revealing that you are were an SP to someone?

[palmtree]

First off I have been a lurker for many years I never post reviews .I just like reading them. then again I dont do this much.

I have always wondered about the women that admit to being once Sp's to potential romantic partners and how the guys took it. I am curious if any of you guys have dumped a potentail gf as an SP or did any of you women get dumped after revealing that you were an SP

Personally I couldnt date an SP past ,current ,whatever

I'm asking this because I saw one last night I wont say who or where, but anyways we ended up talking for the entire session, time ran up, and we ended up getting to the deed after the time allotment so the whole thing ran overtime.

I thought to myself ..this person is pretty cool I wonder what if i met her outside of this? basically we had a blast talkingand that really what the session was about and the deed took to the backseat

but then again I wouldnt ever date anyone that has done this or did, oh well ! ......I just couldnt do it

had circumstances been different then maybe... but one thing that went through my head was "what a waste or a shame, why is this person here? ".... just being honest

but back to the original question, does anyone get dumped after revealing that they were any Sp or do the dumping

how do some people handle being informed of the fact that their person of interest was is an SP?

if I went with someone and I found out .. well that would be it

but Im sure many SP's probably and could succesfully keep it asecret... and many guys are none the wiser......


The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky advantures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.


PS---- No offense to anyone, I do also realize the irony in my last statement

PPS ----I look forward to your replies I have thought quite allot about this myself

 

[rescue911]

why

did you get tired of picking lint out of your belly button???

 

[palmtree]

? I dont follow

 

[Thais]

but one thing that went through my head was "what a waste or a shame, why is this person here? ".... just being honest

...The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky advantures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.

I would say that the real tragedy are the stereotypes you hold - and the fact that unfortunately, a number of people in the general population share them.

You know, people used to think about interracial marriages in the same way, or even the women who dared to have sex before marriage, period. That used to be so bad. Thankfully, we evolved away from that.

 

[DQ Guy]

In my mind, How could i Judge a girl for gettin
paid do do somthing that I've had to do for free??
Best look at your own past before I would place judgment
on an SP. If she did fall for me that is..
I personaly would take it as a complement to some degree

 

[Thais]

While you portray an open and evolved attitude, the comparison you draw is weak at very best. This topic has been done many times on here so I won't be diving into it again.

To me, all those examples represent the same constructs: socially and culturally determined attitudes. Which by definition makes them specific to a certain culture and time. They are not based on any objective truth but they often turn into self-fulfilling prophesies due to the way society is structured and the belief people hold of themselves.

But you are right, the topic has been beat to death and I don't have the time or desire to engage it in more detail either

 

[Mona_Ramone]

"skanky?!"

pfffffffft.

 

[uncleg]

Then there's the flip-side, do you tell women you meet that you go to SP's ? Do they dump your ass, because you are "skanky" for paying for sex ?

 

[Miss*Bijou]

if I went with someone and I found out .. well that would be it.

that is unfortunate because you would be the one losing out in the end. How silly is that!? For what? Because of someone's past? Everyone has they're own, and that's what makes us who we are...

The unfortunate tragedy is that some of them will try to present themselves as a prefect match for you without disclosing their past in order to hide their skanky adventures with dozens of guys.

That's the real tragedy.

The real tragedy is your own hypocrisy and double standards.
Is it the fact that someone was paid for these adventures (skanky: not any skankier than you are, you know! ) or is it the fact that there were adventures period?

Do you think someone would necessarily tell you her college years are a blur of booze, bj's & bareback sex at frat parties? Are you sure she would tell you her 6months cultural exchange traveling through Europe was spent sampling more than local cuisine and that when she says she learned 5 different languages, the extent of what she can actually say in those 5 languages is: 'fuck me harder' 'that's a great cock' and 'that was great now see ya'?

If you want someone who enjoys sex and who gives amazing blowjobs... you've to expect that for some period in her PAST, she got to practice on a few others! Whether that makes her 'skanky' in your opinion is perhaps indication that she'll just never tell you.....or that you should find yourself a good catholic girl. And even then... Um. Maybe muslim is the way to go nowadays.

PPS ----I look forward to your replies I have thought quite allot about this myself

Are ya sure about that?

 

[palmtree]

I addressed all these issues, but I just want to know how did someone handle find out someone was an an Sp and how did that go down?

did any Sp's keep it secret about their past and for how long? if you told anyone how did they react

 

[sgtpubs]

Personally I couldnt date an SP past ,current - Rubbish of course you could!

Palmtree, you act like a sensitive soul or at least you think you are.

First things first, we all have dark secrets in our past. Second, the acronym SP should be changed to SA (service angel) because that is what they are... ask my wife.

Yeah once a woman has been used by a number of men, then that's it, she's washed up, of no value. How can you think like that, it's 2008 for goodness sake. Listen grow up, we are all selling ourselves one way or another, so let's not pile on a particular group of people. It's just plain wrong.

 

[palmtree]

Oh pullease...the vast majority of you guys couldn't deal with dating a former SP. You all talk like you could..but it wouldn't happen. Just like many straight guys hope for a 3way with their GF until they actually see their GF might enjoy the other woman more than you

^^^thats exactly what I thought.

But anyways Cant I ask a question? I dont hate Sp's or any of that.

all I am curious about is that how did any Sp's tell their significant other their past ?

and how did they react? did it go well didit go bad I dont know

and do any of them still keep that secret of their former life without any intent on telling somone?

I rarely do this ( sp's).And its not exactly a Total double standard, IT WOULD BE IF I BECAME A MALE SP, OR IF SHE PAID FOR IT FROM TIME TO TIME

Then the playing field would be more even.....


But the client and provider are a different dynamic, the client primarily does the choosing so generally speaking to an extent he know whats he getting

The SPs gets almost any random guy, she could have your buddy ,your dad, or even a guy that you dont get along with, etc

M&F social dymanics are different, how many women pay for it?...honestly ?or would?...not too many

We all know the truth here ,but prefer lies and to be more PC and not hurt each other feelings

anyway go ahead and think what you will about me. I was actually looking for some personal stories and perspectives form you all thats' all

 

[palmtree]

Palmtree, you act like a sensitive soul or at least you think you are.

First things first, we all have dark secrets in our past. Second, the acronym SP should be changed to SA (service angel) because that is what they are... ask my wife.

Yeah once a woman has been used by a number of men, then that's it, she's washed up, of no value. How can you think like that, it's 2008 for goodness sake. Listen grow up, we are all selling ourselves one way or another, so let's not pile on a particular group of people. It's just plain wrong.

who said anything about no value? personally thats' your insecurities speaking, its you that think that way

maybe your just defensive because you have a little more to defend?

 

[AA_Train]

If she was in the past, I wouldn't have a problem with it. In the present, I don't think I could handle it, but not because of the sex, but because of the intimacy factor.

There's this widely acknowledge belief in society (more with women then with men) that sex and love are mutually exclusive when in fact, often times one has very little to do with the other. It would be things like the bedroom chatting, the cuddling and the wining and dining, things like that that would get to me. I'd feel like after the end of her work day, I would be getting the scraps, like someone else was getting the best of her. I should be the on getting the best of her, not some other guy, no matter how much he pays for it. And what am I supposed to say? Don't enjoy you job? Don't connect with your clients? I can tell you that after a great session, you feel rejuvenated and refreshed. I would want her to be great at her job and enjoy it, but unfortunately, it would be at my expense. Iit's would be quite the catch 22.

Maybe that's my own insecurity but that's how I would feel. For those ladies with SOs who know about their profession and can make it work, I applaud you. I just don't think I could do it.

 

[CODe333]

For those ladies with SOs who know about their profession and can make it work, I applaud you. I just don't think I could do it.

I applaud you AA_Train. You seem to know your own heart and that's what matters when it comes to stuff like this. There can't be any right or wrong answer to a question like this. Hopefully just an individual's open and honest response to a certain circumstance and a certain other. We may each hold certain values and thoughts on a range of matters - certainly so on matters of love and romance. I doubt, though, that any one of us knows exactly what they will do for love and who their heart may lead them to. I've had SPs (and fuck buddies too for that matter) tell me they hold back certain things only for their SO (e.g. DFK, BBBJ, etc.). That's so cool. When I hear of couples where one is an SP and they make it work, that's an even greater achievement IMHO. To look jealousy and insecurity in the face and move past it in the name of love is a rare human achievement. If anyone has excelled at a career of any sort that's amazing. That a woman has been an excellent SP and brought pleasure and joy to so many, seems great to me. I'd like to think I have the courage of my convictions, and that, should I come to have a partner who is or was an SP, that I would happily accept that, caring to know only how she feels about it now and is she happy (about her situation and with me). How can I add to that happiness. Admittedly I'd also be wondering what it would do for our love life (and my happiness ). Love is too rare a thing to make an issue of such things. An SP, or ex-SP, as a partner has as many great possibilities as a partner of any other type, maybe more. I think it comes down to what's important to you and what you're willing to invest in.

CODe333

 

[claymotion]

I have

hey man

ok first off i dated an SP once, it wasnt bad at all. Second , lots of women pay for sex both with male and female sp's... I once got asked into a 3some by an sp who had a female client wanting a 3some... I got paid! but i nicely gave it to my sp friend. LOL your logic is so far askew that I question even calling it logic. I would say that the woman getting paid is less skanky than your average club girl/college chick. They give it away, like bread crumbs to ducks... basically letting any dude who buys them drinks fuck them, basically never protected oral sex... and if you bang her more than say 3 times, probably not protected then either. Now being in college myself i am not complaining but Im just saying that these girls are really using this as a means to an end. period. yes maybe they enjoy it, I would if women paid me to sleep with them.

 

[sinfulsydnee]

My thoughts and experience...

When I hear of couples where one is an SP and they make it work, that's an even greater achievement IMHO. To look jealousy and insecurity in the face and move past it in the name of love is a rare human achievement. If anyone has excelled at a career of any sort that's amazing. That a woman has been an excellent SP and brought pleasure and joy to so many, seems great to me. I'd like to think I have the courage of my convictions, and that, should I come to have a partner who is or was an SP, that I would happily accept that, caring to know only how she feels about it now and is she happy (about her situation and with me). How can I add to that happiness. Admittedly I'd also be wondering what it would do for our love life (and my happiness ). Love is too rare a thing to make an issue of such things. An SP, or ex-SP, as a partner has as many great possibilities as a partner of any other type, maybe more. I think it comes down to what's important to you and what you're willing to invest in.

CODe333

My husband and I are sitting in bed right now with the laptop between us - it is our nightly ritual...he watches TV and I answer my emails, check website stats and then go on the boards...at this point he turns off the TV and we check out the new posts...when we came across this one tonight, we were both pretty intrigued at what the replies would be like...CODe333, your post made us both feel pretty spectacular! Love is too rare a thing to let issues around sex get in the way...jealousy and insecurities are problems that can be faced as challenges to overcome...in our case, that's exactly what we have done...your post is refreshing...thank you...oh, as for our love life...well let's just say it's F***ing AWESOME!!!!!!

I'd feel like after the end of her work day, I would be getting the scraps, like someone else was getting the best of her. I should be the on getting the best of her, not some other guy, no matter how much he pays for it.

This is something that a couple would definitely need to communicate about on a regular and non confrontational basis...I know we do...one of the ways we have dealt with this (btw, it has not been an issue, we just don't ever want it to become one) is that I limit the number of clients I see in a day...I want each day to start with my husband and end with my husband...he never gets "the scraps" he gets my best at the beginning and the end...if I am too tired, or too emotionally drained (which has never been the case) then I would be working too much...this business can be very lucrative - with sound financial sense and a good budget, there is rarely a need for any SP to work herself to the point of not being able to provide the best emotional, intimate and sexual components to her relationship with her SO...IMHO of course

I just want to know how did someone handle find out someone was an an Sp and how did that go down?

did any Sp's keep it secret about their past and for how long? if you told anyone how did they react

I applied for a job working at the desk of a local MP...the woman doing the hiring said I shouldn't be working at the desk, I should be doing sessions instead...I said I would think about it and that I needed to discuss it with my husband. I went home and told my husband what she said and he asked if I wanted to do sessions - I said yes but that I needed to get some new shoes and a couple of new bathing suits...he asked if I wanted him to come with me to help pick out the suits...

 

[claymotion]

to syndee and hubby

I would just like to say thanks for posting that . I like what code said too and am glad that it got a response from an SP who is in fact in that situation.
to the man behind the woman that is syndee , good on you for sticking with your wife and not letting SPing get the better of your marriage. I hope that my marriage would be as strong.


there you go original poster, it can and has been done

 

[CODe333]

My husband and I are sitting in bed right now with the laptop between us - it is our nightly ritual...he watches TV and I answer my emails, check website stats and then go on the boards...at this point he turns off the TV and we check out the new posts...when we came across this one tonight, we were both pretty intrigued at what the replies would be like...CODe333, your post made us both feel pretty spectacular! Love is too rare a thing to let issues around sex get in the way...jealousy and insecurities are problems that can be faced as challenges to overcome...in our case, that's exactly what we have done...your post is refreshing...thank you...oh, as for our love life...well let's just say it's F***ing AWESOME!!!!!!
D

Yes, thank you for your response! Interesting to hear your experience.Of course, now I'm so incredibly jealous I have something to work through!

 

[phoenixdragon]

dozens??

Try hundreds or even thousands, in Gene Simmons case 5 thousand, and look who he ended up with, and what kinda life he has, sorry just a random comparison, and ya he was a rock star. You know how many times I met the girl of my dreams, that turned out to be an absolute nightmare, that I use to pray to dead relatives to help me get out of the situation.... My point is if you meet someone, there disease free, healthy, emotionally stable, you like them, fall in love, and have a good relationship, does the past matter??? I tell ya what I'd feel a lot better knowing they were an sp than a cannibal, murderer, child molester, animal abuser, nazi war criminal, politician, and whatever worse things you can imagine. I kinda cherish the fact, that hopefully she knew how to give great head, and fuck really, really well, and as long as they were a good person, and had a good heart, fuck the past, who cares. How about being with someone who had a sex change??? Just my opinion. Peace PD