I was thinking about the writing of reviews, and how some men feel intimidated due to episodes of being called a shill. It is a bit interesting that, although we are all writing under pseudonyms, we become emotionally attached to our pen names, and are just as intimidated in speaking our truth as if we were writing under our actual names.
I was talking to a well reviewed escort the other day and she commented that she received extremely few new reviews. Men just figure she is well reviewed and don't bother to drop a line to express their satisfaction with their session. The thing is, there are many new men coming to this forum, and lots of older gents don't use the internet as a bible, and a good deal more are busy in their own lives, so when the urge comes they want to find a good escort quickly, and find it frustrating to do the searches that many of you find second nature.
I know there are fellows who would rather keep their good luck a secret for fear their favourite will get too busy, but an escort cannot live on a few good clients a month, and is more likely to leave the industry for lack of consistent work. Escorting is very time consuming and is difficult to work around when a person has another job.
It isn't necessary to write the Penthouse letters; although they are lusted after, and guys will voice their disappointment in not getting the 'juicy' bits, I always figured most of those guys were wots anyways, you know, the kind who rather whank off to someone else's experience, rather than go out and pay for their own, cause the wording of their responses parallels the style of writing one gets from a wot looking for free correspondence from an escort (but never actually books).
So, limber up your fingers and take the time to say a good word about your experiences, wots not withstanding; that is what this board is for. Remember, no one really knows who you are so just ignore the voices of discontent
All very good thoughts and I'll post a short commentary.
If there is a newby and apparently in lust with his first tryst, I will cut a substantial amount of slack and most often will defend him from the Shill Police if possible. I would like to see more new pooners on the board posting reviews. IIRC I started in 2006 on Perb but really didn't post reviews for a few years because of the dog piling that went on here. Then after getting a few "would it hurt you to post a review now and then" comments, I went ahead and posted my thoughts Shill Police be damned.
Re well reviewed ladies and I agree it is important to keep the reviews fresh because if a lady hasn't had a review for 2 - 3 years people will incorrectly assume that she may have retired or is only seeing regulars or her schedule is too busy to even try to see her. I will post a few Redux threads because I am the type of guy who does repeat with some ladies a dozen or more times with only the one review from the beginning of when I first saw her.
Re keeping the SP to myself, well, this one is tough because I do see a few students who work very part time. I always ask if they want a review and most times than not they request I do not review them. One very nice student SP said to me recently that she is absolutely amazed at the number of requests she gets to play but more often than not she is far too busy to play more than 2 days per week seeing a max of two guys per day. Getting a large number of requests that go unanswered would be perceived by pooners as rude or just too high volume to bother seeing her.
I have not kept one regular full time SP to myself if the SP wanted a review. Generally speaking I have given a thoughtful straight goods offering of my experience in each review I have posted on this board.
I never do Penthouse style type commentary because in the end those type of reviews are self serving and it is about the SP not the pooner's ability to make the SP squirm with 12 "perceived" orgasms in 60 minutes. Frankly, I find those reviews quite annoying and not even worth a read. This is a Review Board about SP's *hint* *hint*
IMHO giving a brief paragraph about the ambience of the date i.e. if it went smoothly, if the dog or cat was jumping on your ass throughout or if the place was as advertised with a clean bathroom, fresh sheets, music that is enjoyable but not dominating the session and if the both of you were having fun. If the SP is "distant" or "focused on her phone" or "getting up to do something else"; please for all that is important say so in the review. If she is fully focused upon you having a great time for a short amount of time also say it.
Never been into the numbers game and I don't give numerical ratings because everyone's gauge may be different than mine. Say if you thought she was pretty, if she had a fun attitude and was sexually engaged with you to ensure you had all the fun you could possibly take in a 60, 90 or 120 minute date. If after one shot she gets up and gets dressed with nearly half the time still on the clock, Please say so and if she lays back on her bed with her hands behind her head, say so. Then again if she kicks BBB in the Ass and says let's kick it up a notch; I also say so!
I have always found this line of thought disconcerting, and for some time have tried to reason out why. I believe that it boils down to two assumptions that this entails:
a) Escorts so depend on reviews for their new business, that the lack of them will cause it to dry up;
b) I do not want my favourite girl to stop seeing me as often, so I will prevent this by not reviewing her.
The first is insulting to both sides, as it assumes that the females lack the capability to craft marketing which will bring in fresh blood, and that the men who prefer to keep their most intimate moments private are doing a disservice to the girls they see (I've gotten entirely unnecessary apologies because of this). Positive reviews are helpful, especially starting out, and I truly appreciate kind words both in person and on the internet. They are not, however, the highly essential and grand favour that some dudes make them out to be. I've had men tell me about how their review single-handedly allowed an SP to become busy and raise their rates, and oh boy, did mental eye-rolling ensue. Don't devalue the tremendous amount of time and effort we put into this for the sake of your pride.
The second gets me the most, though, as it implicitly posits is a rather poisonous, "I want you to be less successful so I can continue to have access to your lady bits at my leisure." In a relationship, this is a clear sign to head for the hills, so how is it acceptable in the context of pay-for-play? It also makes me wonder at the person who consistently finds themselves unable to see a lady once her business picks up, as I tend to make greater efforts to make time for regulars, rather then letting them fall to the wayside just because I have more incoming newbies. The ones I stop seeing are the ones who try to exploit the dynamic that can be created when you are dependent on someone as a source of income.
In short, write or don't write reviews for your own reasons. I like 'em, but don't feel you have to. Others may complain about how you go about with this, but I hear that there is lots of noise on the internet. It is to all our benefit to learn to ignore what is not of use to us.
This response is one of the reasons I like to repeat over an over again with you Brynn. Not only are you dead sexy, fun to play with and I have a rollicking great time with you but you are also one to cut through the BS and speak your mind. There are lots of Smart SP's in Vancouver and you are one I would peg near the top if not the top. I always pause and reflect when reading your posts. :thumb:
