Im feeling pretty divided on things right now. You have a good point... I have been thinking about things, and maybe it won't be worth it to go through with this. Losing the love of my life vs. 18+ yrs of possible resentment, possible failed marriage, her potentially changing emotionally and physically into a different person... This is pretty weighty stuff. I need to do some soul-searching.
she wants kids, me not so much
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You did not say outright that you don't want kids, you said you are ambivalent on starting a family. Perhaps it's time for you to list the pros and cons of having kids and go from there. Relationships are about give and take, you are never going to find someone who wants exactly the same things you do. So if you find one that is 75% or above, you should seriously consider. We are all reluctant to do things that we don't like but if we only did things that we liked, the world would go to hell in no time...
So frickin true. It seems the younger generation just doesn't understand that - I'm not directing that comment to the OP. For example, I'm part of a team and you usually need a minimum number of people to show up. However, quite a few just don't show up if they "don't feel like it"... I guess it's the ME generation, don't care if others are counting on you or it's the "right" thing to do - just do what you want. I find that attitude has crept into the workplace as well - what has the company done for me..... <deep breath>
