Should your kids see you naked?

[escapefromstress]

When my son was a baby, I thought nothing of changing my clothes or bathing in front of him. He’s 4 now and nothing has changed. But recently a laminated sign on the door of the women’s locker room in our local YMCA gave me pause. “With boys age 5 and over,” it read, “please use the Family Changing Area or the men’s locker room.” That got me thinking: Is the clock really on? A year from now, if my son spots me undressed some morning, will that image make a lasting impression? Will it scar him in some way? Is that even possible?

CNN addressed the issue last month in a story that referenced studies about the impact of parental nudity on kids. One, they reported, “found no negative impact on adolescents who regularly saw their parents naked at ages 3 and 6.” Ok, great. But another “found that parental nudity when kids were ages 6 and 11 resulted in more permissive attitudes about sex and increased sexual frequency.” Hmmm.

Mom friends I consulted report that they also began to grapple with this question when their sons approached that 5-year mark. A mother of now 6-year-old twins says she opted for privacy as soon as she felt her boys notice that her body looked different than theirs. “I didn’t want to be analyzed every time I got dressed in front of them,” she says. Another girlfriend confesses that she grew more conscious about covering up when her then-5-year-old “started talking about boobies.”

https://ca.shine.yahoo.com/should-your-kids-see-you-naked-143249366.html

 

[Chef99]

It occurs to me that there are really 2 related but different issues here. First, the sign on the locker door isn't a comment on whether or not your son should see you naked. It's a comment on the comfort level of other women having your son seeing them naked. As for the second "issue", up to what age he should see you naked, my opinion is by 5 - 6 max.

 

[Five-Guns-West]

If the kid has seen you naked at 1, 2,3,4 years old, then what difference is it going to make if he keeps seeing you naked at 5, 6,7,8,9,10.... etc.?

He's seen himself naked. You're going to look gross to him being that much older. It's not like he's going to get all excited seeing your old body and then go out and fuck some girl. It'll be more like, "he's seen it all, not going to be as curious as if he sees the perfect bodies on the internet ALL THE TIME".

See the thing is, times have changed. Kids are going to see nudity and sex at a very young age on the internet no matter how badly you police them. Would you rather they get the message about bodies, nudity and sex solely from the internet and without your intervention? Or don't you think it would be better if they see your realistic old naked body, had realistic talks about sex, or even non chalantly discuss porn on the internet?

 

[luvsdaty]

When my son was a baby, I thought nothing of changing my clothes or bathing in front of him. He’s 4 now and nothing has changed. But recently a laminated sign on the door of the women’s locker room in our local YMCA gave me pause. “With boys age 5 and over,” it read, “please use the Family Changing Area or the men’s locker room.” That got me thinking: Is the clock really on? A year from now, if my son spots me undressed some morning, will that image make a lasting impression? Will it scar him in some way? Is that even possible?

CNN addressed the issue last month in a story that referenced studies about the impact of parental nudity on kids. One, they reported, “found no negative impact on adolescents who regularly saw their parents naked at ages 3 and 6.” Ok, great. But another “found that parental nudity when kids were ages 6 and 11 resulted in more permissive attitudes about sex and increased sexual frequency.” Hmmm.

Mom friends I consulted report that they also began to grapple with this question when their sons approached that 5-year mark. A mother of now 6-year-old twins says she opted for privacy as soon as she felt her boys notice that her body looked different than theirs. “I didn’t want to be analyzed every time I got dressed in front of them,” she says. Another girlfriend confesses that she grew more conscious about covering up when her then-5-year-old “started talking about boobies.”

https://ca.shine.yahoo.com/should-your-kids-see-you-naked-143249366.html

I think eventually the kid will get embarrassed at seeing you naked . Especially when he gets in school, you know how kids are, they share every minute detail with their peers. And if he spills those beans you can bet all his friends are gonna mercilessly tease him about it.

 

[Five-Guns-West]

I think eventually the kid will get embarrassed at seeing you naked . Especially when he gets in school, you know how kids are, they share every minute detail with their peers. And if he spills those beans you can bet all his friends are gonna mercilessly tease him about it.

Maybe one day the kid will snap a naked pic of you with his cell phone, tablet, or whatever thing in the future will have a camera - ie: glasses, then upload it to all his friends and end up all over the internet. What a glorious future we have with all this technology!

 

[luvsdaty]

I'm not sure if one might realize, but in all but Canadian and American culture (Europeans, Asians), parents see their kids naked and vice versa well into adulthood and it has never been an issue.

Sad that North America is puritanist and ashamed of the human form.

 

[johnsmit]

Generally we all see are parents naked when we are younger..but as we get older ..it gets less ..parents are more a wear that you are entitled to your privicy. .and I return you grant them that ..nor do you have any interest in seeing your parents naked. When there were one bath room housed it happened that you might see your parents naked.even as you got older..but most of today's homes has to bath rooms or .more ..It gives every one their own space..

I think It was good that we had no hang up about naked when we were young .we usually got them as we hit puberty. . Our body changed and we were enbaresed. ..and we had thought of sex..so seeing some one naked might have there effects on us.

But in North America there is hange ups about sex .talking about it..addmiting it goes on in your life on not.. and naked is equated with sex be cause it arouses. ..Of course it does not have to effect us that way ..If our attitude were different.. and we had respect for open nakedness and it does not mean have sex..

Families and friends that go to nudes groups..deal with some of those issues..even though sex does happen at nudes camps..and any number of other normal relation issues....from Betty has nice boobs or pussy .to stop looking at Dans dick.

My dad was germann and would be quite Frank about sex..at home and some time out.
.I was a but enbaresed and with drawn about it partly because of that..and partly because of my own thoughts..

I am sorry I never was much of a groupy and embraced the free love hippy culture of the day..deffinetly no hang ups about sex or getting naked in that culture.

I toke me well into my 40s.befor I delt with it and was able to see nudity different. and be comfortable around it.
I went to a figure drawing class for a few yrs.. then later went to strip club.all the time..All of that made me comfortable .with naked people..and not. worries about my thoughts.
Later when I started seeing escorts.. I had few.hang ups about getting naked..and stayed with girls that were .more comfortable running around naked.They realized naked is not all about sex..it just normal. It allso got me I to doing nude photography. which is more art..but it can mean more too.

..I now ask why girl that I have seen naked many times still have some hang up being naked around me. I not going to jump.their bones. unless that is the situation..

All in all ..I think kids should have a healthy attitude about nudity. an understanding about the body and gain. respect about what is appropriate. .and respect others right to privacy to...it a whole package

 

[1nitestan]

Sad that North America is puritanist and ashamed of the human form.

That's because North America was first settled by people who were disgusted with the "liberal" values of 1700's Europe. Those principles still hold to this day.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

That's because North America was first settled by people who were disgusted with the "liberal" values of 1700's Europe. Those principles still hold to this day.

uhhhhhh... not quite

the pilgrims that you speak of settled in new england dring the period 1620 to 1640

from 1492 until 1620, there was plenty of settlement in north america by french, spanish, english, dutch, etc. who had no such hang-ups

just sayin'

 

[Sir_frixalot]

Go to Deutschland (aka Germany) there is 1 big change room (with cubicles)
Then go in the Sauna Garden and everybody is walkin around nekkid, old n young, kids...
Not a big deal in Europe...

 

[hornygandalf]

uhhhhhh... not quite

the pilgrims that you speak of settled in new england dring the period 1620 to 1640

from 1492 until 1620, there was plenty of settlement in north america by french, spanish, english, dutch, etc. who had no such hang-ups

just sayin'

And arguably, the Native Americans were the first settlers, probably coming across the land bridge from Europe. Way earlier than the later Europeans, who for most of written history and before, came from a less-developed backwater, quite insignificant on the world scale.

 

[Ray]

probably coming across the land bridge from Europe.

Land bridge from Asia.