Anyone try this site before? Is it a scam or it is legit? Anyone have any luck or stories to share? Thinking about trying this route instead of the SP route. Ideally, I wouldn't mind a "mistress" type or "sugar baby"...someone to hang out with every now and then, go out on dates with, dinners, activities, and of course, intimacy. It's hard to get to know an SP on that next level. I've had my luck in the past with SPs in this way but it's not really what SPs are looking for either so it's kind of difficult.
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I tried it briefly, no luck
You're right though, getting a good "sugarbaby" is the way to go
I found one on CL and it has been fantastic
Seeking Arrangements (SA) is a very genuine site - there are several other sugar baby sites out there as well, but SA is the only one I found to be any good. I have met many girls from the site and some have been quite wonderful;
of course these girls are not cheap; they are usually students or the like needing financial assistance for their studies or rent and other expenses they need help with; and they usually want an exclusive arrangement, longer term - as they want to have a steady income.
of course these girls are not cheap; they are usually students or the like needing financial assistance for their studies or rent and other expenses they need help with; and they usually want an exclusive arrangement, longer term - as they want to have a steady income.
Correct, I found her in the personals, it was my idea to be a sugar daddy, and she agreed to try it.
It has been a win\win arrangement.
Perfect example of that all over the news with the taping of Donald Sterling by Vanessa Marie Stiviano. Sterling's wife has a lawsuit against her, basically alleging that Vanessa Stiviano was systematically milking assets from Donald. When it looks like the tap is being turned off, TMZ is sold a racist tape that is causing much financial damage to Donald Stirling. Donald has said "I wish I had just paid her off" and has a long interview with Anderson Cooper coming up on Monday. http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/11/us/donald-sterling-interview/index.html?hpt=hp_t1 TMZ has a Video on Vanessa Marie Stiviano and her many other aliases. http://www.tmz.com/2014/05/09/v-stiviano-friends-video-donald-sterling/
Anyway, as BadgerJohn points out, SP or Sugar Baby - - - make sure the woman has some discretion and maybe even some ethics before you let the little head do your thinking for you.
Lots of great advice and thoughts. I had a feeling there were a lot of SPs on those types of sites and Miss Melody you helped confirm it.
Nonetheless, I'm giving it a go and see where things lead. I'm going in cautiously, discretion is certainly very important. Don't want to be the next Donald Sterling, though I'm no racist nor a multi-millionaire!
Nonetheless, I'm giving it a go and see where things lead. I'm going in cautiously, discretion is certainly very important. Don't want to be the next Donald Sterling, though I'm no racist nor a multi-millionaire!
lol, I'm sure that Donald Sterling had attempted to exercise some discretion with V Stiviano. After all he's been playing around for years because he's married to a woman that has been signing divorce papers for 20 years. Of Course, Shelly Sterling has always been told by her advisers to "hold off". It must be ever so much fun to be married to a woman who "completed her marital obligations years ago". Thing is, since Donald and Vanessa agree that Donald didn't get any, she's going to have to continue to "hold off". http://www.theepochtimes.com/n3/670371-donald-sterling-rochelle-stein-pledges-to-keep-clippers/
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I was pretty flush last year so I decided to try out the site. It is definitely legit. It is weird because there is a whole other dynamic going on there... lots of amateurs, some very mercenary, some obviously pros ( I saw some known SPs on there ) and some that were just naughty university students looking for a little support.
It's more expensive and you have to be tactful about negotiating 'one off' encounters, many of the girls don't want to be treated like an escort. I always maintain that it's best to have a dinner and see how the chemistry goes and then agree to compensate her for her 'time' afterward if things feel right with an eye to establishing an ongoing thing.
Typically they are looking for an 'arrangement' ( hence the name of the site ) and want to be on the payroll. You can basically see which ones are amenable to an NSA ongoing type of arrangement. I met a couple of fantastic girls. Typically you can expect to drop $400 a session - or more.
If you want to try it, be prepared to screen, be screened, and negotiate subtly. If you've got a lot of dough burning a hole in your pocket it's a good place to look for an adventurous young girl who's exploring the idea of being a sugar baby.
If I was paying more I need an exclusive relationship so that I can have bareback sex (after sharing test results info) with no stress of catching sti's.
No point if there are SP's who are doing both.
Before I worked as a service provider I tried this site out. I think that I enjoy the idea of the arrangement more than the actual practice of it.
I found it really difficult to sort out a compensation structure with various guys. I was working 2 full time customer service jobs and had a bunch of student debt so I was looking for some assistance with bills and other expenses at the time. I found that it was always a bit of runaround with the gentlemen when I would try and discuss a concrete compensation (e.g. a weekly amount or whatever) and they would always try and insist upon sex before they paid me. Thankfully I do have few braincells to rub together and never fell for it, but I was investing way too much time into trying to make a situation work for like $200 a week and some dinners in the end. Also it did make me a little uncomfortable when the sugar daddies would really pry into your personal life.
Not to mention I've heard so many crazy stories secondhand from other people (on both sides). No me gusta.
I found it really difficult to sort out a compensation structure with various guys. I was working 2 full time customer service jobs and had a bunch of student debt so I was looking for some assistance with bills and other expenses at the time. I found that it was always a bit of runaround with the gentlemen when I would try and discuss a concrete compensation (e.g. a weekly amount or whatever) and they would always try and insist upon sex before they paid me. Thankfully I do have few braincells to rub together and never fell for it, but I was investing way too much time into trying to make a situation work for like $200 a week and some dinners in the end. Also it did make me a little uncomfortable when the sugar daddies would really pry into your personal life.
Not to mention I've heard so many crazy stories secondhand from other people (on both sides). No me gusta.
Funny, they have this disclaimer on the front
"IMPORTANT: Use of this website constitutes acceptance of our Terms of Use Agreement. Please note that we prohibit anyone from promoting illegal activities (such as prostitution) or commercial activities of any kind. If such conduct comes to our attention we reserve the right to remove you from our website, ban you permanently and report you to law enforcement. If you are an ESCORT, please DO NOT use this website. "
I assume its more so to prevent SPs from advertising services (like ERSList) for compensation as opposed to just blanket statement banning women who happen to be SPs from using it.
I tried the site out, from my opinion it's either experienced sp's looking for more clients of young college girls taking advantage of the situation and thinking it's just their "time/companionship" that they want to get compensated for.
Overall it was a headache and I prefer arrangements where both parties know what to expect
Overall it was a headache and I prefer arrangements where both parties know what to expect
I tried one of those sites maybe five years ago,
The girls for the most part don't have a clue what they are doing, a pain and a headache to deal with.
Unless you hook up with like someone said a regular escort looking for another place to advertize herself.
You know you stick with a lady long enough and are regular enough,
The two of you kind of work it out.
Or I don't know maybe your just her number one client.
But like I said the two of you work things out, the rules relax as in clock and social time etc, money eases up, any way.
The girls for the most part don't have a clue what they are doing, a pain and a headache to deal with.
Unless you hook up with like someone said a regular escort looking for another place to advertize herself.
You know you stick with a lady long enough and are regular enough,
The two of you kind of work it out.
Or I don't know maybe your just her number one client.
But like I said the two of you work things out, the rules relax as in clock and social time etc, money eases up, any way.
I tried out the site a couple of times, and did very well, but you need to use a lot of discretion and be firm in your positions on what you as a guy are willing to tolerate. I saw several gals, got very good service, did not get into suppers and other money wasting issues, went to the first meeting with them in Starbucks or their apartment, and spent very little. got their agreement that the first meeting was a get to know you and discuss frankly, session only. For those who said no, just passed on by. Found that those who went for my approach were fairly genuine and two very good relations still exist for over two years now. You will need to be sage about women, and learn to reject the money grabbers etc. I had one who asked me for $11,000 and told her to get lost. she then recanted, and scaled down her thoughts to a few hundred. We have since had a good relationship.
The second time i went on I found a lot of money grabbers, so it is likely a changing scene from one period to another. Not a lot of consistency. You can go on for a month or two and discover. I often though that several of the "gals" might have been guys, that maybe one was tying to lure me into a robbery, and that one other was underage. Just suspicions, but stayed away from those.
Yes, use the site, but be careful. You can be a winner.
The second time i went on I found a lot of money grabbers, so it is likely a changing scene from one period to another. Not a lot of consistency. You can go on for a month or two and discover. I often though that several of the "gals" might have been guys, that maybe one was tying to lure me into a robbery, and that one other was underage. Just suspicions, but stayed away from those.
Yes, use the site, but be careful. You can be a winner.
Currently in the filter and test stage. I'll report once I have more concrete things to share. Definitely some interesting girls so far...some drama, lots of time investment but we'll see where it leads and if it's worth it.
