Quick opinions?

[SoftHandsAnne]

So.. this afternoon I realized that if I were still with my ex, it would have been our 13th anniversary. This is the first one we will have had since our split last year. He's on his way here for "family business" - and I just realized... should I say anything? Is it appropriate to acknowledge its passing? We see each other almost every day, so it's not like we are completely out of each others' lives...

Just wondering: those of you here who have gone through separation/divorce, how did you "handle" the first anniversary that happened after the two of you split?

 

[kehoe]

Tell him for $150.00 you'll give him one hell of an anniversary present...but no DATY!

 

[gravitas]

leave him an extreemly erotic voicemail about how you'd like to defile his body and leave him as a quivering lump of flesh......call back five minutes later saying psych

 

[hitrack]

Are you split up or are you not split up?!?!?

 

[visiting]

Are you split up or are you not split up?!?!?

I with Hitrack on this one, fuck him!...... your split.....wait a minute,that's not what I mean, screw... nevermind...... that's it nevermind him, unless you want to get back with that nut, you need to move on...

 

[n2supersymmetry]

So.. this afternoon I realized that if I were still with my ex, it would have been our 13th anniversary. This is the first one we will have had since our split last year. He's on his way here for "family business" - and I just realized... should I say anything? Is it appropriate to acknowledge its passing? We see each other almost every day, so it's not like we are completely out of each others' lives...

Just wondering: those of you here who have gone through separation/divorce, how did you "handle" the first anniversary that happened after the two of you split?

He is a guy so it's unlikely he will remember it. And those times that he did remember is because he knows you will kill him in 200 horrible ways if he forgot.
Now if he DID remember ... well looks like he may have some oil left in that torch for you.
You remember so obviously you are not that over him.
Is this a prelude for a comeback if he remembers ???

 

[Sexy BBW]

Good luck in what ever you decide to do, hope it works out

 

[SoftHandsAnne]

We are split up

Thanks everyone; even for the... creative... responses

I decided not to mention it right when he arrived, because he was in a very good mood and had some fun plans with our boy for the evening. So, rather than risk taking the wind out of his sails by saying something *now* (as I don't know how he would react), I will send an email later tonight to acknowledge it, because our time together wasn't all bad, so it deserves a mention.

 

[SoftHandsAnne]

...and good GAWD no... no way will we get back together.

I still *like* him - he's a good guy, and hope he finds someone again someday... but oh, so not someone I should be with

 

[Gentleman First]

SHA

I think it is a good call on your part to NOT say anything.

Just treat it like any other day since you two are splitsville.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

There is nothing wrong with celebrating the day you met someone that has had a profound impact on your life. Or simply been a significant figure in it at some point, provided it was in a positive manner.
Tilt a couple with him and talk about the old days. Why sweep it under the rug.

 

[visiting]

...and good GAWD no... no way will we get back together.

I still *like* him - he's a good guy, and hope he finds someone again someday... but oh, so not someone I should be with

Your afraid he will steal your girlfriend?


Anyway, there is something you and Mr. EX have to celebrate, never mind your 13th anniversary, your sons birthday, that is a major event for both of you.

Now on the other hand if you feel emotional on may 29th again, heck or any other day, we (your friends here on perb) can arrange to lend you one of our own... a temporary boyfriend. Just say the word......

 

[LonelyGhost]

I have a simple rule:

anytime an 'ex-gf' contacts me,
and its not through her lawyer,
I assume its for sex!



so your 'ex',
upon getting a call for you,
even with a message saying,
"it's our anniversary!"
is going to assume you want sex!

because guys only celebrate in two ways:
Beer or Sex.

You share beer with your buddies,
and that leaves sex to share with the ladies.



Isn't life simple for us guys!