Regrets, I've Had a Few

Cock Throppled

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When I was a teenager, although I wasn't one of the cool kids, I did have friends, and was athletic, so was never bullied by the psychopaths. But I did stand by while a fat girl and a boy with a facial deformity were relentlessly, and mercilessly picked on. I regretted not doing anything,and over the summer I decided to try to befriend them. The boy was so psychologically damaged he just couldn't let himself trust anyone, so I never got to know him, but was at least civil towards him. I lost track of him after high school, but I hope he made it.

The girl did accept me, and was so overwhelmed by anyone paying her attention, that she developed a crush on me. She turned out to be a very nice girl, and I always made sure I was somewhere near when the psychopaths went after her. I was too weak to intervene, but at least I could divert the attacks, or try to get the attention of a teacher. In her last year of high school she did come out of her shell a little and actually made a small circle of friends.

Also when I was a teenager, I was talked into damaging some cars by a couple of friends. I knew it was wrong while we were doing it, and I thought how disappointed my parents would be if they found out. I vowed to never be one to go against what I knew was right, and to never go along with the crowd. That has stood me in good stead. Sometimes I'm the odd guy out, but I won't compromise my ethics.

Have you ever regretted something, or experienced something that changed your life?
 

Caramel

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yup you sound like an angel compared to me! I have many regrets and I'm still young, but I attribute that to my young mentally ill self, I feel a lot more grown up now and more careful and cautious, and just keep to myself.
 

theimp

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Don't fret over regrets. I am thankful for mine. It is the guilt I felt, for past bad behaviour, that made me want to be a better person.
After a horrific and life changing accident, a few years ago, I was left with a lot of time to reflect on my life and how I had chosen to live it. I cannot say I was particularly proud at that moment. However, change your mind, change your reality. Since then I have endeavored to live by a very simple rule, The Golden Rule.
I think we are all driven by the pendulum swing of selfishness and guilt. It keeps us, somewhat, centered( hopefully ). Without regrets and the associated negative feelings towards ourselves, I fear, the world would be an evil place.
 

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Having regrets can lead to a dark place, Because the mind can play tricks on you seeing things that are not what you really see. When this happens you have two places to go down the rabbit hole of depression and anxiety or hopefully climb out to the sunshine and real world. I was headed down that hole but thanks to some wonderful friends am back in the sunshine and have come out a stronger and I hope kinder person.
 
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majordomo

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I think having regrets is a healthy thing. It's what you choose to do with them that really matters.

Dwell on them, and you'll never look forward and take a chance on future opportunities.

Ignore them and you're doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

But if you choose to learn from them, you're on your way to becoming a better and happier person.

I used to dwell on my mistakes a lot, but one day I decided to stop living in the past and use those regrets as fuel to improve myself and my lot in life. I still regret the pain and heartache my past mistakes caused myself and others, but I now see those mistakes as the building blocks of my current happiness.
 

rxwca

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When I was a teenager, although I wasn't one of the cool kids, I did have friends, and was athletic, so was never bullied by the psychopaths. But I did stand by while a fat girl and a boy with a facial deformity were relentlessly, and mercilessly picked on. I regretted not doing anything,and over the summer I decided to try to befriend them. The boy was so psychologically damaged he just couldn't let himself trust anyone, so I never got to know him, but was at least civil towards him. I lost track of him after high school, but I hope he made it.

The girl did accept me, and was so overwhelmed by anyone paying her attention, that she developed a crush on me. She turned out to be a very nice girl, and I always made sure I was somewhere near when the psychopaths went after her. I was too weak to intervene, but at least I could divert the attacks, or try to get the attention of a teacher. In her last year of high school she did come out of her shell a little and actually made a small circle of friends.
Just a thought ..

If in the news or in a movie, you see a teenager that did some of the things you did - made sure he was somewhere near when the psychopaths went after that girl, and tried to befriend that boy etc., would you have high praise for that teenager?

So why not see yourself in that same way? And have high praise for yourself instead.

You were a teenager! And you did what you could.

I didn't develop some of those compassion in my thinking till I was much older. Even then, I don't have the courage to act on it most of the time. You acted on it when you were a teenager! Give yourself some slack. :first:
 

sevenofnine

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I think its natural to bully people,

the law of the jungle survival of the fittest and all that crap,
we are animals after all. fighting to spread our sperm.

I have a dog, its interesting to watch them, a pecking order, alpha male, I think its natural.

that being said,
my father being in and out of jail we moved constantly, I was a loner,
had a bulls eye on my head for all the bullies.
I never did anything to anyone but was a target. not as bad as some,
people left me alone for easier prey, targets,

living with my father, when bullied, it just seemed natural, bullies want you to show fear anxiety cowardice something,, I calmly faced them, they quite didn't know how to deal with me.
it was nothing really new for me.
I kindof just thought how fucking stupid the world is.
still do.

as I got older, I can't stand a bully,
would never stick up for myself for the most part.
but won't stand there and let someone be picked on.
I just fucking won't have it.

but I let them laugh and pick on me generally I understand that is human nature.
it reflects more about them then me or someone being picked on I think anyway,
 

mrman848

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The sad truth is that the other boy never made it. Most likely suicide.
Lots of men dont make it. ...a few women opt out too, not as many.
 
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