q for sp. emotional attachment

[Shiver22]

I had a great time yesterday. My first day as a sp was fun, passionate, and left me horny and wanting more when the day ended.

I've been thinking about how I felt with each of them. I think we were more GFE from the talking, making out, and (for 2 of them) cuddling after. I know I enjoyed myself from the emotional attachment that was created, which made the physical very intense and passionate. In some ways I think I got to release more sexual energy, getting more out of the experience then the clients.

Each one of them tried to ask me out. I politely decline, but found during that brief moment when we connected, I had to suppress the urge to except their invitation so nothing was in the way of getting a long, hot, and heavy session, enjoying each others bodies.

I'm wondering if this emotional attachment is something I should embrace or try to keep tightly packed away in the back of my mind?

Yes I do know the reality of who I am and they are in our exchange.

xoxo Shiver

 

[Jodie]

Embrace it insomuch as it allows you to connect with your clients and provide them with the true "girlfriend experience," but just make sure that you stay on the right side of that fine line between your professional life and your real life.

 

[Cosmo]

Embrace it insomuch as it allows you to connect with your clients and provide them with the true "girlfriend experience," but just make sure that you stay on the right side of that fine line between your professional life and your real life.

Does anyone find it a difficult line to tread?

 

[JustJess]

I had a great time yesterday. My first day as a sp was fun, passionate, and left me horny and wanting more when the day ended.

I've been thinking about how I felt with each of them. I think we were more GFE from the talking, making out, and (for 2 of them) cuddling after. I know I enjoyed myself from the emotional attachment that was created, which made the physical very intense and passionate. In some ways I think I got to release more sexual energy, getting more out of the experience then the clients.

Each one of them tried to ask me out. I politely decline, but found during that brief moment when we connected, I had to suppress the urge to except their invitation so nothing was in the way of getting a long, hot, and heavy session, enjoying each others bodies.

I'm wondering if this emotional attachment is something I should embrace or try to keep tightly packed away in the back of my mind?

Yes I do know the reality of who I am and they are in our exchange.

xoxo Shiver

You don't even know how close that is to how I feel sometimes...it's crazy...

However, I use that to enhance my visits with regulars and it works out awesome!!

Jess

 

[COLONEL ANGUS]

The girls wanna be with him and the guys wanna be like him!

Wow...are those Dos Equeos commercials based on the life and times of InTheBum ?"

 

[mistressfreyja]

Emotional Detachment.

I think it's only natural for us to genuinely appreciate our clients.

However, the best advice I can give, is always remember that this is a biz transaction. They are paying you to provide a temporary service, not to be their GF/wife. Most have that already, and this biz is about short-term gratification, with NSA!

It's a balance between actually having serious feelings for a client, as opposed to enjoying their company and genuinely liking them as a person/part-time companion.

Best to seek emotional attachment outside of biz. Good luck!

 

[mistressfreyja]

Good advice.

I completely agree with taking a little piece of my heart! And I agree with detaching until we meet again.

Clinging to anything in life is generally unhealthy for the psyche. Best to let things flow.

I love my job, too

I've had a few that have taken a little piece of my heart when they walked out the door. *sigh*

And I just leave it for what it is, to be picked up next time we meet.

And perhaps that's the joy of being mature. Enjoying what life brings you, however brief, and not hanging onto it.

Mmmmmm, I love my job.

 

[wet_suit_one]

For my part, I'm thankful that I'm a very cool person. I sort of developed some attachment to some Sp's but then I remember it's just a deal, so let it go.

Wonderful times with wonderful women is awesome, but don't let it go to your heart. There lies danger....

 

[Miami]

I much prefer to having 2 or 3 regular SPs to a large of variety of encounters. Primarily, because I think the GFE experience and temporary emotional attachment would improve with each encounter.... and that is my primary reason for the hobby.

However, I would never feel comfortable having just one regular as it will make it more of a challenge to maintain the proper SP/client perspective.

After a great encounter, I want to stay attached to that sensual and emotional satisfaction... not to the lady who provided it.
I am still working on building my 'dream team'...but at the end of day my ATF will likely be 3 or 4 ladies, who provide intense, passionate, emotional, sensual and yet interchangeable service. I want to fall for the experience, not for the provider.

And as a bonus, I believe that my ability to receive intense emotional & sensual service and still keep it in the proper perspective, will enhance her ability to provide it as she doesn't have to worry about me crossing the line.

 

[87112]

How can you control fate and the situations in which you meet? What if the SP is the ONE? Or vice versa?

 

[Willingham]

Emotional attachmentZ??????

How many guys did you do it with on your first day????

Hilarious.

 

[Ratbert_2008]

at the end of day my ATF will likely be 3 or 4 ladies, who provide intense, passionate, emotional, sensual and yet interchangeable service.

I am in full agreement, except for "interchangeable". The acronyms may be pretty much the same between the providers, but the way they are performed by the ladies that I want to be with is not interchangeable.

Each lady is unique and with repeats, whether or not the list of services grows, many of the ladies provide their services differently from one time to the next because they get to know what you like, to keep things interesting etc.

 

[Miami]

I am in full agreement, except for "interchangeable". The acronyms may be pretty much the same between the providers, but the way they are performed by the ladies that I want to be with is not interchangeable.

Each lady is unique and with repeats, whether or not the list of services grows, many of the ladies provide their services differently from one time to the next because they get to know what you like, to keep things interesting etc.

Perhaps I stated that poorly. What I meant by "interchangeable" is that I connect enough them well enough that I equally anticipate a rendezvous with each of them and each of them in their own way, can satisfy my needs. I did not mean to imply that the service that one provides is a replica of service provided by another or that there is nothing unique about an encounter with them.

 

[Shiver22]

I didnt post anything else in the thread thinking it was dead.

I didnt have a huge amount of clients while at the mp, but have had situations of repeats coming in to see me (declining the other girl) and leaving visibly upset after seeing me with other clients in the lounge at the mp.

Now that Im an indy, Im happy clients wont see each other anymore, but I wonder how normal this? Is it because it ruined the gfe fantasy or is there a perceived higher level? Is it possible to take the gfe too far in a session? Is it necessary to bring clients out of the gfe at the end of a session?

Am I over thinking this?

xoxo Shiver

 

[biscuit82]

Cant rember all it but there is a sayin "that the best loves are won and lost in the same night" so why the hell cant the same be said for an hour or two.
And I kinda of like a little emontional attachement makes the sex better and allways nice to that burst of passion after youn havent seen your favorite for awhile.

 

[belmontkingsize]

Nice to see an opinion from a different PoV.

 

[87112]

Let me just share this..... I happened to have a serious (mutual) physical and emotional attraction to my very first client.... Needless to say, he got seriously great deals for a few visits, just cause it was soooooo a highlight for both of us, that I quickly ended our "business" relationship.
We have seen one another for full nights of passion and share an unspoken attraction that is intertwined with serious feelings......
That being said. We both have lifestyles that DON'T match well enough to make a relationship work..... He is still conflicted about his family situation..... has a very young child, works out of town, and is trying to make his childs time with him as stress free as possible. This means the ex is still very involved in his lifeThey may or may not get back together for the childs sake.....(not a great basis for a relationship) but NOT my decision...
He has now found himself VERY conflicted and feels guilty for his feelings for me....

"Its not that I don't like you...... I have gotten way too close way too fast, and I can't resolve the guilt and confusion that it has caused" .....(its not you, its me.....blah blah blah)

But, I saw him last night, and the depth of the feelings and the passion I experienced were worth the heartache I will inevitably endure. I am a realist. enjoy it while it lasts..

There is nothing quite like knowing that the passion you crave is at your fingertips....but WILL NEVER be yours to harness.... I should have kept him as a client, it was a rookie mistake......hind sight.....

Some parts of that is heartbreaking, such as " enjoy it while it last".

 

[whatswithme]

Hmm...don't mean to bump an old thread, but definitely a question I have so why not put it where it belongs?

So last night I had my first experience with an SP, and had a great time with her. We're both of a similar age, and at least from my perspective we seemed to have some chemistry. I mean, either we had great chemistry, or she is very very good at what she does in creating that illusion.

My question is, have there been any stories of clients asking out SP's and it turning out well? I guess it would be against the agency's policy for her to actually date someone on her personal time? I don't know. Maybe it's silly for me to be thinking this and having these feelings, but they're there nonetheless. I really enjoyed talking to her and just cuddling (at some point when we were doing that).

 

[Horse99]

jesus, do you think this is "Pretty Woman"

your first experience and you are in love? Remember, she was being paid to be nice to you....

 

[whatswithme]

your first experience and you are in love? Remember, she was being paid to be nice to you....

? Where did I say I was in love?

I realize she was paid to be nice to me...so I guess this means it's not a worthwhile attempt to ask?