It is appalling!
That you would feel the need to suppress information - on a forum such as this one - about an unacceptable experience. "because they know where you live"
OMG!
I cannot believe what I read. I understand completely, of course. But gosh!
The people who participate in this hobby, either the provider or the client, deserve the right to speak of wrong doings without fear of repercussion. This is why we have a legal system in place, no?
I'm sorry you cannot share your experiences. If it were me that was providing a less than par experience, I'd want to be outed. How else am I supposed to improve if I don't even know I need improvement?
Sorry, just my .02 cents