I can't say I have one BDSM role model. I've watched and studied the work of many others whose skills are better than mine, many of it much the chagrin of somebody who enjoys the challenge of creating bondage that is difficult for me to escape. Personally I like the feeling of bondage and am content to remain bound for a while. Escaping, or watching somebody try to escape, is a bonus.
Jay Wiseman's life work is something everyone interested in BDSM should study. He is a little over the top with his message. But if you listen to it and apply it, your play will be a lot safer than one activity that millions of people do every day without a thought - driving to and from work.
Jay's work is partly responsible for my knowledge on how to escape from most bondage. Most of my rigging knowledge comes from a couple of friends who run a bondage website. They have taught me most of what I know about escaping rope bondage. Partly developed out of a necessity because they have a rule that they tie, but they don't untie. But also because they enjoy the game of watching people get out of their bondage.
I'm always learning from the people I chose to play with. Not only have they been play partners, but mentors. Others that I've learned a lot from watching their work include Lew Reubens, the Two Knotty Boys, Jeff Gord, Chanta Rose, James Mogul and Jim Duvall.