Sexually Obsessed with a SP...
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boom! time for some tough love...the feelings/emotions you're relating to this forum, exude from your pores and has the stench of needy desperation and she can smell it from a mile away. Maybe ask yourself if you'd be interested in having a relationship with yourself with your current mindset? My guess would be a resounding 'NO', and I can't imagine a well-balanced. sane, attractive woman would want any part of it. Jealousy is ugly and it reeks of insecurity (I realize these are natural responses when the woman you're fixated upon is having sex with multiple men on a daily/weekly/monthly basis). There's really no magic pill to overcome this other than create the person within yourself that you'd genuinely want to be around...voila! All sorts of opportunities will arise.
Please accept this as an honest commentary from the info that you've posted...clearly we don't know each other, so I may be way off
He hasn't even asked the girl out yet. Let's not jump to marriage. Or alimony. Or the 20,000 other possibilities in the future, including the one where his SP-turned-wife gets into a car accident and gets cut in half and impaled into a tree and dies via transanal evisceration.
Hey Toad, still waiting for a link to her ad. Please post so I can satisfy her with my 3 inch cock. Give her the best 5 mins her life! :wave:
Listen to the lyrics my friend. I feel for you.
The world was on fire and no one could save me but you
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do
I'd never dreamed that I'd meet somebody like you
And I'd never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
What a wicked game you played to make me feel this way
What a wicked thing to do to let me dream of you
What a wicked thing to say you never felt this way
What a wicked thing to do to make me dream of you
And I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you
The world was on fire and no one could save me but you
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do
I'd never dreamed that I'd love somebody like you
And I'd never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
(This girl is only gonna break your heart)
Nobody loves no one
The world was on fire and no one could save me but you
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do
I'd never dreamed that I'd meet somebody like you
And I'd never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
What a wicked game you played to make me feel this way
What a wicked thing to do to let me dream of you
What a wicked thing to say you never felt this way
What a wicked thing to do to make me dream of you
And I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you
The world was on fire and no one could save me but you
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do
I'd never dreamed that I'd love somebody like you
And I'd never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
With you (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
No, I (this girl is only gonna break your heart)
(This girl is only gonna break your heart)
Nobody loves no one
ding ding. we have a winner! well said.boom! time for some tough love...the feelings/emotions you're relating to this forum, exude from your pores and has the stench of needy desperation and she can smell it from a mile away. Maybe ask yourself if you'd be interested in having a relationship with yourself with your current mindset? My guess would be a resounding 'NO', and I can't imagine a well-balanced. sane, attractive woman would want any part of it. Jealousy is ugly and it reeks of insecurity (I realize these are natural responses when the woman you're fixated upon is having sex with multiple men on a daily/weekly/monthly basis). There's really no magic pill to overcome this other than create the person within yourself that you'd genuinely want to be around...voila! All sorts of opportunities will arise.
Please accept this as an honest commentary from the info that you've posted...clearly we don't know each other, so I may be way off
he just said, get her OUT of your system, NOT get your feeling out in the OPEN. As in, STOP SEEING HER.
I think I need to hear all this. Gotta go to the school of hard knocks. If I decide to cut off all ties, would it be a good idea to have a last meeting and communicate exactly how I feel? She likely doesn't know the depth of this, so I don't know if I should elaborate.
Some of the post are tough to read, but hey, I asked for it. Pick your poison, so to speak.
Some of the post are tough to read, but hey, I asked for it. Pick your poison, so to speak.
Nope, no final contact, no final meeting. She's a stranger to you. She sees guys for money, and she's not going to quit her current line of work and date you, and have to constantly reassure you that's she no longer in the industry. It would be as extreme as you asking out a girl, and then she says she can only be your girlfriend as long as you quit your job because she doesn't like it.
What do you mean by feelings? You only see her for a few hours in a month. That's barely any time at all to know someone. There are friends I have who I don't even spend that much time with per month. You only get to see the best side of her, the one in lingerie, the one who pleases you sexually and treats you nice because she wants your money, and you want sex and a good time. Its the same thing for servers, they are nice to you because money is involved, it doesn't mean they actually care when they ask you about your day and make sure to recommend a good dessert.
I don't think you're actually getting it in your head that you're not seeing her as a person. You don't know her favourite foods, her emotional baggage, her childhood, all the other personal things that you rarely divulge to others. And she knows dick about you too. This industry is supposed to be for strings free sex. You contact, you pay, you spend a little time together, you get to leave.
The thing is, if you were to stop seeing her or contacting her, she probably wouldn't notice. Its supposed to like that. You can stop seeing her at any time, and she is not supposed to worry or wonder where you are. And clients are not supposed to worry when she stops advertising and exits the industry or goes on vacation.
What do you mean by feelings? You only see her for a few hours in a month. That's barely any time at all to know someone. There are friends I have who I don't even spend that much time with per month. You only get to see the best side of her, the one in lingerie, the one who pleases you sexually and treats you nice because she wants your money, and you want sex and a good time. Its the same thing for servers, they are nice to you because money is involved, it doesn't mean they actually care when they ask you about your day and make sure to recommend a good dessert.
I don't think you're actually getting it in your head that you're not seeing her as a person. You don't know her favourite foods, her emotional baggage, her childhood, all the other personal things that you rarely divulge to others. And she knows dick about you too. This industry is supposed to be for strings free sex. You contact, you pay, you spend a little time together, you get to leave.
The thing is, if you were to stop seeing her or contacting her, she probably wouldn't notice. Its supposed to like that. You can stop seeing her at any time, and she is not supposed to worry or wonder where you are. And clients are not supposed to worry when she stops advertising and exits the industry or goes on vacation.
I have her personal number, seen some personal (not sexual) pics of hers, and she said she would go out with me "once". Just something about her I can't pinpoint...
You're right... I don't know much about her, other than some personal stuff she has told me. It's just that I want her to truly know what I feel...
But the general consensus on here seems to be to just cut it off...
You're right... I don't know much about her, other than some personal stuff she has told me. It's just that I want her to truly know what I feel...
But the general consensus on here seems to be to just cut it off...
TOAO
Dude you need to make a decisions and get this sorted or it will eat you up. First the reason you are waffling is you have a fear of rejection, with her or anyone so right now you are doing what you can to limit this possibility. If you have made a connection and she feels the same way then you will still have other issues to deal with- this is a chosen profession for her, it might still be so her being with other guys is on the table potentially.
So be honest, be humble and be kind to her and ask. However remember this: for her your connection started as business and it should be that way for you too. I’m sure many ladies here can tell you about all sorts of boundary issues they have experienced and had personally. Based on your posted i’ll guess you have used her to supplement something that lacked in your life, you have now paid for it and you have to be realistic. Are you simply an awesome client or have you moved to something more for her?
Many guys on this board will tell you about connections they have but they know where the connection starts and stops. You obviously need more from her and if you have a jealous aspect to your feeling with her how do you manage that?
Ask her out for something social, a walk cofeee etc and say it but be prepared for the answer you don’t want but also you better prepare for the other situation you don’t want- her spending time with you and her clients even if you move beyond a client role. You have many things to figure out and as has been said before you need to look inside just as hard as you are looking at her.
Dude you need to make a decisions and get this sorted or it will eat you up. First the reason you are waffling is you have a fear of rejection, with her or anyone so right now you are doing what you can to limit this possibility. If you have made a connection and she feels the same way then you will still have other issues to deal with- this is a chosen profession for her, it might still be so her being with other guys is on the table potentially.
So be honest, be humble and be kind to her and ask. However remember this: for her your connection started as business and it should be that way for you too. I’m sure many ladies here can tell you about all sorts of boundary issues they have experienced and had personally. Based on your posted i’ll guess you have used her to supplement something that lacked in your life, you have now paid for it and you have to be realistic. Are you simply an awesome client or have you moved to something more for her?
Many guys on this board will tell you about connections they have but they know where the connection starts and stops. You obviously need more from her and if you have a jealous aspect to your feeling with her how do you manage that?
Ask her out for something social, a walk cofeee etc and say it but be prepared for the answer you don’t want but also you better prepare for the other situation you don’t want- her spending time with you and her clients even if you move beyond a client role. You have many things to figure out and as has been said before you need to look inside just as hard as you are looking at her.
We've all made a fool of ourselves at some point over a woman, this looks like your turn.
The best thing you can do is forget about her. That might be easier said than done but the laws of nature are against you. Respect yourself first if you want any hope of others respecting you, its the most valuable tool you have to help eventually find what you're looking for. This is not the relationship you're looking for.
The best thing you can do is forget about her. That might be easier said than done but the laws of nature are against you. Respect yourself first if you want any hope of others respecting you, its the most valuable tool you have to help eventually find what you're looking for. This is not the relationship you're looking for.
been there done that,
um I guess im still doing that,
are you single, I never read anything to the contrary
I think number one
trust yourself know you,
I mean are you going to do something stupid, like jump off a bridge
or stalk her, etc etc
if you don't trust yourself walk no run as far and as fast as you can.
if you can tell yourself im cool, the worst that will ever happen is I will cry in my beer one day,
then roll with it
start by being honest with her and take it from there,
start with killing the jealously you have of her with other guys.
um don't research her don't read reviews, don't be on the same web site as her,
you only know what she tells you, no reading anything on a web site about her,
listen to her and her alone,
a little voice will tell you if she is lying or not.
don't compare yourself with anyone, you will always lose, there is always someone that is richer then your funnier then you,
fucks better then you,
but there is only one you, so go with that, if people if she wants to be around you, she will
and ride with it, I mean I have been with my sp a dozen years and things change, been where you are, that passes, or passed for me rather quickly
some times me and her are so dam close, others were distant,
take your time,
I mean you only know her in a session when you have paid her and what she has told you,
as the years pass. some of reality sneaks in
the biggest issue I have with my sp,
is we have totally different life styles
im basically a wall mart greeter, she rubs elbows with the rich and famous and has a lifestyle to go with it.
some where deep down I know she will never be satisfied with a wal mart greeter,
that is my reality
so take your time,
be honest trust yourself,
and her,
if you can't
run like hell.
um I guess im still doing that,
are you single, I never read anything to the contrary
I think number one
trust yourself know you,
I mean are you going to do something stupid, like jump off a bridge
or stalk her, etc etc
if you don't trust yourself walk no run as far and as fast as you can.
if you can tell yourself im cool, the worst that will ever happen is I will cry in my beer one day,
then roll with it
start by being honest with her and take it from there,
start with killing the jealously you have of her with other guys.
um don't research her don't read reviews, don't be on the same web site as her,
you only know what she tells you, no reading anything on a web site about her,
listen to her and her alone,
a little voice will tell you if she is lying or not.
don't compare yourself with anyone, you will always lose, there is always someone that is richer then your funnier then you,
fucks better then you,
but there is only one you, so go with that, if people if she wants to be around you, she will
and ride with it, I mean I have been with my sp a dozen years and things change, been where you are, that passes, or passed for me rather quickly
some times me and her are so dam close, others were distant,
take your time,
I mean you only know her in a session when you have paid her and what she has told you,
as the years pass. some of reality sneaks in
the biggest issue I have with my sp,
is we have totally different life styles
im basically a wall mart greeter, she rubs elbows with the rich and famous and has a lifestyle to go with it.
some where deep down I know she will never be satisfied with a wal mart greeter,
that is my reality
so take your time,
be honest trust yourself,
and her,
if you can't
run like hell.
you know its funny,
at some point, it will go beyond the sessions go beyond she is an escort and whatever,
or even if you love her or love each other,
time is everything
if your all in
be patient
at some point, it will go beyond the sessions go beyond she is an escort and whatever,
or even if you love her or love each other,
time is everything
if your all in
be patient
As a hobbyist for many years, there are a few ladies that I developed feelings for so I sympathize. What I can tell you is that feeling will pass with time. What troubles me is the jealousy you feel. You have to get a handle on that before you do something you'll regret. I've had this conversation with a few ladies who've had obsessed clients and their jealousy and obsession provoke them to do stupid things like stalking, random phone calls at odd hours, trying to intrude on her personal life. All this does is frighten the lady and she will cut you off. Or worse, you will be charged with harassment. Please refrain from forcing yourself into her life without an invitation
