sincerity vs. practical reality

[shyboy123]

Wow downer post Urquell, but I guess you may have your reasons. Try to find someone who is sweeter to you and you enjoy being with and maybe things will seem a bit more real. I do agree with Missy Mariposa that some (but probably not all) of the higher or more standard rate hotties may have their act together a bit more, and be more experienced in at least showing some sincerity.

I have to give kudos to all the ladies that have probably seen all ages/shapes/sizes and still manage to find something to squeeze out a compliment about. I don't know if I could be that tactful or nice all day long! Not that I am trying to describe you at all - I can just picture some poor 100 lb 21 yr old girl with a 250 lb 50 yr old sweaty hairy guy grunting away on top of her so she can barely move and her trying to think of nice things like "wow you really drip a lot of sweat when you screw" or "Your back hair is so nice to run my fingers through it", or (sorry one more) "I really like those tightey whiteys, did you buy them off-white or are they just a little old?"

My best advice to anyone who has to say something nice is to look for something either physical or behavioural (is that a word?) then let the other person know that you noticed.

My last visit was with someone older than I would normally see, and definitely not my type of girl at all. I almost gave her fifty for her time and cancelled due to "lack of chemistry". So you can imagine I was not brimming with compliments out of the gate.

BUT she did come and see me on short notice and it was late, had a great tall body, and really rocked my c**k. So she wasn't my dream come true, but I did let her know I appreciated her coming to see me, that I liked tall girls and she had a smokin' figure, and she gave me a hot session. All true, all sincere, and not hard to say.

Urquell, I am sure you have some redeeming qualities - Just try and find an SP that notices and cares to let you know.

Good luck!

 

[Urquell]

Wow downer post Urquell, but I guess you may have your reasons. Try to find someone who is sweeter to you and you enjoy being with and maybe things will seem a bit more real. I do agree with Missy Mariposa that some (but probably not all) of the higher or more standard rate hotties may have their act together a bit more, and be more experienced in at least showing some sincerity.

I have to give kudos to all the ladies that have probably seen all ages/shapes/sizes and still manage to find something to squeeze out a compliment about. I don't know if I could be that tactful or nice all day long! Not that I am trying to describe you at all - I can just picture some poor 100 lb 21 yr old girl with a 250 lb 50 yr old sweaty hairy guy grunting away on top of her so she can barely move and her trying to think of nice things like "wow you really drip a lot of sweat when you screw" or "Your back hair is so nice to run my fingers through it", or (sorry one more) "I really like those tightey whiteys, did you buy them off-white or are they just a little old?"

My best advice to anyone who has to say something nice is to look for something either physical or behavioural (is that a word?) then let the other person know that you noticed.

My last visit was with someone older than I would normally see, and definitely not my type of girl at all. I almost gave her fifty for her time and cancelled due to "lack of chemistry". So you can imagine I was not brimming with compliments out of the gate.

BUT she did come and see me on short notice and it was late, had a great tall body, and really rocked my c**k. So she wasn't my dream come true, but I did let her know I appreciated her coming to see me, that I liked tall girls and she had a smokin' figure, and she gave me a hot session. All true, all sincere, and not hard to say.

Urquell, I am sure you have some redeeming qualities - Just try and find an SP that notices and cares to let you know.

Good luck!

Shyboy, you're well off the mark. My self image is excellent, I get along well with people, and do just fine with women in general. My sessions with SPs are almost always positive or at worst neutral. My international mongering experiences are almost always better than the norm for most guys. I'm not reclusive, I'm not unattractive, and I'm not bitter about much of anything. You're confusing me with Keith.

I posted this not to be negative against women in general. I was commenting on one specific negative (in my mind) characteristic that is a trademark of some SP's, which to me seems either unnecessary or poorly played by these same SPs, and which to my mind should either be omitted from the script or altered to better suit the experience. I wondered whether this trait or this point of view was a common perception amongst other mongers, or whether my worldly cynicism (not bitterness) and my well-developed bullshit detector was working overtime. That's it.

As a psychologist you make a good hair stylist.

 

[hunsperger]

have to give kudos to all the ladies that have probably seen all ages/shapes/sizes and still manage to find something to squeeze out a compliment about. I don't know if I could be that tactful or nice all day long!

don't underestimate yourself...

$250-500 per hour tax free is an amazing aphrodisiac...

and remember this line of work doesn't require any student loans...

 

[vidwindow]

What? I'm not the biggest? What? I'm not the best? Damn! why do I believe these girlz?
I never should have given up break-dancing LOL!

Vid

 

[shyboy123]

As a psychologist you make a good hair stylist

You're confusing me with Keith.

Ha ha you totally nailed it I was obviously not paying attention. I scanned through and lumped you in with Mr Bitter. Sorry about that and tell me more about your mother while I give you a trim

 

[maroonedsailor]

Your experience of people will always be directly related to your own view of yourself.

If you have come to the amazing place of being able to accept yourself for who you are, you can accept others, and you can believe that they can accept you, regardless of your looks, social standing or how you met.

It really boils down to being a spiritually inclined being. There is no religious aspect to this statement. I believe we all have a spirit inside of us that connects us. It is actually the same energy and we share this energy with all living beings. We are really all the very same deep deep down inside. We all want and need love, we all want happiness and to be accepted. These feelings are often squashed by our egos. Ego is what gets in the way of us loving each other and accepting one another.

It is unfortunate that ego must exist in us in order for us to survive in the physical realm. But if we can let go of the unnecessary convoluted negative aspects of our egos, we can live beautiful lives where we love other people (yes strangers too) and enjoy giving them pleasure and happiness. It is an existence of joy and peace. We are all here on this silly little planet on this amazing journey.. we are having this incredible experience at the same time with others.. why can we not let go of the crap and just enjoy the ride together?

And no, I don't write Hallmark cards and I don't belong to some weird cult.
I just found what works for me, and what I think can work for everyone.


So... am I being sincere? Yes I am.
xoxo
Nina

I once heard the ego described as a scaffolding needed to build spirit. When the spirit is completed, the ego is no longer necessary and may be put away...........Namaste'

 

[Bartdude]

don't underestimate yourself...

$250-500 per hour tax free is an amazing aphrodisiac...

and remember this line of work doesn't require any student loans...

I'm sure some of the time, SP's picture the things they'll be buying with the $300 they're making....