rough sex

[Keithks]

The idea of dominating someone in bed is a huge turn on for me. So say I want to pull an SP's hair, bite her shoulders, and slap her ass while doing her doggy or something like that. Are these kind of acts typically off limits? If not, would I be expected to broach the subject beforehand, or could I just use my intuition (i.e. start gently at first and then gradually increase the intensity if she were okay with it)?

Just so you know, I would never hurt anyone; that's not what this thread is about. I just like me some rough sex.

 

[Thais]

I may regret participating in this thread, but... oh well...

This subject opens a huge can of worms. The reason these things are typically of limits is trust and individual tolerance. Many women hate rough sex. On top of that, SPs face enough dangers and enough clients who try to push their boundaries, to typically not want to deal with things like this.

You say you'd never hurt anyone, but does she have any way of knowing that? Especially since so many people who exhibit a fondness for aggressive sex often are those who can and do cause harm. Because of this, even women who may be submissive or like rough sex in their personal lives are usually extremely wary of allowing it in sessions.

I've been told that sometimes a woman may be ok with such scenario with a long-term regular she absolutely trusts. I have also seen a couple of websites advertising submission as a service. So theoretically, it can be done. But trust and safety are paramount.

Because of this, as a general rule, it seems sound and best to ask in advance if a woman may be responsive to this. Or broach the subject with someone who is your regular. It really is the best rule. But then, I can't stick to it without sounding like a total hypocrite because some of the hottest sex in my life has been when a man, um, "increased intensity" while we were together, upon some very obvious encouragement from my side...

I guess the bottom line is that you have to unmistakably communicate that you will respect her boundaries always, and that the situation is such that she feels - and is - completely and absolutely safe. Because otherwise, you really risk getting yourself on a black list as potential abuser - and for a really good reason at that.

 

[CODe333]

I know this thread isn't necessarily about doms and subs as you find in BDSM or fetish, but I think there are features of that scene that are illustrative in a helpful way. As an aspiring male dominant (a total newbie) I have become keenly aware of how much work can be involved in developing scenes between doms and subs. Where the dom is male and sub is female there is a special relation of trust and negotiation involved. This just makes sense. I really don't see that there would be much difference when an SP is playing the role of sub. I would never expect any SP to allow me to bind her or anything dramatic like that until I'd established a realtionship of trust with her. Mistress T suggested being a sub as a way to get an idea of how better to dom. This makes sense to me. Nina Leone has offered her servcies as well, allowing me to practice a little spanking and the like. (I hope I'm not speaking out of turn here ladies!). The individual in the role of dom carries an enormous responsibility to make a scene dramatic and safe at the same time. No one is entitled to introduce any level of play they are unable to control and keep in line with a sub's wishes and limits. That, I think, should be obvious. When a girl says she likes it rough, one must still get her to explain exactly what she means. Rough to one person is plain old vanilla to another. If you're not both on the same page, the outcome can damage the soul and the body. Women who harbour dark fantasies about being dominated and love to play that way are quite rare. They are also very careful and intelligent about who they play with. Male doms I have consulted indicate it can take years to find a compatible play partner.

Beyond that I can only suggest that interested people start a thread on this topic in the BDSM forum. I know I'd love to hear from some male doms and fem subs about their experiences and practices.

CODe333

 

[CODe333]

Cool post, would you be heading to SIN this Month ??????

I'm thinking of it. I'm not yet prepared on the fashion side but feel that it's a good place to see one side of the scene. I'll definitely go in future months. I'm especially interestd in events by Metro Vancouver Kink (MVK) - I think their next event is June 7 (includes a workshop on predicament bondage by Elwood Reid!). Their website has more info. I'm an older, single guy, very new to the scene so I'm taking my time becoming familiar with various aspects of what happens. I love some of the discussion in the BDSM forum here on PERB. I found folks there very helpful. MistressT and Sexy Nina Leone are among the contributors of distinction there.

CODe333

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Rough Sex

OTTAWA (Reuters) - A Canadian man who asked his lover to carve a heart-shaped symbol on his chest during a rough sex game almost died when she accidentally pressed too hard and punctured his heart, a newspaper said on Thursday.

The Winnipeg Free Press said the 25-year-old woman had been sentenced to three years' probation after she pleaded guilty to assaulting the man in February 2007.

The 24-year-old man was initially given little chance of survival but made a full recovery and is backing the woman. Both had been drinking heavily and engaging in rough sex when he asked the woman to carve the symbol, the paper said.

(Reporting by David Ljunggren; Editing by Peter Galloway)

 

[Thelyhi]

Rough sex some web porn.A black stud fucked the shit out of virgin white gal ass-holed.He had to stop because she was screaming like a banshee and was bleeding.
She facing the mirror and asked,"is it bad?"
Next you see her gapping anus protruding red.He's like shaking his head in disbelief.