Sexually Obsessed with a SP...

[Beasting]

You need professional help as you might be creating or imagining situations in your head only. There is more to life then just sex or having a companion. I have a feeling these threads may have been created by you as well under different user names.

All I would say to seek counseling from a trained professional as you are probably too much into something, which most likely only playing in your mind.

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...n-of-passion&p=1908261&highlight=#post1908261

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?254989-Swan-MyC&highlight=Swan


https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?254934-Giving-a-woman-in-the-biz-an-out

That might be a bit too extreme of a conclusion to draw upon. From his constant whining I just sense a classic beta male, woe is me, soy boy. Most likely harmless. But if he keeps this up, definitely stalker material. Worst case scenario he could turn into another incel like Alek Minassian

 

[Addison Cortez]

I think finding a therapist is a good start. The thing about them is they’re trained to tear the issue apart and it’s up to us to put it together and that’s where a bondage meditation expert will help. IMO

Finding balance is key.

 

[Man in Submission]

This is not what love looks like, this is what every women's nightmare looks like.

I will give you props for your self-awareness and willingness to get help. That is wonderful to hear and I think if you can move past these toxic traits you will be a better man for it, and could one day be a good partner for a woman who has never been an SP. A good partner for an SP will not be the jelous type, we can never un-become an SP when we move on. This part of her will always bring out the worst in you no matter how many years has passed. We need men who can accept and love ALL parts of us for a relationship to work. Just like all other healthy and happy relationships. You deserve happiness too, and the mind fuck you've put yourself in doesn't seem very "happy".

If this is the final post of this thread, it will be a positive thing because this, in a nutshell, pretty much says it all.

 

[grizzly]

This is not what love looks like, this is what every women's nightmare looks like.

I will give you props for your self-awareness and willingness to get help. That is wonderful to hear and I think if you can move past these toxic traits you will be a better man for it, and could one day be a good partner for a woman who has never been an SP. A good partner for an SP will not be the jelous type, we can never un-become an SP when we move on. This part of her will always bring out the worst in you no matter how many years has passed. We need men who can accept and love ALL parts of us for a relationship to work. Just like all other healthy and happy relationships. You deserve happiness too, and the mind fuck you've put yourself in doesn't seem very "happy".

Well said. TOAO has admitted he has control and jealousy issues. Not good traits in any relationship, never mind with a SW. Even if she agrees to pursue a relationship, it's doomed to fail if he can't deal with these issues. Her past will always haunt him and make him distrust her. This will only create tension in the relationship.

 

[TOAO]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate you recognizing that i have come forward. To the poster who said i have created threads under different names, i have not. That's the God's honest truth. I was struggling with this, and recently signed up because i wanted assistance and opinions from you all. I didn't start the thread right away, but when it was apparent i had these issues, that's when i reached out. I'm just gonna do my best to focus on what i need to, and play this by ear and make the best decision possible... for me.

 

[UhOh]

If she's not interested then the decision has already been made. Lick your wounds and move on.

 

[BlueBusRider]

I think finding a therapist is a good start. The thing about them is they’re trained to tear the issue apart and it’s up to us to put it together and that’s where a bondage meditation expert will help. IMO

Finding balance is key.

Umm, Hell to the Yes

 

[sevenofnine]

long post which I deleted,
I think in the end you have to find your own way out,
im not even sure you want to actually

I have been there, in a similar situation drama with my sp,
and all I wanted was for the drama to end.

and I ended it,

we took a break me and her for almost a year I think
I was still seeing escorts during that time got stood up repeatedly and one thing after another,

and I said fuck it, and asked her if we could start over,
and we started fresh with a different perspective

in a lot of ways, after our fight we became closer trusted one another,
I mean we fought called each other a few names etc, etc,

but that was it, calling each other a few names, no big deal.
im big enough to be able to handle some one calling me a few names so was she,

so we laughed at how stupid we were,

but I sense something different in you,
you can't let the drama go,
the jealously go the control part of you go.
not good my friend

 

[Kingpin29]

TOAO I commend you for being able to open yourself to perb about this. How you decide to handle this, just don't put yourself in a rut and fall off the deep end. You got a good head on your shoulders and it seems you are able to realize your issues at hand. It won't be easy, I'm sure half of perb here knows how you feel. Take it day by day and soon enough you'll get over it.
Live your life finding enjoyment, you don't need to keep drowning yourself if this brings detriment to your life. Keep your head held up high, and you'll be back to yourself in no time.

 

[TOAO]

Thanks a lot Kingpin. Yes, time should make this pass. This is where it's critical I make the right choice. I've stooped as well, and that time may have been a blessing in disguise, as I know what could transpire. Thank you for seeing the good in this - and me. Your encouragement means more than you know, buddy.

 

[Arkady]

Just found this thread. I know your pain as I’ve been in love with an SP for over a month and on the whole it has gone well. We’ve gone for coffee and walks, breakfasts and drives. Sometimes I think I’m deluding myself but she assures me she cares about me. And I surely deeply care about her.

As for reviews and ads it used to bother me more than it does now. I still hate the fact that any of you dogs can enjoy her services for a handful of $20s but I realize she’s got to do what she’s got to do (if you catch my meaning.) I try to separate her as i have come to know her (caring, funny, kind, genuine) from the persons or role she has to play as an SP.

It is not a situation I was looking for but honestly right now I would not trade it for anything as I know there is a potential for much happiness together.

Hang in there Brother.

 

[poonerboi]

I say explain everything you have said here ( or direct her to read this thread). But understand one thing- a lot of creeps prey on ladies just for a free ride , so to speak! Years ago, I drove for an agency and it was common for girls to fall for it only to later discover their "prince" used the same lines with other girls too!

 

[PierreCoeur]

Over the past seven years, I have fallen in love with four companions. Two of them eventually made it known to me that it was just a game they play and all they want was regular customers. They get close and truth comes out when they trust you as a friend.

Another Lady I got so close to that she began to share intimate details about her life with me, stuff I don't think she would just share with anyone because it was things that no one should share unless they are in love with you. I stopped seeing her because it was too close, too intimate and the sex was the best I ever had. I am too fucking old to be married to someone with a serious sex addiction and figured that in a few years I just could not keep her pace, even though I am a sex addict too.

The final one that I fell in love with, I have never booked a session with because loving her would be the biggest mistake in my life. She is intelligent, and beautiful. Mensa no doubt. She has so many other endearing attributes and talents that I know others are in love with her too. So some might ask, "Well why don't you book a session with her and get to know her in reality?" The answer is simple. When you go to an art gallery and see the greatest work of art that you have ever seen . . . you want to own it, so you purchase it, you bring it home, you put it on a pedestal and you appreciate it for the rest of your life. Beautiful Art like that deserves to be in a public art gallery and not for one collector to have.

 

[Man in Submission]

That is awesome PierreCoeur! I think what you are saying that it's OK to 'fall in love' with a lady as long as you don't cross the proverbial line. I mean, heck, I probably fall in love with anyone I connect nicely enough with to repeat with lol. I guess the reality is that some guys can't control their feelings and that's when the jealousy and obsession creeps in. You just can't let yourself go there as nothing good can come of it. Have fun, treat a lady like a princess, live out some fantasies, but when the clock strikes midnight, it's back to reality - albeit with a big smile on your face and the knowledge you'll be back in that peaceful sanctuary of passion and bliss in the weeks ahead. "And then I said to myself, what a wonderful world!"

 

[Kingpin29]

People always want what they can't have. It's natural for men and women to be like that. We've all been there and felt that in our lives and sometimes endlessly too. For these things in life such as falling in love, it's best to enjoy the moment as it is with a special lady. That's why there's the past, present and future. The past is behind us, the future is ahead of us; beyond our reach. But they call it present, because what's happening now is a gift. Enjoy that gift.
I've been in that position where repeating built a connection and I started to fall in love. Still kind of am in it. Feelings of jealousy and obsession does creep in, but they go away if you come to appreciate what you have with a special lady and enjoy the present. You know, they say everything happens for a reason, and I've come to realize it totally does.