had a similar experience awhile back: https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=51891
but finally made a break coulple of months ago. it feels great.
but finally made a break coulple of months ago. it feels great.
So I ended my relationship with my "regular" SP today....
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I've been lucky with regulars. They always make time with in a day after I call( I always plan ahead), But it takes abit sometimes to find one I want as a regular . You have to go thru a few girls whodon't want to plan a day or so in advance before you get to good ones.
This business has everything to do with illusion. When the lady is hot for U, GFE etc. is all part of what you pay her to provide. Unless she makes it really clear to you that she has feelings for you enjoy the illusion because that is what U are paying her to provide.
Keep it real.
Well said, the best SP's have the acting ability to make every client feel like they are most important. It has to be hard to do that, regardless of how repulsive they may find the client.
The other factor is the ability to not hold back on their emotional reactions during a session. This is where clients make the mistake of assuming the SP has feelings for them, since the session felt so real.
Bottom line is: would you be having this interaction if no $$$ were involved?
The hobby is not the place to look for a relationship.
Well said, the best SP's have the acting ability to make every client feel like they are most important. It has to be hard to do that, regardless of how repulsive they may find the client.
The other factor is the ability to not hold back on their emotional reactions during a session. This is where clients make the mistake of assuming the SP has feelings for them, since the session felt so real.
Bottom line is: would you be having this interaction if no $$$ were involved?
The hobby is not the place to look for a relationship.
I find a large percentage of SWs telling me things about their life,
their problems, hopes, & dreams. Not exactly what i'm there to
see them for, but as a rule don't have the heart or mood to tell
them to STFU & get with the program.
I am seeing one regularly now & she likes to hang with me after
the sessions/dates. We go for walks, to restuarants, movies, my
place, hold hands, cuddle. She speaks as if she likes/is fond of
me, and i have feelings for her, though i have to wonder how
real all this is. On occasions she says she love me & has a dream
about us being married, etc, while at other times speaks of me
as being her best custumer. Both could be true. Or it could be
like one poster said, when they see you they see a dollar sign,
and it's all good acting.
their problems, hopes, & dreams. Not exactly what i'm there to
see them for, but as a rule don't have the heart or mood to tell
them to STFU & get with the program.
I am seeing one regularly now & she likes to hang with me after
the sessions/dates. We go for walks, to restuarants, movies, my
place, hold hands, cuddle. She speaks as if she likes/is fond of
me, and i have feelings for her, though i have to wonder how
real all this is. On occasions she says she love me & has a dream
about us being married, etc, while at other times speaks of me
as being her best custumer. Both could be true. Or it could be
like one poster said, when they see you they see a dollar sign,
and it's all good acting.
Sp / So
You know some one is for you when they are allways on your mind and your heart .. But what do you do when there is more then one .. ?
AS for EH.. your right on ...maybe it is all we realy want just those special moment .. ant not the rest.. I realy don.t see them as SP's ,more like EP"s
You know some one is for you when they are allways on your mind and your heart .. But what do you do when there is more then one .. ?
AS for EH.. your right on ...maybe it is all we realy want just those special moment .. ant not the rest.. I realy don.t see them as SP's ,more like EP"s
It's Not You.....it's Me...
And its true
I have been in this biz for a few years and to be honest......YES...it is not you....it is us...
What you're doing is examining what you could have done differently to create a different outcome.
Nothing.
STORY
One of my favorite and best clients came down and watched me dance at NO5.
Well I rocked the show.....BUT!!!!
I did a pole trick I'm not familiar with and factured two ribs.
OOOOUUUCCCCHHH to say the least.
The next week I had the turkey thrown at my head for making the potatoes wrong.
I could BE the girl descibed.
I am late for work. I have stood people up. I always have a REAL but NUTTY story but realise that this is what surrounds us...NUTTINESS.
Also realise..ITS NOT YOU!
Its the lifestyle babe!
My client drove me home...CALLED MY THEN BF.....and put me in pjs and to sleep. Not cause he was a sucker cause he's not. He just felt shit** that I busted my ribs....looked like an idiot and wanted to get me the hell out of there.
I really like him alot. No word of a lie. But I treat him not as well as he has treated me. I have leveled with him about how I can be flakey and my dancing schedule is screwey and I try but fail in being consistent and I think he's finally getting it.
Its one thing if the girl tells you stories and its another if they straight TELL you about their circumstance and you accept it and then feel crappy.
YOU CAN'T SAVE HER.
She'll have to end the crisises herself which I myself am learning and not even close to doing.
It sounds as though you and she have a good heart so stick to that and know that she may be in a phase that only SHE can get herself out of.....
Trust me......we appreciate you lovely men who help us though often times we have mini crisises in our lives.
The moral of my story....
No crazy new pole tricks when having had 3 double Alizes....
I doubt that is your fix But it is advice none the less
Best of luck and don't give up on her. Support her in HELPING HERSELF....not you helping her.
Regards and luv
SMOOCHEROOS
Tiff
And its true
I have been in this biz for a few years and to be honest......YES...it is not you....it is us...
What you're doing is examining what you could have done differently to create a different outcome.
Nothing.
STORY
One of my favorite and best clients came down and watched me dance at NO5.
Well I rocked the show.....BUT!!!!
I did a pole trick I'm not familiar with and factured two ribs.
OOOOUUUCCCCHHH to say the least.
The next week I had the turkey thrown at my head for making the potatoes wrong.
I could BE the girl descibed.
I am late for work. I have stood people up. I always have a REAL but NUTTY story but realise that this is what surrounds us...NUTTINESS.
Also realise..ITS NOT YOU!
Its the lifestyle babe!
My client drove me home...CALLED MY THEN BF.....and put me in pjs and to sleep. Not cause he was a sucker cause he's not. He just felt shit** that I busted my ribs....looked like an idiot and wanted to get me the hell out of there.
I really like him alot. No word of a lie. But I treat him not as well as he has treated me. I have leveled with him about how I can be flakey and my dancing schedule is screwey and I try but fail in being consistent and I think he's finally getting it.
Its one thing if the girl tells you stories and its another if they straight TELL you about their circumstance and you accept it and then feel crappy.
YOU CAN'T SAVE HER.
She'll have to end the crisises herself which I myself am learning and not even close to doing.
It sounds as though you and she have a good heart so stick to that and know that she may be in a phase that only SHE can get herself out of.....
Trust me......we appreciate you lovely men who help us though often times we have mini crisises in our lives.
The moral of my story....
No crazy new pole tricks when having had 3 double Alizes....
I doubt that is your fix
But it is advice none the lessBest of luck and don't give up on her. Support her in HELPING HERSELF....not you helping her.
Regards and luv
SMOOCHEROOS
Tiff
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By no stretch am I condemning pooners (I've had 7 years and hundreds of sessions in the hobby) who seek "relationships". I tend to frequent a few regulars who really do it for me, rather than constantly searching for someone new. I also recognise when there is a chemistry present that enhances the session.E.Humperdink said:
What I am saying is that you develop feelings for an SP at your own risk, since she is providing a service and has her own life to live. The last thing an SP wants is a client misinterpreting great service for a lifelong personal connection. She is not in business looking for that.
It's fine to show your appreciation, but never expect anything other than services for payment.
I have added a link here to a post that I made on a Winnipeg thread about GFE and over the top service https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=56406
It is my opinion that it is possible to make a connection with some sp`s and my post in that thread is what that is about. Could that connection end up in a relationship? Who knows? Sometimes it is so much fun that you wish it did! Realistically if it does evolve into more it should be reasonably seen first as `fuck buddies`!! There is nothing all that bad about such a relationship im my view but it still would need a lot more depth to be reasonably considered as more.
It is my opinion that it is possible to make a connection with some sp`s and my post in that thread is what that is about. Could that connection end up in a relationship? Who knows? Sometimes it is so much fun that you wish it did! Realistically if it does evolve into more it should be reasonably seen first as `fuck buddies`!! There is nothing all that bad about such a relationship im my view but it still would need a lot more depth to be reasonably considered as more.
Its kinda like...
Getting told as a kid you can eat chocolate cake every day...
WOW!
Chocolate cake!
That would be so awesome....cause chocolate cake is my favorite food! I am the luckiest kid in the world!......
Then come the stomach aches....
You didn't expect it cause you were so excited on the "chocolate cake" factor that stomach aches don't enter your mind.
Don't get me wrong.
I know alot of ladies who have great and normal relationships with kids and picket fences and all that. They are reliable and adjusted and the list goes on.....
There are some of us who are chocolate cake. VV had a thread like that. Wondering what on gods green earth could these dudes want if her crazy rockin sex storms couldn't keep em happy.
I recently had a thread about naked Thanksgiving Turkey cooking that ended up in a nasty food fight and me staying in a hotel for days.
We are well intentioned ladies who are pretty flippin hottt BUT on the flip side we do things like retarded pole tricks in the middle of the night(OOOPS), break some ribs and always seem to have the next problem to be solved. I know that fits me to a tee.
So take it slow and don't expect too much. Do ya WANT the whole cake or do ya just want a slice???? Sometimes moderation is better right??
Take care and be safe...
SMOOOOOCH
Getting told as a kid you can eat chocolate cake every day...
WOW!
Chocolate cake!
That would be so awesome....cause chocolate cake is my favorite food! I am the luckiest kid in the world!......
Then come the stomach aches....
You didn't expect it cause you were so excited on the "chocolate cake" factor that stomach aches don't enter your mind.
Don't get me wrong.
I know alot of ladies who have great and normal relationships with kids and picket fences and all that. They are reliable and adjusted and the list goes on.....
There are some of us who are chocolate cake. VV had a thread like that. Wondering what on gods green earth could these dudes want if her crazy rockin sex storms couldn't keep em happy.
I recently had a thread about naked Thanksgiving Turkey cooking that ended up in a nasty food fight and me staying in a hotel for days.
We are well intentioned ladies who are pretty flippin hottt
BUT on the flip side we do things like retarded pole tricks in the middle of the night(OOOPS), break some ribs and always seem to have the next problem to be solved. I know that fits me to a tee.So take it slow and don't expect too much. Do ya WANT the whole cake or do ya just want a slice???? Sometimes moderation is better right??
Take care and be safe...
SMOOOOOCH
A bit off topic - but...
Some people have commented in this thread that clients and SP's are in a fake relationship or it can't be real. I think it can be very real - just a different definition of a relationship.
As a part-time SP, I get to choose who I see. As a result, I am lucky to have some regular clients whom I like very much. We are able to talk about all sorts of things and just relax in each other's company. I think it makes the experience more enjoyable for these men because I am enjoying myself too. I think that "faking" it really turns most men off.
I think a lot of men who have "regulars" are looking for someone to feel safe with: safe to share their fantasies and desires, safe enough to express their passion, safe enough to relax.
It's like the old fashioned "mistress" from days of yore. Men had a wife and children at home and then had a mistress who shared his "soul". Mistresses were skilled at providing a "get away" from the every day - good food, good wine, sexy clothing, soothing environment, passionate sex.
Men are involved in this "hobby" for many different reasons. Some for the variety. Some for the thrill of picking up a SW. Some for a specific fetish. AND, some of them are in it to have an exciting, sexual, sensual connection with someone. They are paying for this so that they don't have the complications and aggravations that come with a girlfriend or wife. (There is no fighting over paying the mortgage, housecleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, etc.)
I think clients deserve the same respect that I expect. I am ready on time. If I have an emergency, I let the client know as soon as possible. If I have to reschedule, I do so as promptly as I can. It's common courtesy. I am not sure why any client would continue to see an SP if she constantly stood him up without calling.
That's just my two (or three) cents.
Bella
Some people have commented in this thread that clients and SP's are in a fake relationship or it can't be real. I think it can be very real - just a different definition of a relationship.
As a part-time SP, I get to choose who I see. As a result, I am lucky to have some regular clients whom I like very much. We are able to talk about all sorts of things and just relax in each other's company. I think it makes the experience more enjoyable for these men because I am enjoying myself too. I think that "faking" it really turns most men off.
I think a lot of men who have "regulars" are looking for someone to feel safe with: safe to share their fantasies and desires, safe enough to express their passion, safe enough to relax.
It's like the old fashioned "mistress" from days of yore. Men had a wife and children at home and then had a mistress who shared his "soul". Mistresses were skilled at providing a "get away" from the every day - good food, good wine, sexy clothing, soothing environment, passionate sex.
Men are involved in this "hobby" for many different reasons. Some for the variety. Some for the thrill of picking up a SW. Some for a specific fetish. AND, some of them are in it to have an exciting, sexual, sensual connection with someone. They are paying for this so that they don't have the complications and aggravations that come with a girlfriend or wife. (There is no fighting over paying the mortgage, housecleaning, picking up the dry cleaning, etc.)
I think clients deserve the same respect that I expect. I am ready on time. If I have an emergency, I let the client know as soon as possible. If I have to reschedule, I do so as promptly as I can. It's common courtesy. I am not sure why any client would continue to see an SP if she constantly stood him up without calling.
That's just my two (or three) cents.
Bella
