Should I be concerned?

[NDog090]

Not sure how to put this, but tonight was my 4th time seeing a new local. She commented to me that I make her feel comfortable and she said possibly in the future visits she will give me a deal.

Then she asked me what I could afford for future visits. Didn't really have time to work it out with her yet as she had another client after me.

Is this normal or is it sus?

 

[g eazy]

I don't think it's normal, but I also don't think it's sus. It's the equivalent of taking slightly less pay for a significantly less stressful job, if you want to compare it to something else. However, I think that conversation and subsequent visits are tricky to navigate.

This is wading into the 'no rates discussion territory', but by facilitating 'a deal', there is an inclination that you will see her more often (at least spending the equivalent as you did before the deal). If that is something you cannot commit to, it's best you decline rather than to accept something, but then stop seeing her for a long time and then come back and still expect the 'deal' to be in place.

If you're concerned that it's too difficult to navigate, then I suggest you avoid altogether.

 

[taster]

I had someone offer me a slight discount if I saw her a 3rd time.

 

[ExpCharlee]

I’d recommend saying you’d rather keep things professional and keep paying her usual rate

 

[steverino]

I sense it is a customer relationship management practice. Having long term customers who she is comfortable with is excellent business as well as nice from a safety perspective. If she chooses to "reward" you with a lower rate because of your regular attendance, accept it for what it is. Since you seem to be enjoying the visits, I would suggest that you don't bring up her offer, rather just let her give you a break if and when she sees fit. If you don't want/need the lower rate then thank her for the generous offer and tell her that she is well worth the going rate (say it more graciously than that) and you are happy to pay the usual rate.

 

[Buddyguy66]

I’d recommend saying you’d rather keep things professional and keep paying her usual rate

I agree. I recently was offered a break on my 3rd appt with a favorite. I rationalized it because she told me she had given a regular a freebie because he wanted to see her but had lost his job, so she gave him a freebie. But the more I thought about her willingness to give me 2 hrs for the price of 1, the more I got into my own head a la'

-If I want to keep seeing her as a "regular" (which I do)..will it come back to bite me on the ass down the road somehow?

-Why would I need the break? While I'm a working stiff, I am gainfully employed. Yes it would be nice to put that extra 300-400 into the bank, but I have choices..Do a shorter visit..or no visit or just suck it up and pay the freight.

-Respect for the SP..and my own personal integrity. The SP in question is worth every penny so while the offer was very kind and generous of her, I told her I would pay her rate gladly. Why shouldn't I even if an offer was made. And no guilt for me and just the right thing to do.

-Reading more into whats behind the offer than there is. I personally think having an emotional attachment to an SP is ok..at the time you are with them. It can be part of what makes the encounter special. But..leave it at the door. And I know me..and how challenging that can be. It helps me check that by not asking for or accepting special considerations and keeps the line solid. Ok to be "in lust" not to be "in love".

My point is there are lots of potential pitfalls if the lines become blurred from a financial standpoint. Pay the woman!

 

[NDog090]

I sense it is a customer relationship management practice. Having long term customers who she is comfortable with is excellent business as well as nice from a safety perspective. If she chooses to "reward" you with a lower rate because of your regular attendance, accept it for what it is. Since you seem to be enjoying the visits, I would suggest that you don't bring up her offer, rather just let her give you a break if and when she sees fit. If you don't want/need the lower rate then thank her for the generous offer and tell her that she is well worth the going rate (say it more graciously than that) and you are happy to pay the usual rate.

Well noted!

 

[Forum mod]

Well, there's a first, a guy concerned about being offered a discount. Pricing discussions are not permitted. Thread closed.