Question for the ladies regarding the doggie position

[aznboi9]

Hi Ladies

Is it true that, generally speaking, girls don't like doing it doggie style? Obviously, there are going to be some who like, or even love, that particular position. But in terms of women in general, is it true that most of them don't like it?

I'm just asking because I've recently been dating this girl who doesn't and claimed that this preference, or lack of, was the case for most girls; apparently, they find it demeaning. So I was curious to see if there was any weight to that claim.

Thanks.

 

[blackcad]

Most girls who find a particular sex position "demeaning" are not enjoying sex to their full capability...because they're doing too much thinking about social values, self worth, etc to get lost in the carnal pleasures of the sex act. (unless there is some physical reason that the position is uncomfortable for her). Deep down, most women I've known...even the prudes....liked doggy..no....loved doggy.....although with some it took a while in the relationship to get to that point. It's one of the most dominant sex positions there is, and women, when they really get immersed in the moment, love getting dominated by a "real man"...it's in their nature and our nature. Having said that, women also like emotional men, and men who can combine emotions with dominant traits. There is a time for emotional sex, and a time for dominant sex.....and sometimes both at the same time....variety is the spice of sex. As far as women wanting to be dominated, this may not apply in the real world concerning day to day activities....as the sexes are equal and opposite in our world..as they should be..and only in repressive nations is the domination of women acceptable....but in the heat of passion, yes. This is why female doms are such a unique fetish....people expect men to be doms...but not the reverse.

We would all have better sex if we could just let go of what is right, what is wrong, and what is acceptable, should I do this, should I do that.....deep down we all know how to have good sex.......we just have to stop trying to rationalize everything all the time and go with the moment....and be guided by our instincts. Of course if you are talking about sex with an sp.....remember....emotions on her part may have little to do with it so you should be more careful in ensuring all her limits are respected, despite any emotional bond you feel toward her (basically she will tell you what you can and cannot do and you must respect that). A non-sp is much less likely to tell you in advance what her limits are so you are more free to explore. And just to be clear....NEVER force any sex position on anyone.....dominance be damned...that is called rape.....if she says she doesn't like it..maybe she will over time....if you get her to relax and in the right mindset. Just some ramblings in response to your post aznboi9. Cheers.

 

[tyronejames]

It may also have to do with the type of stimulation a particular woman needs to orgasm. Doggie provides very little to no clitoral stimulation. I guess perhaps those women who get most of their pleasure from clitoral stimulation may not prefer it at all.

 

[aznboi9]

I don't think you will get much of an answer here the ladies will tell you thier opinion and if they enjoy it or not.

True, I was prepared for that. But information such as this:

Outside of the business and the few sex talks I have with other girlfriends all seem to enjoy it.

is helpful. I don't get the opportunity to discuss preferences in sexual positions with my female aquaintances and, obviously, the demographics of this board will run on the more sexually open side of things; but I figured that the girls here would probably be more likely to have had these discussions and, therefore, have a better take and insight on female attitudes with respect to this subject.

Most girls who find a particular sex position "demeaning" are not enjoying sex to their full capability...because they're doing too much thinking about social values, self worth, etc to get lost in the carnal pleasures of the sex act.

I think that this may be a significant factor in her reluctance towards doggie. She isn't averse to sex, rather the opposite, but she is quite shy and, I think, has some difficulty really allowing herself to let go. So I think that it may not be the "demeaning" aspect of it but that it's a more exposed position, allowing me to see more of her which may make her more self conscious.

Certainly, I play a role in that and have tried to make her as comfortable as possible and have never pressured her into doing anything or, at least, have really tried to avoid pressuring her as that would be the last thing that I would want. So I've just been trying to take a more laid back approach and allowing things to unfold at her own pace.

Cheers

I'd trade her in........quick!!

We'll see what happens.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Hi Ladies

Is it true that, generally speaking, girls don't like doing it doggie style? Obviously, there are going to be some who like, or even love, that particular position. But in terms of women in general, is it true that most of them don't like it?

I'm just asking because I've recently been dating this girl who doesn't and claimed that this preference, or lack of, was the case for most girls; apparently, they find it demeaning. So I was curious to see if there was any weight to that claim.

Thanks.

Demeaning? Personally it's one of my favorite. I can imagine some girts have different preferences but I've never heard anyone tell me they disliked doggie so I really doubt this is a general dislike. I honestly don't know where the idea of doggie style being demeaning came from either. How is it demeaning? Did you ask her why she felt it was? I'm thinking she's kind of got some issues about sex because it's not like doggie style is anything crazy, unusually kinky or even uncommon. And if that's demeaning to her.... yikes. No offense, but good luck.


So what does she consider acceptable? Missionary and cowgirl and nothing else? Are blowjobs demeaning too? I find it very sad that people still have such issues about sex. What a waste of time it is to worry so much about sex instead of enjoying it.


So to answer the question: No, disliking this position isn't a universal feeling all women share - not even close. And no, there is no general belief that it is a demeaning position. Honestly, I've never even heard it being suggested, not even from non sp girlfriends. While she is absolutely entitled to dislike the position because it doesn't feel good, it sounds like her reasons have nothing to do with that at all. Instead it sounds like it's based on some weird ideas of what she thinks others view as demeaning.

*ahem* Issues, much?! *ahem*

Most girls who find a particular sex position "demeaning" are not enjoying sex to their full capability...because they're doing too much thinking about social values, self worth, etc to get lost in the carnal pleasures of the sex act. (unless there is some physical reason that the position is uncomfortable for her).

We would all have better sex if we could just let go of what is right, what is wrong, and what is acceptable, should I do this, should I do that.....deep down we all know how to have good sex.......we just have to stop trying to rationalize everything all the time and go with the moment....and be guided by our instincts.

Totally agree.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

It may also have to do with the type of stimulation a particular woman needs to orgasm. Doggie provides very little to no clitoral stimulation. I guess perhaps those women who get most of their pleasure from clitoral stimulation may not prefer it at all.

In most cases, regular missionary sex provides little clitoral stimulation...

Doggie makes it (stimulation) possible more than missionary does.

 

[deathreborn]

that and you get a full view of her butthole. maybe she doesn't like that.

 

[shaggadelic]

My ex loved doggie. It was her favorite position. I can always get her to climax everytime in doggy. Speaking of orgasms, it seems the orgasm from clit stimulation and orgasm from penetration feels different, at least to my ex. Is that true ladies?

 

[Puddlegurl]

Love it!, grab my hips, ankles or hair and giddy up

Speaking of orgasms, it seems the orgasm from clit stimulation and orgasm from penetration feels different, at least to my ex. Is that true ladies?

Ohhh yes very different, the clit only orgasm is kind of what I call the "quickie" orgasm, get both going and you'll hit the water works!!

 

[Massman]

Most girls Ive known love it. BUT! (pun intended) there are a few caveats. Early in a relationship, when things are new, and a necessary trust level isnt yet there, many girls will prefer to have sex face to face - the closeness is reassuring. Also many women dont liek their ass, and in doggie you have a full panoramic view. Important note - IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THE SIGHT OF IT if she is not comfortable - it wont work - as she becomes more trusting of you, that you will accept whatever imperfections she percieves in herself - then she will be more open to it. For a woman who idealizes the romantic aspect of sex - this position may be too "animalistic". It interesting that this position is percieved as dominant - as in missionary the woman is essentially "pinned" by your body.
A middle ground might be to try spooning - easy to kiss in this position, and to caress breasts, clit as well, and is is a naturally "comforatble" and seemingly "loving position"

 

[PuntMeister]

Actually, I agree with Hunka on this - if she finds doggie style demeaning now, she's going to find ALL sex demeaning once she's moved in.

Just tell her that you love her so much that you are willing to get down on your knees for her. Just one teeensie little thing... She has to get down on her elbows for you

 

[OriannaXO]

OMG I loveeeee Doggie one of my all time fav positions so much can be done with it and everything is so deep it makes me make awesome sounds of happiness Screw demeaning too call me mean names if ya want I love all kinds of sex, no such things as borders in the bedroom, that gal sounds just a wee bit uptight if you ask me.

 

[mistressfreyja]

Let's eliminate the terms dominant and submissive in terms of sex positions.

It's silly to think that the only position a dominant woman can do is cowgirl.

Only submissive women can bend over and take doggie? What if a dominant woman enjoys it?

Women have the hole, men have the piece to fit the hole.

Frontwards, backwards, sideways, on top, on bottom, etc....it's still all the same action, regardless of if you're looking me in my eyes or my ass.

 

[aznboi9]

Some consider it to be a submissive position, maybe that is what she means.

It could be. The nervousness of the situation may not have been conducive to expressing herself clearly.

Are blowjobs demeaning too?

Actually, no, they haven't been an issue.

*ahem* Issues, much?! *ahem*

Probably. But part of it is understandable as she did have a medical issue that, when I think of that weighing on someone's mind over many years, I can see how that can lead to some insecurity issues. We were able to work through it together so I do have to give her credit in that she's actually come a pretty long ways so far and is trying.

Most girls Ive known love it. BUT! (pun intended) there are a few caveats. Early in a relationship, when things are new, and a necessary trust level isnt yet there, many girls will prefer to have sex face to face - the closeness is reassuring. Also many women dont liek their ass, and in doggie you have a full panoramic view. Important note - IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THE SIGHT OF IT if she is not comfortable - it wont work - as she becomes more trusting of you, that you will accept whatever imperfections she percieves in herself - then she will be more open to it. For a woman who idealizes the romantic aspect of sex - this position may be too "animalistic". It interesting that this position is percieved as dominant - as in missionary the woman is essentially "pinned" by your body.
A middle ground might be to try spooning - easy to kiss in this position, and to caress breasts, clit as well, and is is a naturally "comforatble" and seemingly "loving position"

Yeah, this may be a big part of it, as I alluded to in my second post. She is ok with spooning and has suggested that as a middle ground until she becomes more comfortable with doing doggie.

Thanks for the feedback.

 

[WreckBeach]

Complete lies. Every female friend I know who is sexually active loves doggy. It's a great position- you can spank, you can pull hair, you can jackhammer away . Plus, deeper penetration. Some women do seem to find it awkward at first, mostly due to being self-conscious. "Oh, my butt's too big, oh he'll grab onto my lovehandles and I don't want him to, what if he sneaks it into my butt, etc etc." Partners just need to get used to each other. Doggy is a wonderful, wonderful position. Give it some time. After a while, I guarantee she'll come to love it.

 

[jetsam]

It is a dominant position. If I were taller I would do the neck nibble too.

He thinks it should be called pussy style but likes it anyway. Estimates are that a male lion copulates 672 times in a week but then doesn't mate for two years.

 

[uncleg]

Let's eliminate the terms dominant and submissive in terms of sex positions.

It's silly to think that the only position a dominant woman can do is cowgirl.

Only submissive women can bend over and take doggie? What if a dominant woman enjoys it?

Women have the hole, men have the piece to fit the hole.

Frontwards, backwards, sideways, on top, on bottom, etc....it's still all the same action, regardless of if you're looking me in my eyes or my ass.

Yea MF...........tell it like it is.....................plus it makes fantasy easier...................

 

[Mona_Ramone]

OMG I loveeeee Doggie one of my all time fav positions so much can be done with it and everything is so deep it makes me make awesome sounds of happiness Screw demeaning too call me mean names if ya want I love all kinds of sex, no such things as borders in the bedroom, that gal sounds just a wee bit uptight if you ask me.

orianna, you slut! xoxoxo

regarding doggy style exposing parts of herself of which a woman might be self-conscious: if a lady has any cellulite on her bottom, holding doggy position actually pulls the skin taught and smooths any 'imperfections'. try it in a mirror and see! (i'm still working on a way for you guys to say that to your wives/ girlfriends without ending up in the doggy HOUSE - as opposed to doggy style.)

regarding clitoral stimulation: make it about her, and not about you. *wink wink* bring in a small and friendly handheld vibe like a bullet or something else cute. hold that against her clit as you penetrate her. doggy is the natural choice for this. save the full-on nasty hair-pulling, dirty-talking, jackhammer-pounding for when she gets over this 'demeaning' thing. instead tell her how beautiful she is, how much you love her body, and other niceties.

it could be porn's fault too. ever notice how most-everything that's become standard in porn looks a bit demeaning to the female performers?

 

[porcelianprincess]

I personally dont like doggie because it hurts me. If I angle my bum so that it doesnt go in all the way its fine but if its too deep it hurts. My personal fave is CG

 

[littlejimbigher]

A Blond, a Brunette and a Redhead are sitting in the gynecologist's waiting room and they begin to discuss the probable sex of their offspring

The Redhead says "I was on top, so mine is going to be a boy"

The Brunette says "We were in Mish when I caught, so it's going to be a girl"

The Blond looks at the two women in shock and then says "OMG, we did it doggy style, I'm going to have puppies"

I've been telling that one for years. One of my favs.

It may also have to do with the type of stimulation a particular woman needs to orgasm. Doggie provides very little to no clitoral stimulation. I guess perhaps those women who get most of their pleasure from clitoral stimulation may not prefer it at all.

The gals I see say they like doggie because I'm hitting their "G Spot"