A big reason why I'm here is that I was in an exclusive relationship with a woman for many years who became more prudish as she aged. The prudishness is ultimately the reason the relationship ended. Different world now that my eyes have been opened to the world of "companionship". It's refreshing that there are ladies who give it up readily ... of course for nothing is free ... but neither is marriage or dating. I'm entering the dating scene and it seems the ratio among civilians may follow the 80-20 rule where 80% are prudes and 20% are keen to fool around ... thoughts?
"Prudishness" vs "Openness" in women – statistically
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Depends on the culture and upraising. You can create the environment you want in a relationship, or you can let the environment create you.
In general, I find French, Italian and Spanish girls to be much more open minded than English, Canadian or American. Culture has a massive influence.
The Swedish and Finnish girls almnost never have "relationships" without at first sleeping with you to make sure you don't suck in bed. Even then they prefer being companions than relationships.
In general, I find French, Italian and Spanish girls to be much more open minded than English, Canadian or American. Culture has a massive influence.
The Swedish and Finnish girls almnost never have "relationships" without at first sleeping with you to make sure you don't suck in bed. Even then they prefer being companions than relationships.
Damn, maybe you hooked up with one of my ex's, I feel for you. The prudishness increased about 20% each year after marriage. Never made it to 100%... Both were white Canadians. I am so done with white girls lol. The prudishness was also the reason our marriages ended.
Marry an escort, prudish will not be in your dictionary anymore lol.
Marry an escort, prudish will not be in your dictionary anymore lol.
Upbringing & environment have so much to do with female sexuality. I grew up as part of the "if it feels good, do it" era...
Because of my dad's weird religious (Christian Science) upbringing, & my mom's interest in freer thought, I didn't grow up in a religious household. We weren't taught that sexuality was shameful, just that it was best done in private! It was the 70s. But I know a lot of unhappily married people who didn't have the same sort of experiences as I do. Personally, I think that sexuality is like any other dynamic of personality, in that when it isn't developed, explored, stimulated or encouraged, it diminishes.
There are physical aspects too...female sex hormones diminish as we age. Sex hormones are produced in the ovaries. It used to be very commonplace for doctors to recommend radical hysterectomies when there was no need to take the ovaries; doing so immediately puts a woman into menopause without hormone replacement. When I had mine, I was adamant that if there was no need to take my ovaries, my hysterectomy would be limited to taking away the defective baby carriage & keeping the cute little box it came in. Regardless of the reason, I'm pretty sure that I fall into the 20%...
Yes you do. I'm grateful for mine, except for the tendency towards moldiness in the winter.
It's one thing to be bored or even reserved about your sexuality.
It's another when certain women withhold sex and affection for other motives.
Don't get married. It's not how humans are supposed to live together.
It's another when certain women withhold sex and affection for other motives.
Don't get married. It's not how humans are supposed to live together.
I probably shouldn't be posting in this thread, because I have never been married, and never understood women. Have been on plenty of dates, had a couple of long term relationships, and many people who wanted more, but I didn't. So having said this, I've been the one on both sides of the sexual needs requirement. Some didn't want as much sex as I required, and others needed more than I was good with having. Both ways were bad, and are not going to work out long term. A couple needs to be somewhat compatible with their sexual needs. Without trying, I met a sweet young lady while skiing the other day. She was in town with a group of friends who do ski, and they basically abandoned her. So I stopped and gave her some tips, and skied easy runs with her for a few hours. Long story short, she has been over to my place 3 nights in a row, and yes we had fun a few times each evening. While she is barely more than half my age, we seem sexually compatible, which makes it comfortable for us. The reality is that she goes home on Sunday and we might never see each other again. So we are just enjoying each other's company while she is in town. It was her that brought it up yesterday, that we seem to click well when it comes to sex, so it just feels good. Neither of us is frustrated because we feel pressured to give more than we want, or starving for more. Refreshing how openly we could discuss it. My thoughts are that most long term relationships get to where both parties just take the other for granted, and calmly discussing their sexual needs just stops. Then both get frustrated and that leads to more problems with the sexual part of their relationship. So it keeps going on with the snowball effect, until they finally split up. Try and keep communication open, but light hearted, and never yell.
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With the exception of one noun, I agree with the above statement 100%! :cupcake: It's not just women that do this.
Thank you all for the great insights.
nightswhisper – The cultural influence and rearing is certainly something to keep in mind! And the witholding totally was what killed my LTR.
sybian – Viking genetics indeed.
SPhubby – if I could find one that was really keen on me, i certainly would date an SP off the clock, I'm not really a jealous guy so it would work out fine
Ms Erica that is SO true: "sexuality is like any other dynamic of personality, in that when it isn't developed, explored, stimulated or encouraged, it diminishes. "
Correct – Amazing situation with that young lady, that's a great story! And valuable insight.
BC Babe ... thanks for the excellent insight into dating women's thoughts and motives. Very good advice, particularly about the mystery and fun
nightswhisper – The cultural influence and rearing is certainly something to keep in mind! And the witholding totally was what killed my LTR.
sybian – Viking genetics indeed.
SPhubby – if I could find one that was really keen on me, i certainly would date an SP off the clock, I'm not really a jealous guy so it would work out fine
Ms Erica that is SO true: "sexuality is like any other dynamic of personality, in that when it isn't developed, explored, stimulated or encouraged, it diminishes. "
Correct – Amazing situation with that young lady, that's a great story! And valuable insight.
BC Babe ... thanks for the excellent insight into dating women's thoughts and motives. Very good advice, particularly about the mystery and fun
My personal observations:
Most of us women are usually a lot less prudish when travelling or not around our native environment and people. Example, the young girl skiing out of town.
I think female teachers and nurses are the least prude I've met in general. I'm in a medical field myself. I don't know why.
There is a way to every woman's bed, I don't think so many are prudes, men just don't know how to get there.
Most of us women are usually a lot less prudish when travelling or not around our native environment and people. Example, the young girl skiing out of town.
I think female teachers and nurses are the least prude I've met in general. I'm in a medical field myself. I don't know why.
There is a way to every woman's bed, I don't think so many are prudes, men just don't know how to get there.
It's (mostly) a joke, buddy...
I remember seeing this episode of CSI where they were talking about a particular type of rash that people with Scandinavian heritage get in the winter that's essentially an allergic reaction to their own sweat. Between that, & the Duputreyn's Contracture/plantar fasciitis confirmed for my family that despite no evidence in the family records from Ireland, England & Scotland, there is DEFINTELY a Viking in the woodpile somewhere.
Yeah, that comment about moldiness had me looking under my half-Scandinavian fingernails for traces of green stuff. None found, thankfully.
Ok besides creepy Scandy Viking diseases and woodpiles... great convo.
Shorttermvisitor, it's true what you're said – men just don't know how to get there haha. We're pretty clueless, that's for sure. Unraveling women's myriad mysterious thought processes is a forever task, lol
larami, sad isn't it. Wasn't supposed to be part of the deal. Thank the gods we have these wonderful ladies for company.
Shorttermvisitor, it's true what you're said – men just don't know how to get there haha. We're pretty clueless, that's for sure. Unraveling women's myriad mysterious thought processes is a forever task, lol
larami, sad isn't it. Wasn't supposed to be part of the deal. Thank the gods we have these wonderful ladies for company.
Come to think of it I guess that's partly why SPs exist
