revealing that you are were an SP to someone?

[Thais]

thanks for the answer, but real question is

LADIES assuming your Single and SP`ing or were a former Sp and you met a nice guy that you liked. would you tell him that you were/ an sp...

The problem with your question is that it has been asked and discussed quite a bit, and I don`t think that many people have the inspiration or energy to mull it all over again.
A very brief search reveals a number of relevant threads:

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6461
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=23190
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=60457
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=67004
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=83562
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=76798
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=83721

P.S. For myself, there probably will not be any serious dating while I am around. But any man who is serious about a relationship would have to accept this part of my life because it matters too much to me: I treasure my lessons and experiences as a companion, and it`s a really big part of who I am. Hiding it would mean never truly being myself - and why would I want to stay in a relationship like that?

 

[palmtree]

You're welcome

I didn't know we had to obey the road signs here

Just tossing my .02 in the hat

everything's cool thx for the response

 

[palmtree]

The problem with your question is that it has been asked and discussed quite a bit, and I don`t think that many people have the inspiration or energy to mull it all over again.
A very brief search reveals a number of relevant threads:

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6461
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=23190
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=60457
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=67004
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=83562
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=76798
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=83721

P.S. For myself, there probably will not be any serious dating while I am around. But any man who is serious about a relationship would have to accept this part of my life because it matters too much to me: I treasure my lessons and experiences as a companion, and it`s a really big part of who I am. Hiding it would mean never truly being myself - and why would I want to stay in a relationship like that?

thanks for the reply, I dont spend allot of time here , like said im not really a hobbyist. Ill check out thes elinks I did do a search , I didnt exactly find the anwert that I wanted

 

[apple juice]

but Im sure many SP's probably and could succesfully keep it asecret... and many guys are none the wiser......

The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky advantures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.

As an active Sp...if I were to meet someone of interest at this point in my life I would tell that man about my profession. If I was retired though...I can't say I would do the same. I would want to start off fresh and like they say...what's in the past should remain in the past. You can be honest to a certain point but you are also allowed to have secrets...it doesn't make you a bad person...does it?

That's my 2 baht.

 

[palmtree]

As an active Sp...if I were to meet someone of interest at this point in my life I would tell that man about my profession. If I was retired though...I can't say I would do the same. I would want to start off fresh and like they say...what's in the past should remain in the past. You can be honest to a certain point but you are also allowed to have secrets...it doesn't make you a bad person...does it?

That's my 2 baht.

well thats a pretty important part of ones 's life, Id be upfront, I think holding it back is a bit deceptive and kinda mean, and selfish a guy could think one thing about someone and have it all change right quick

its selfish because, if you think he couldnt handle it, your really saving yourself anguish

if i was with someone that was once an sp Id wnat the truth, better than than being in the dark

 

[Babushka]

I love these types of thread! LOL

First off I have been a lurker for many years I never post reviews .I just like reading them. then again I dont do this much.

I have always wondered about the women that admit to being once Sp's to potential romantic partners and how the guys took it. I am curious if any of you guys have dumped a potentail gf as an SP or did any of you women get dumped after revealing that you were an SP

Personally I couldnt date an SP past ,current ,whatever

I'm asking this because I saw one last night I wont say who or where, but anyways we ended up talking for the entire session, time ran up, and we ended up getting to the deed after the time allotment so the whole thing ran overtime.

I thought to myself ..this person is pretty cool I wonder what if i met her outside of this? basically we had a blast talkingand that really what the session was about and the deed took to the backseat

but then again I wouldnt ever date anyone that has done this or did, oh well ! ......I just couldnt do it

had circumstances been different then maybe... but one thing that went through my head was "what a waste or a shame, why is this person here? ".... just being honest

but back to the original question, does anyone get dumped after revealing that they were any Sp or do the dumping

how do some people handle being informed of the fact that their person of interest was is an SP?

if I went with someone and I found out .. well that would be it

but Im sure many SP's probably and could succesfully keep it asecret... and many guys are none the wiser......


The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky advantures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.


PS---- No offense to anyone, I do also realize the irony in my last statement

PPS ----I look forward to your replies I have thought quite allot about this myself

Ahhh, the Madonna/Whore complex that so many men seem to display. You see, it's all good and well to marry a Mary Jane goody two shoes type but it is ultimately the "skank" as you so eloquently put it that will be considered fun, exciting and will fulfill all your sexual desires. I feel sorry for many people here who have to be with someone who is socially acceptable that stops giving blowjobs as soon as they say "I do"! SO many men in these situations are truly miserable. Lets face it... We all have skeletons in our closets. Will your current or future significant other be pleased to find out that you have paid for sex many times over? It goes both ways.

 

[palmtree]

Ahhh, the Madonna/Whore complex that so many men seem to display. You see, it's all good and well to marry a Mary Jane goody two shoes type but it is ultimately the "skank" as you so eloquently put it that will be considered fun, exciting and will fulfill all your sexual desires. I feel sorry for many people here who have to be with someone who is socially acceptable that stops giving blowjobs as soon as they say "I do"! SO many men in these situations are truly miserable. Lets face it... We all have skeletons in our closets. Will your current or future significant other be pleased to find out that you have paid for sex many times over? It goes both ways.

no it doesnt , if i had paid for it, she gave me hell and she secretly paid for it that would be different, its giving an SP a hard time when your an Sp yourself,

then that would be hypocritical, but like i said the dynamic is different, its not a clear cut goes both ways scenario, the buyer and seller

because women can get sex pretty easily without paying for it, while men can't


Most women, just like most men, have been raised to believe that women have something of great value to offer men - and men have been 'purchasing' women on a both itinerant and long term basis. Women wont want to give up their 'power' by purchasing a man, as it goes against everything they've been raised to believe. For a man to purchase sexual services, it's entertainment. For a woman to purchase sexual services, it's defeat



and plus I havent done this much so its not " many times"

its highly unlikley will I do it again

 

[Thais]

For a woman to purchase sexual services, it's defeat

I belong to certain online communities that exchange advice on relationships and sex. A woman who claims to be in her 20s and attractive, recently posted asking about one-night stands: she wants an encounter that is purely sexual, without oral or kissing as she reserves those for more intimate relationships. The challenge in this situation is, how do you ensure that the encounter is safe, that he will respect her boundaries and that she will enjoy it?

Personally, I think she should hire a male escort. It's true that for a woman, getting sex is easy. It's getting satisfying sex without a relationship while ensuring safety that can be challenging.

 

[downtobusiness]

and plus I havent done this much so its not " many times"

its highly unlikley will I do it again

You know what I hate about most churches, especially the Catholic Church? They feel they have the right to impose their beliefs on someone else.

Palmtree, it seems as though you ask questions that you know are controversial just so you can impose your beliefs and morals on someone else.

Its obvious you regretted your experience with a SP, however condemning them and us gentlemen who spend time with them is not going to fix it.

If this isn't your lifestyle, so be it. I am not going to impose it on you. However, don't participate in it. Don't post stupid questions about your fantasies or guilts on these forums. And just because you have a disdain for those who are on this forum, and engage in this lifestyle, doesn't make you smarter than them. You are obviously outgunned. Go drop your coconuts somewhere else palmtree.

Oh and please everyone spare me the Catholic Church debate, I have no problems against Catholics, just not fond of the Church itself.

 

[MadameMercedes]

^^^thats exactly what I thought.

But anyways Cant I ask a question? I dont hate Sp's or any of that.

all I am curious about is that how did any Sp's tell their significant other their past ?

and how did they react? did it go well didit go bad I dont know

and do any of them still keep that secret of their former life without any intent on telling somone?

I rarely do this ( sp's).And its not exactly a Total double standard, IT WOULD BE IF I BECAME A MALE SP, OR IF SHE PAID FOR IT FROM TIME TO TIME

Then the playing field would be more even.....


But the client and provider are a different dynamic, the client primarily does the choosing so generally speaking to an extent he know whats he getting

The SPs gets almost any random guy, she could have your buddy ,your dad, or even a guy that you dont get along with, etc

M&F social dymanics are different, how many women pay for it?...honestly ?or would?...not too many

We all know the truth here ,but prefer lies and to be more PC and not hurt each other feelings

anyway go ahead and think what you will about me. I was actually looking for some personal stories and perspectives form you all thats' all

Honestly, how many times have SA's (service angels, i like that thanks stgpubs) heard from men that they "dont get SA's often. No matter how many times youve done it, you have done it. Stop being so insutling and put yourself in someone elses shoes. Judgement is rediculous, grow up.

 

[CODe333]

Just quickly, I escorted briefly and then took a break for a little over a decade. In each relationship I had afterward, I was clear and upfront about my past. As most of the people I date are open minded and well educated, it's never been a problem.

I am currently seeing someone and he knows exactly what I do. As I am selective as to whom I see and therefore not burned out, it does not interfere with our relationship.

So, best of both worlds.

When I hear a story like yours it gives me a little more hope about humanity. It is a little miracle given the enormous negativity focused on sexuality and those whose work entails anything to do with it. How silly it is for people to assume that simply because someone is or has been an SP that that person is damaged goods or in some other way a defective person, or that that person should be burdened in some special way by quilt or remorse. Hats off to you and your SO for being so civilized and sensible. That you and another can connect so wonderfully in a world full of so much sadness, violence and pain is a great accomplishment. That you've done it under current conditions only makes it that much more of a wonder. Sad that large parts of the world cannot see that. I wish you, and other SPs and former SPs in your situation, happiness in your romantic life and success in your career(s). Those who would reject or scorn you are not worthy of you. They are blind. I don't resent for one moment either what you do or how much you make doing it as long as it's done professionally and in a manner that does no damage to your own life or health or that of others. Most SPs I've been in contact with certainly seem to conduct themselves with integrity and professionalism as well as proper care of soul and body (a few are gifted with a level of human understanding I'd never have imagined given what I'd know about their work). When there are real issues to worry about (war, famine, ecological destruction, etc.), it seems like such a waste of time and energy to worry about who is or has been an SP. Moreover, any success in affairs of the heart ought to be celebrated, not looked at with suspicion.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Personally I couldnt date an SP past ,current ,whatever

I saw one last night ...we ended up talking for the entire session, time ran up, and we ended up getting to the deed after the time allotment so the whole thing ran overtime.



I wouldnt ever date anyone that has done this or did, oh well ! ......I just couldnt do it

had circumstances been different then maybe... but one thing that went through my head was "what a waste or a shame, why is this person here? ".... just being honest

but back to the original question, does anyone get dumped after revealing that they were any Sp or do the dumping

how do some people handle being informed of the fact that their person of interest was is an SP?

if I went with someone and I found out .. well that would be it



The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky advantures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.


PS---- No offense to anyone, I do also realize the irony in my last statement

PPS ----I look forward to your replies I have thought quite allot about this myself

I think you have it wrong... for YOU... are the real tragedy!!!

What a hypocrite !!!