selfish bastard

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Where did VV say that she berated him to his face?

He got all bent outta shape & left pouting.

Oh, wait, maybe the confusion here is that people thing he was bent out of shape as a result of the sheer weight of the chandelier, or perhaps they believe he was winded after VV vacuumed him with the effect of a bunker-buster bomb.

Come to think of it, perhaps VV phoned someone in a line of work other than that of hanging chandeliers and he was simply ill-suited to the favor asked of him. But instead of questioning why VV bothered to ask this particular person, we should put the burden of that concern on him.

 

[S.G. Gibson]

I didn't read this whole thread but I think there was a misunderstanding. VV is assuming the guy was asking for a bj in exchange for the favor. I think he was just asking for a bj because he wanted one. Why the hell do you need to do a woman a favor to deserve a bj?

VV would you give me a bj please?

 

[GoodKat]

Oh, wait, maybe the confusion here is that people thing he was bent out of shape as a result of the sheer weight of the chandelier, or perhaps they believe he was winded after VV vacuumed him with the effect of a bunker-buster bomb.

...or perhaps he was bent out of shape because he expected something he didn't get.

VV's quote does nothing to prove she berated him.

 

[hugedman]

You called him asking him for a favor?

It would be different if he offered... but you asked.

You should have given him the blow job.

Why are women so uptight about sex? And why do women
always ask men favors expecting to do nothing in return.

You used him.

Selfish Bitch.

Well said, Chilli.., I find the original thread BS...and WOT

 

[smackyo]

i think it was pretty ballsy of the man to ask for a blowjob for doing a favour. i do favours for people with the mind set of getting nothing back in return because they are my friend and if i can help them great.

i don't think she should have felt obligated to blow the dude, it would have been nice of her but not an obligation for a favor. i find it strange that he would ask in the first place. i would never ask a female that was my friend for a blow job no matter what i just did for her. it would be really weird.

i will say this though, of all my friends that i do favors for both male and female, my male friends always seem to willing to help me out at some point down the line but my female friends if i ask them for a favor (non sexual) they never seem to have the time cause they are going shopping with their friends or something. there are of course exceptions to that but thats the way it seems to go.

 

[EdenLee]

He's a loser.

Good riddance to him.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Sorry Bijou

This is not one of VV's "friends."

This is a guy she "used" to get something done for her benefit.

All you have to do is read her story, it's in plain english.

Well I guess it's not that plain for a French girl then, because I don't see how you come up with that conclusion? How differently would she have asked a 'friend' for a favor in your opinion? Would you have considered him to be a friend of hers only if she's blown him?

Is that what you are getting at? I'm not getting how you've concluded he's not her friend but just someone she's used from anything else than your own assumptions?

Let me see if I understand your point of view...

So... have any of you ever asked one of your females friends for a favor? Maybe they cooked for you, gave you a ride somewhere, watched your place while you were away, whatever.. any favor. I suspect quite a few of you here don't even have female (platonic) friends to begin with, which pretty much says it all, but those of you who do can answer...
And how about asking favors from male friends? Say, help fixing or building something that requires more than one person, for example..

By asking for that favor from your friends (female and male), what you are saying is that you were really 'using' them? That was your intention? And how did you 'compensate' for it? Was the 'compensation' implied, expected or demanded of you from your friend once they had helped you out? Just curious..


I bet people must be lining up to be friends with some of you guys...

And I'm still waiting for someone to answer and tell me about their own experience in asking and receiving favors from male & female....

Where's that sweet delightful seakingsteadysp?


And I have just a question about this strange logic... If instead of VV, the person asking for the favor had been a gay male who was an sp, the only way he would truly have been asking a friend for a favor and not using him, would have been to offer to give him a blow job in exchange, right? lmao

 

[MissingOne]

Well, I'd not have expected such naivete from the worldly-wise VV. Evidently she needs a dictionary to translate male-speak. Here's a start:

Male says: Interpretation for females

"Sure I'll hang that chandelier": I'll hang it. Afterwards, would you give me a blow job while we swing from the chandelier?

"I'm going to the store. Do you need anything?": I'm going to the store. Can I have a blow job when I get back?

"I'm looking for a good meatloaf recipe": Would you cook dinner for me? Meatloaf would be nice. Can I have a blowjob afterwards?

I'm sure that with a little more help like this, VV will catch on to this obscure language.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

this strange logic: ... If instead of VV, the person asking for the favor had been a gay male ... asking a friend for a favor

Yeah right, a gay male who doesn't know how to hang a chandelier...


For a gay male, having someone else hang your chandelier is akin to a skydiver having someone else pack his parachute. Not a good idea.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Called up a friend the other day for help hanging a chandelier.
What does the perb gallery think?

It's funny when people supposedly ask advice. What they're saying is i know this is wrong but i'm going to do it anyways.

It was always clear to most of us, but at least she has come out and admitted the obvious.

 

[braveheart604]

lol

i cant believe this is still going

 

[kickback]

Took a little time but finished reading all the posts

VV,

I've not heard anyone mention the fact that your friend may have been only trying to consider your wallet and not your friendship when asking for the BJ. Be honest, you enjoy giving a BJ to a stranger; why not a friend?

I think you should call your friend up, make him a nice dinner, rent a movie then give him a BJ.

That's what true friendship is; unselfish acts of kindness

 

[chilli]

Bijou,

1) If it was a "true friend" of VV's she would have laughed it off if he had asked for a BJ.

That's assuming he wasn't hot. If he was hot she would have given him the bj.

2) If it was a "true friend" of VV's she would not have come here and lambasted him.

Her reaction is simply unreasonable. He didn't sexually assault her, geesh for an escort she sure is uptight about sex.

 

[belair]

Spit it out chili

for an escort she sure is uptight about sex.

Why are women so uptight about sex?

Women are way too uptight about sex in our society.

What are you really trying to say?

 

[stryker]

What are you really trying to say?

Hunny,,he's trying to say he was once a white knight,and now he's a prick

 

[poontanghunter]

Hunny,,he's trying to say he was once a white knight,and now he's a prick

fuck, a reformed white knight you say? those are the worst

 

[icemanmp1]

if something like that is agreed on then hell ya she should have given it to him.......

if i do 300 of plumbing work.....and you dont have 300 bucks.......then lets talk.......300 in services....why not!!!!

its just that easy..

 

[badbadboy]

Good bump to the top!

In VV's case, I would not insist upon a BJ even though she did ask for help. I wouldn't ask for $$ either but if she were to offer up some of her premium services, hell yah I am in

I had the exact same scenario a while back when I was asked to network three computers and install secure WiFi. The lady is a friend and we used to be 'fuck buddies'. Well I got all three computers running smooth and networked in about 2 hours give or take.

She then said, thanks for the help but I gotta run now. WTF, not even a cold beer?

In this case I was used and I let her know it.

 

[TwoBrownie]

If he wanted a simple bj from you, why not? He did some stuff for ya and if he knows what you do, who cares?

But he's not a friend, unless he is a fwb. He offered so he should have asked before hand rather than trying to upsell his work which is not the mark of a friend or fwb imo.

 

[john_sinn]

I can't believe I spent 20 minutes slogging through this, but I did. Can I have a BJ?

As I read it, VV asked for a help hanging a chandelier and offered lunch. Quite a nice lunch, by the sounds of it. Friend offered an electrical plate and demanded a BJ. In my world VV was polite and gracious, "Friend" was simply not. Demanding your own terms for a favour (and by pouting and sulking, yes, he was demanding) is rude, plain and simple. Not to mention childish. We all need to mind our manners, kids, and asking for ANYTHING after offering a favour is to not understand the concept of favour. The key word here is "offer". The fact that what he asked for was sexual has nothing to do with it, nor does what VV does for a living.

That said, if I have a friend who is always asking favours without ever reciprocating (and "food" is the usual friendship currency BTW) then I will eventually say "no". I don't keep rigid accounting on who owes me what, but I think everyone has a sense of who's taking advantage of them, male or female. Yes or no, thems the only choices you got, people. Now, get back to work!

26 posts in 6 six years... geezus, I gotta pick it up.