Sexual DOs & DON'Ts: how do SPs differ from civvies?

[tantalizeme]

Erotic bloopers...ah, I`ve committed my share over the years.

Where I differ from many guys is that I`m willing to learn. That`s why I printed out the list of "40 mistakes men make when having sex with a woman." http://whgbetc.com/40-mistakes.htm

This link, like many fascinating links, was provided by Playful Alex. https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...r-the-Women-on-what-gives-you-the-best-orgasm

As I read this list at a favorite sushi place, 2 main impressions popped into my mind:

1. Difficult to generalize about what works and what doesn`t work in bed. Many points on this humorously phrased list are too sweeping, simplistic or just plain silly.

2. What it takes for a man to please or appease a reasonably cute-looking civvie isn`t really applicable to SP/pooner liaisons. When you donate cash for erotic pampering, you sure don`t want to be hamstrung by a nightmare of finicky no-nos.

 

[tantalizeme]

A more detailed critique—just because it's fun

Yes, there're some helpful pointers on this list. By all means kiss if an SP lets you. Make sure your chin (and pubes) are smooth and not stubbly. Caress her breasts while gently sucking her nipples, rather than—as I've often done—squashing them as if squeezing juice out of a lemon.

But starting with Mistake #8, "GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED," I find myself conflicted. I love fingering a lady with her panties on, rather than asking her "to take the damn thing off." In fact, I've often thought of asking SPs to put underwear back on after the shower.

Mistake #9, "LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT," is obviously irrelevant in an SP context. "Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it." Huh? Shouldn't a competent SP perform clean-up on a man's soldier after the main event?

As for Mistake #10, "ATTACKING THE CLITORIS," yes—it's good advice to "gently rotate your fingers [or tongue] around the clitoris" first.

But then, Mistakes #11, #12, #13, #17—and especially #20—seem largely rubbish, especially when you're with an SP.

What's wrong with a pooner taking a break, or obsessing with the vagina (with clean, soft fingers), or taking his pants off before his socks, or coming as soon as he feels the urge? Very few SPs would object if you "shoot before you see the whites of her eyes"—even without "a backup plan" for how to make her come too.

Mistake #22 is that cliched old taboo about "ASKING IF SHE HAS COME." If asking this is such a blooper, I wonder: is a man at least allowed to ask, "What does it take to make you come?"

The points from #24 to #28 are mostly applicable to squeamish civvies. A reasonably seasoned SP shouldn't mind things like "NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN" or "MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO."

As for not ejaculating in her mouth without warning, okay, CIM certainly has to be negotiated beforehand.

Totally agree with #29, "ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT." Only a total retard would take that approach, which is sure to backfire.

Mistake #30, "TAKING PICTURES," is at a lady's discretion. Many SPs mind, but some don't.

Mistake #31, "NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH"—well, I'm not into "pouring honey on her and licking if off." But I always bring a pooner bag full of goodies and then use judgment as to how kinky I can get with a particular lady.

More rather nonsensical advice, then comes Mistake #37: "TALKING DIRTY." Can't help thinking, any SP who takes offense at "nasty talk" has missed her calling. Unrestrained sex talk is an integral part of boosting my arousal. That's one great plus about sex with Asians: they rarely know much English, and I can verbalize my horniest fantasies.

Get this: the final mistake is #40, "THANKING HER. Never thank a woman for having sex with you." Hope I'm not committing a major faux pas by thanking an SP for going beyond the call of duty in treating me well.

So I think this checklist of "40 mistakes men make when having sex with a woman" may be a springboard for discussion. But overall it probably creates more confusion than insight, especially if the woman in question is an SP.

Couldn't help notice the link to "50 mistakes women make when having sex." http://whgbetc.com/50-mistakes.htm

That's 10 more alleged mistakes than men make! Certainly accords with what I've long felt: we guys need to help women to stretch their erotic horizons.

 

[Cami Parker]

It's true... The same rules don't apply because while we do appreciate that you appreciate us, we certainly don't feel lie we're doing you a favor, unlike a lot of civvies. I want to and expect to enjoy myself, but I'm there for you. your enjoyment is my biggest concern, so therefore you can do whatever you please (within reason! lol) to make the session more fun, comfortable, relaxing and enjoyable for you. I highly doubt many civvies accept outfit or fetish requests lol! Also, we've seen more, and for me, I abhor the "N" word (normal) because what the hell is normal anyways?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

with me, i use the same techniques; however, when i cut loose with my 'normal' array of techniques that i use with escorts, on a civvy, the civvy's response generally ranges somewhere from 'wow,where did you learn that?' to 'OMFG, NOBODY'S ever done that to me before!! :faint:'

definitely ego-stroking

the main difference is i usually restrict myself to 1 hour paid sessions, whereas with a sufficiently motivated civvy it's for the night, and i can use those techniques to far better advantage

 

[PlayfulAlex]

You may be a shit-disturber, tant, but you're a studious one! That's for sure! ound:

 

[Cami Parker]

Call me??? Lol

with me, i use the same techniques; however, when i cut loose with my 'normal' array of techniques that i use with escorts, on a civvy, the civvy's response generally ranges somewhere from 'wow,where did you learn that?' to 'OMFG, NOBODY'S ever done that to me before!! :faint:'

definitely ego-stroking

the main difference is i usually restrict myself to 1 hour paid sessions, whereas with a sufficiently motivated civvy it's for the night, and i can use those techniques to far better advantage