I've always gone strictly by service. Can't do much if a particular SP doesn't want to book me, but on my side, if I find the service fading away for whatever reason I stop making appointments. I don't think there is much more to it.
Question for both Providers and Clients. Have you ever told a regular they were fired, or do you just stop communicating with them?
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That is an untrue statement , how do you know ?
I’ve had gentlemen thank me for telling them they were rude , or haggling over price, they appreciated the honestly & it didn’t happen again , how’s that”zero” ?
the latest was telling a client (from here ) that I will NO LONGER see him due to him always wanting to talk about me as a teenager (14 to be precise) & that he hurt me when he touched me , maybe he doesn’t care or maybe, just maybe no one’s ever called him on his gross behaviour,
It’s worth it to me .
I stand corrected. Didn’t mean to make an untrue statement
I hear horror stories of clients behaviour and I don’t think it’s right for the SW to have to do the emotional labour. But if this is not the case, I apologize.
This is so true!
We could all use some objective criticism now and then.
I had a bad time once but by the next morning I realised she was absolutely right.
I feel very ashamed of myself for doing this once several years ago. On my last (her choice) visit with, my fave at the time, her place was (in my opinion) not quite up to snuff. Over crowded, with "stuff", wet paint on the floor, condoms just left in the toilet. I felt I knew her well enough that I should mention it. I never thought about it again. No big deal. The next time I booked No response. Sometimes when I would try and book, she might respond with a polite sorry, not available. After about a year of this I get this huge response, about harassing her, don't ever tell me how to live my life, and don't ever call me again or I will have to take drastic measures. AND I have not.
Sadly I have had to a couple times.
In one case I discovered a regular who I adored had taken part in "bare" full service with another provider. If he can't respect his own safety and mine, then unfortunately I can't see him.
And another regular who I really enjoyed seeing unfortunately fell in love with me, and became really jealous of me seeing other Gentlemen.
It was really difficult to stop seeing him but I just couldn't go on hurting him which seemed happened every time he saw my ads up.
Otherwise if I have an issue come up with a gentleman I try to gently talk about it.
In one case I discovered a regular who I adored had taken part in "bare" full service with another provider. If he can't respect his own safety and mine, then unfortunately I can't see him.
And another regular who I really enjoyed seeing unfortunately fell in love with me, and became really jealous of me seeing other Gentlemen.
It was really difficult to stop seeing him but I just couldn't go on hurting him which seemed happened every time he saw my ads up.
Otherwise if I have an issue come up with a gentleman I try to gently talk about it.
Ghosting is very problematic and emails need to written in the knowledge that it is a person who you are writing to!
Using a sledgehammer to be brutally honest and score points serves no purpose at all. The tactic will merely cloud any relationship and will not change behaviour.
I gotta say, I really respect this.
1. You're up front about what's happening and why.
2. Potential for a second chance.
Tricky when you are sort of friends but lose the attraction. I don't know if I should contact her to wish her well, or not. Either way she won't be pleased.
I was seeing my regular SP and she was telling me about an incident she had with someone a few days before... she went on to describe the argument and what happened. THEN she told me something about the person that completely gave away who it was and it turns out I know the family of her client and do business with them.
I stopped seeing her due to this indiscretion and I have not communicated why. I didn't want to start a fuss and end up being the story she tells to someone else giving away who I am.
That being said, I hadn't been a regular very long and it's possible she won't notice I'm not calling her anymore... regardless, I believe my privacy trumps her right to know. I also believe it goes the other way. I think when it comes to a specific situation like this, there's nothing really wrong with ghosting.
I stopped seeing her due to this indiscretion and I have not communicated why. I didn't want to start a fuss and end up being the story she tells to someone else giving away who I am.
That being said, I hadn't been a regular very long and it's possible she won't notice I'm not calling her anymore... regardless, I believe my privacy trumps her right to know. I also believe it goes the other way. I think when it comes to a specific situation like this, there's nothing really wrong with ghosting.
I would just stop making appointments with her, no need to be rude and point out why you no longer want to see her.
Although after no contact for a while, one contacted me to ask why. Not wanting to lie, I told her the truth, which probably hurt some.
I wish that she had never asked.
Although after no contact for a while, one contacted me to ask why. Not wanting to lie, I told her the truth, which probably hurt some.
I wish that she had never asked.
Don't think we clients need to fire the ladies anywhere near as regularly as we clients need firing. And if there's some reason for firing then either move on or tell her the reason and see if it's something you can move on from. We guys sometimes act like a bunch of dramatic divas, let's just all grow up
