Question: Seeking intimacy help from SP

[ffk123]

Hey to be honest, im not sure where to post this so i thought id just ask the general audience


This is really embarrasing, but I am trying to find info on "sex teaching" not sure what it would be called..

basically, i feel like im lacking in the bedroom.. I really dont know what im doing. IM GREAT at getting off durring sex, but getting the girl off is a different story. both oral and sex. Im not sure what the best way to learn is.. i dont have a steady girlfriend to "practise" with.. and not really the type to have a fuck buddy. Especially considering im not very good in bed

So, has anyone ever heard of a SP or anything that actually teaches good sex? I really dont need any GF experience or anything.. just someone that can tell me what im doing right and wrong and teach me a few things to better my sex.

ive done some searching online, mostly SPs that teach "tantra" and meditation and stuff i really dont have interest in.

Does anyone have any knowledge on this kind of thing or have had a similar experience? did it work?

thanks!

 

[island-guy]

What you want to do is find a good SP who is also a sweetie and book an extended session with her with a couple of hours of social time then a couple of hours of play time. For the social time, pick somewhere private where the two of you can talk about sex. I know some SPs have a dinner and dessert special where they will make you dinner and share it with you at their incall, that would work well.

Also, some SPs are VERY bisexual (some border on being lesbians who have sex with men for money), one of them would certainly be able to teach you a heck of a lot about pleasing a woman.

After a few lessons, book a duo with a couple of bi SPs who are really into each other and you can practice and have them demonstrate for you.

I can't think of a more fun way to learn, if you can afford the tuition.

 

[Holly Taylor]

Irresistible Isabelle (a perb advertiser) offers this exact service.

From her website:

Some of the greatest honours I have ever experienced have been teaching others the delights of sensuality. I am happy to be a gentle guide for those of you who wish to gain more experience. I promise to be open, honest and tactful while teaching you skills that will bring you and your future partners immense pleasure.

http://www.irresistible-isabelle.com/scenic/encounters.html

It is my understanding that she has limited availability right now, but I think she is probably your best bet, and you should email her to find out if she's accepting new clients at the moment.

Best of luck to you!

 

[ffk123]

wow thanks everyone for the tips.

@holly

I checked out isabelle's website and the little information she does give sounds right up my alley. However it looks like she requires past SP's to do character check of sorts.. and i have not been with any SP's to give me a recommendation I haven't really thought about it much until now that im looking for something specific thats a bit different from the usual services. Thanks a bunch for the help though! you rock!

@dood

thanks man! those are some good tips. i feel a little under the 8 ball though, as im long but not too girthy. I guess i need to find something that works with the tool im using for the job

 

[island-guy]

Two other positions I think work

1. Sit on the edge of the bed (like you would normally sit). Have the chick climb on you and ride you. This position can be extremely intimate (she controls the grind, but is face to face with you) or if she's not to big & you're reasonably strong yo ucan lean her back a bit and kiss/suck on her breasts/kiss her body.

2. This works best with strong boyfriend, petite female. Place a pillow on the floor and kneel down. Put your hands out on an angle (30 degree) and push them against the wall. Have her climb on your arms and leave back..her legs over your shoulder, her pussy is at face level. She can lean on your arms and look down to see you eating her out. And she has some control to grind plus her gravity forces her pussy down on your face (make sure you're clean shaven). If you are strong enough, try standing up so she's now 6 feet in the air and you're eating her out. This requires you have good upper body strength and she's reasonably petite (U can't do this with a 170 pound woman). It also requires trust and may require a couple of attempts. Once she's comfortable chances are the orgasm at 6 feet in the will be pretty big. Her back arched against the wall will make it easier for you and give you more balance.

I read somewhere that Jessica Rabbitt used to be a gymnast, she'd be a good one to try #2 with.

seriously, learn to crawl before you run or you'll wind up hurting yourself.

 

[Validator]

this is a great question! let us/me know how things go for you!

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Thank you for the recommendation HT, but I'm not seeing many clients at the moment and absolutely no new clients while I'm nursing a sports injury.

Dood, most of what you said was pretty good but for a few things.

1. Safe sex and oil do not mix. Oil breaks down condoms. Try silicone lube as instead. Same glide but condom compatible (more expensive though).

2. As a bisexual woman who has been with more women than most men, one (anyone) cannot make sweeping statements about oral sex or things such as pressure, especially to a novice. You're setting him up for a kick to the side of the head. It's important for men to remember that the clit is analogous to the penis...think of how sensitive your cock is, now compress all of that surface area into a .5 - 1.5" area...THAT is how sensitive the clit is. Too much pressure can hurt and/or can result in lack of sensation. Some like lots of pressure, some like an almost imperceptible and indirect touch. PS...NEVER go straight for the clit, there is a whole amusement park down there for you to play with.

The most important thing is to establish communication: "I really want to please you and I want to know what you want, so let me know if I'm doing anything uncomfortable or if you want something specific AND *wink* when I'm doing the right thing, tell me so I keep doing it." Then start slowly and gently. The hips will tell you much of what you need to know in terms of pressure speed and rhythm. If her hips are tilting away from you, ease up. If they are pushing up, try a little more pressure.

I won't speak for anyone else, but based on ample experience I'm quite certain I'm not alone, I'm not really into face riding. If I get into it, my hips start shaking and I can't maintain the position, I'd much prefer to lie back, relax, let my mind float away.

Thanks, cheers & best of luck

 

[ffk123]

thanks for the tips isabelle!

good to hear from the target audience ;p

 

[Rotcod]

I was kinda in the same boat as you once were. In my not-so-distant past I was very nervous and awkward when it came to sex and I wanted to see an escort to improve my skills and get more comfortable with women. Luckily I managed to find a mature lady in touch with her sexuality who understood my nervousness and gave me a few tips and pointers.

A couple of years ago I found a video series called Tristan Taormino's Expert guide to sex. One of the videos teaches how to perform oral sex on a woman and also show where her G spot is as well as some tips as to how to stimulate it. What Isabelle mentioned is pretty much spot with what the video teaches. Send me a PM and Ill try to find the link to the site that I found it on

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I'll correct myself, I can think of one..this 23 year old I made the mistake of dating. I'd never do that again. And I'm sure most SP's like receiving oral sex just not from their clients because of risk.

I've had friends who did not like it. I personally do and always have but there are lots of girls who aren't that much into it. Just like there are plenty of guys who aren't much into giving it. And just like some things change with time, that's also the case when it comes to sex..

For a long time the only way I could cum was by daty...no longer true.
For a long time I disliked the sensation of digits, it did nothing for me....no longer true (there are conditions though, such as trimmed nails).
My nipples used to be somewhat sensitive but the sensation wasn't out-of-this-world and quickly went to "overly sensitive" and not feeling good at all......no longer true.

For some reason a few years ago they got more sensitive -but in a good way- and the sensation actually changed whereas it somehow feels like there's a direct connection to my clit (without touching it, of course. lol). And although I've never actually had an orgasm from nipple play alone, I've felt pretty damn close. It definitely is a way to get me from 0 to 100 in about 30seconds. LOL On the other hand, a friend of mine says her nipples are SO sensitive that any kind of pressure feels bad - she doesn't like her nipples to played with/touched at all.


So basically, what I'm saying is that when it comes to sex, even in the case of daty, one should never assume anything because there are no rules that apply to everyone. That's why I have to agree with Isabelle's advice to start slow and soft and work from there. I honestly get waaaay more sensation when the start is softer and then slowly builds from there.


And yah.... totally with you on the face riding, Isabelle. It gets too hard to concentrate! lol

 

[Harmony-bc]

Honestly, why not just ask the woman what she likes? Here's a free hint from "Magic Tongue Dood" for you.

1. I've yet to meet a woman that didn't like oral sex to be given to them. I've also yet to meet a woman that doesn't orgasm when you give them oral sex. One usually gets a good result if you make the woman ride your face. For extra added effect make her watch herself while doing it in a mirror, hands on the wall. Also, during any type of oral sex most chicks seem to like some pressure (from fingers) on their pevlic bone (go inside pussy, you'll feel the bone it's on the front side). It's G spot country

I like digits, but some people can be way too rough, ouch I do not like face riding, especially if we are new lovers. I feel exposed, plus like Isabelle said, it takes a lot of concentration to sit still in the right spot when. too much to concentrate on. I much prefer to lay on my back and enjoy it.

I was going to suggest Isabelle or Nina, actually. Either one would be perfect. If either one cannot for whatever reason, I would suggest someone a bit older. Older women have more experience (for the most part) with what they like and are generally more confident sexually.

 

[ffk123]

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?127840-Irresistible-Isabelle
Use the guy who started this thread for a reference. That should get you in the door

oh boy. a lesson on "what not to do"

 

[porcelianprincess]

In Europe fathers used to take their sons to see courtesans to teach them the art of pleasing a woman. My mother considered it for my brother but it is a lot different in Canada.

I personally show and teach every partner exactly what I like and dont like(I am very very picky lol). I would think that any well reviewed SP who has been in the business for a while should have no problems teaching you or showing you.

 

[TenderLover]

thanks man! those are some good tips. i feel a little under the 8 ball though, as im long but not too girthy. I guess i need to find something that works with the tool im using for the job [/QUOTE]

I heard lots of times women say that size doesn't matter but after hearing your story I start having a doubts.

 

[TenderLover]

wow thanks everyone for the tips.

@holly

I checked out isabelle's website and the little information she does give sounds right up my alley. However it looks like she requires past SP's to do character check of sorts.. and i have not been with any SP's to give me a recommendation I haven't really thought about it much until now that im looking for something specific thats a bit different from the usual services. Thanks a bunch for the help though! you rock!

@dood

thanks man! those are some good tips. i feel a little under the 8 ball though, as im long but not too girthy. I guess i need to find something that works with the tool im using for the job

I heard lots of times women say that size doesn't matter but after hearing your story I start having a doubts.