake and explore.
Now, practice, practice, practice.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Thanks Erica
I knew you would help me. I have a much better idea now. I sort of shrank back when asked for a spanking because I knew my ignorance was exposed. This gives me more confidence to partake and explore.
Now, practice, practice, practice.

You're more than welcome...feel free to contact me if there's anything else I can do in the name of research! :eyebrows:

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

As mentioned in the links Ms E posted...Just make sure to hit on the fleshier part of the butt. Upper thighs are a good spot to hit as well. Avoid the lower back, tailbone & hip bone. Using implements after a hand spanking warm up is fun too. You can experiment with different sizes & types of paddles, floggers, straps. Even household items like wooden paddle bathbrushes & hair brushes, wooden spoons. My hairbrush is my favourite (and most used).

To make things even more intense; add some bondage, blindfolds, ball gags :eyebrows:

Safe words (or safe motions when using gags) are a good idea too.

Hmmm...spanking duo, anyone? :eyebrows:

 

[Lee Marvin]

I read "my hairbrush is my favourite" and my blood all rushed south.
Wow I've been thinking a lot about a blindfold experience. I never imagined til now that spanking could be part of it. I think this just spanked my mind.

 

[LADY-VIA]

I love the sensation of having Sasha slapped hard then gently licked right after. Like a good solid split second sting followed my a soft lick and hot breath technique. Playing with pleasure and pain, if done properly can really make a person quiver, in a good way I cN actually take a pretty hard spanking, some of my clients have been fairly surprised by this. I didn't start playing in these courts till I was s bit older. Mid late 20 s I believe. Working down my own bucket list now...........

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I like to go to the Dollar Store and buy those wooden Chinese backscratchers. They cost only $1-2 each, and I often give them to providers as a gift, or if it seems like they're willing and into it, they can use it to slap me! It's much cheaper than a switch that you buy at a love boutique shop.

In a sex book, I still remember this image of a "strict mistress:" A hot young blonde, in her 20s, hair tied up (another thing I buy for the ladies are hair clips), and a switch in her hand. I've had many ladies with their hair tied up, use the back scratcher on me (not too hard).

Oh well, as far as that goes, I prefer a riding crop to a switch. I buy mine at the actual tack shop, and they work well. I like being on both the giving and receiving end of that one too!

 

[sybian]

"Note to self"....Never let Miss Erica in my tackroom....Far too many 12 foot bullwhips hanging on the wall.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

"Note to self"....Never let Miss Erica in my tackroom....Far too many 12 foot bullwhips hanging on the wall.

I've not been on the receiving end of one of those, though I understand Lalani may be skilled in their use! I would be afraid to attempt to use one, lest someone lose an eye. Some things are best left to professionals, after all...

(Long line/dressage/buggy whip?....so many possibilities!)

 

[Lo-ki]

12 ft bullwhip?! Yikes!! I'm not that advanced either. Someone I know has offered to teach me starting with a 4 ft but I have not yet begun my lessons.

On WHO...LOL..

 

[badbadboy]

I love the sensation of having Sasha slapped hard then gently licked right after. Like a good solid split second sting followed my a soft lick and hot breath technique. Playing with pleasure and pain, if done properly can really make a person quiver, in a good way I cN actually take a pretty hard spanking, some of my clients have been fairly surprised by this. I didn't start playing in these courts till I was s bit older. Mid late 20 s I believe. Working down my own bucket list now...........

ooof I just remembered who Sasha is.

That's hot

:eyebrows: