Sexaholics Anonomyous..............

[looking4alady]

Hi..

In the past (about 5 years ago), I did some research about my pooning behaviour, etc and had found a group called "Sexaholics Anonomyous". Its basically run under the same principles as AA but based around the person having an addiction to SEX.

I went to about two meetings and then felt that it wasn't for me. I wasn't sure if I did the right thing because I'm still pooning from time to time, as others here do as well.

I'm just wondering if there are others out here in PERB land that have ever considered themselves to have an addiction to SEX and have sought counselling for it through Sexaholics Anonomyous or other avenues of help.

Am I alone for feeling like this or is this feeling shared among many? I will say that when I did go to the couple of meetings, that there were only about 5-6 people in the room.

Curious about any feedback anybody may have......

thanks,

 

[athaire]

addicted...... Haven't sought help.

 

[JustAGuy]

I hear those meetings are a great place to hook up.

 

[Randy Whorewald]

What do the chicks look like there?

 

[looking4alady]

In the meetings I went to, there was only one chick..and she was shorter/heavier set..just plain average....the rest were your average guys...

I doubt many women would come out in the open to admit that they would have an addiction to sex.

 

[georgebushmoron]

Became addicted, then became bored, hence no longer addicted.

 

[slacker]

Hi..

I went to about two meetings and then felt that it wasn't for me. I wasn't sure if I did the right thing because I'm still pooning from time to time, as others here do as well.

If you are only pooning from time to time you don't sound addicted to sex. Unless you're spending away every spare cent and even spending money you shouldn't be.

Humans instinctually only need a few basic things. Food, shelter, sleep ... and sex. Without sex the human race will die off. There is a strong hormonal urge there and it's completely natural (well at least for normal men in their prime). It seems like we've invented a lot of other things to preoccupy ourselves with since we aren't always so good at getting sex. I mean I'd sure as hell rather be bonking TTT or someone here than pretty much anything else I can think of like typing this message. Is that weird for me to think that? Should I be mentally reformed for wanting sex with hot women I lust after?

It's probably much weirder/wronger of me that I spend hours a day on PERB without actually having much sex. Just talking about and thinking about having sex but not having the balls to go about it (well I guess there is the whole wife thing slowing things down ... damn ... hehhehe) ...

Anyway I think the short story is it's totally normal to want and have sex unless you are destroying your future somehow for the sake of it (financially, STDs, etc.).

 

[Maury Beniowski]

It all depends why you poon, and only you can answer that to yourself. Loneliness, boredom, familiarity, anger, frustration, incompatibility, and many other conditions are a breeding ground for pooning. Many of these symptoms cannot be resolved through pooning. In my case, I pooned a lot before I found a solution. The addiction disappeared overnight, so it is hard to classify pooning as an addiction. Fundamentally, it doesn't meet the test of the definition:

ad·dic·tion
the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.

Don't know too many pooners who are traumatized by sex - on the surface anyway. One could argue that the endorphins released by the brain during sex are closely aligned with a similar release through the use of mood enhancing drugs, but that is still a controversial argument.

There are arguable claims out there that the human brain plays the greatest role during sex (95%?).

I doubt very much that the brain is much involved in the consumption of mind altering subtances...

An obsession might be a better term.

 

[no3]

There are worst things in this world to be addicted to.

 

[LonelyGhost]

Don't know too many pooners who are traumatized by sex - on the surface anyway. One could argue that the endorphins released by the brain during sex are closely aligned with a similar release through the use of mood enhancing drugs, but that is still a controversial argument.

There are arguable claims out there that the human brain plays the greatest role during sex (95%?).

I doubt very much that the brain is much involved in the consumption of mind altering subtances...

An obsession might be a better term.

i believe that as long as we 'moralize' consensual adult sex
that there will always need to be excuses for having it.

and from that moralization comes the linkage of self-worth,
feelings of love and sex: when in fact, your self-worth and
being loved by someone have no relation to sex.

men are raised being told that they are not men unless they
are banging something and women are told they are sluts
if they enjoy the banging ...

no wonder we're all fucked up about sex!

 

[looking4alady]

From what I've read and studied, the idea of an addiction to "SEX" is that a person will do almost anything to get it.

In my city, I can pick up the newspaper and see ads for escorts and massage parlours. I can drive down the street for 10 minutes in any direction and arrive at a variety of massage parlours.

Sex addiction is looked upon as being "dirty" as we are taking steps to acquire it easily. We're buying it like you go buy a coffee at Tims'. If a person is really horny, they can walk into a bar and usally find a one night stand (probably easier for girls then guys). We aren't letting nature take its course to where you meet someone, you talk to them, date them and then eventually you end up in bed with them, and possibly marry them. (over a period of time).

I can say that I've been pooning for over 20 years and I'm not even 45 years old. I started when I was 18 and for a time, I was spending lots of money (and this was when prices were a good deal !). Over the years, I poon when I want. I can afford to do it now, so I'm not spending every cent that I have, but rather money that helps me get my fix. (almost sounds like an addiction to drugs and I've never been on drugs)

I would say that I probably do it because of low self-esteem. I feel that it's perhaps the only way that I'll have a nice looking girl in my arms, even if that moment is for an hour of my life. You can order what you want and most likely we get what we order.

Isn't if funny that when we rate a SP on here, it's almost like we're grading them like a piece of meat? I will admit that I'm just as guilty as the next guy, as I've done my share of reviews as well. Do humans deserve to be treated like a piece of meat? People can't change their looks, but yet we are so critical on that part of a SP. People can though change their attitude and service level.

Just some additional feedback on the topic.

 

[O-Shoes]

Hmm, I just have to respond to this as I always think about it.

Is it guilt?
Is it wrong?

For me it's not about getting or having a good looking girl. I have been blessed as this has never been a problem. Lucky genes I guess... I was always the really "nice guy" in High School/University that always had the long term girl friend. I was labelled the "marrying type"
Maybe I desire that one night stand but don't want to work for it at the bar.

I think the reality is that I get bored easily so I have to have a new girl every time I do this,.. It is very rare I repeat with the same provider. Commitment issue? No, I have no issue with that.

Will I stop? I hope so, but it is very difficult. It's not a money problem for me but maybe an addiction?.
I don't have an addictive personality nor does it run in my family. i.e drugs, drinking, gambling or smoking..
I do know that my brother does this pooning and is happily married.. so maybe it is a genetic thing...

crazy, as I have been tempted to get help...

 

[looking4alady]

Interesting feedback on the topic....

Most of us are here because we can afford to live the lifestyle, so money isn't necessarily the problem.

Can we, or are we, able to have a "normal" relationship with a woman outside of pooing? Why do we have to "pay" for someone to be nice to us and to say the right things so we can get laid? Can't that happen naturally in the progression of life?

Just some additional thoughts......

 

[LonelyGhost]

Can we, or are we, able to have a "normal" relationship with a woman outside of pooing?

I would say that my 'relationships' with women are WAY better
because pooning removes sex from the equation ...

I don't have to put up with manipulation, bitching, or other abuse
from women because of a power struggle over sex ... i can just
walk away and call an escort.

And I honestly believe that monogamy is a crock of shit ... no one
person can satisfy all your needs (emotional, psychological, physical)
and if my gf wanted a boy-toy my response would be 'have fun'!

Men and women need to 'grow up!' around the issue of sex ... its
not a big mystery, its not the road to moral damnation, its not the
ONLY way that someone shows their love for you so why are we
so obsessed with it?

Legalize prostitution, tell the self-proclaimed 'sex addicts' to get
a life, and let's move on toward a little maturity.