This is my first time writing such a long post and I hope that the bros will have some patience. I have done both, and on the outside, it appears that they are 2 different activities. But in actuality, both involve sex with opposites that are not their spouses, and both involve money to some degree.
Some background. My wife and I have been married a long time. She is a smaller BBW whom I consider to be sexy. But she has a body image problem, same with many women her age and size. We first started seeing female SPs as a couple for threesomes, and had some really fun times and made some great friends that way. Through one of these SPs, who included her husband in the session, we were introduced to full on couple sex. We did have several 4sum sessions this way with SPs and their SOs or BFs, and it was great fun, much better then just another female in a threesome. I really enjoyed seeing her get pleasured by 2 or 3 people at the same time, and she had lots of fun doing it. But frankly, fun as they were, they were not cheap. Some sessions we had with an SP couple, although PSE, ended up costing as much as $$$$$. I have been fortunate, and many SPs tell us what a great relationship we have. She enjoys watching me receive pleasure from other women and I am the same for her.
Because of the cost concerns, I decided to try swinging. I did some research and we settled on a club in Seattle (New Horizons, now closed) for our first swinging experience. We chose that club to minimize running into anyone we might know from work, and also, it was a very well reviewed and awesome club. At that time, the membership dues and party fees were not cheap either, around USD$1.2, but still a lot more affordable then paying for an SP couple. We had a great time, there was a live band, catered food, swimming pools and 2 hot tubs, as well as frog chairs, sex swings, orgy rooms,, etc. We were like Alice in wonderland. The atmosphere was very sexually charged and sight of scantily dressed women was very arousing. She changed to her lingerie outfit and met another couple about our age. We hit it off and went upstairs to have sex. We always play safe, but even so, she was so wet that her pussy was foaming on the other guy’s dick. It was very arousing to see her take his large cock all the way in, and her loud moaning that accompanied that. We had a good time with this couple, and it was strange socializing with them afterwards during midnight snacks. We don’t do this with SPs as we are out the door after that. The main thing was that she was on an emotional and mental high. She was surprised that another man would find her 50 year old chubby body sexy and fuck her till he came. I told her that I always knew this, but seeing that for herself from another perspective that was not her husband’s was giving her a lot of self confidence.
Since then, we have attended swingers events almost exclusively. This includes hotel parties, (we have organized them as well as attended others), swinger clubs and even a swinger cruise. Although there is no guarantee that we will get laid at a club or event, financially speaking, it was still better off then paying for it. On our recent swinger cruise, we went to the Caribbean for one week. Total cost was about USD$5000. That includes hotel and airfare, and the cruise itself. The cruise was marked up almost 100% from a vanilla cruise, so I figured that the total extra that we paid on this cruise versus a regular cruise was about USD$1500. We totally enjoyed the sun and sand and beaches, and the sex of course. We each had sex with 7 different partners, pretty much an average of once a night. And some were multiple times with the same couple. We really enjoyed ourselves and made some friends along the way. Of course some sex partners we had were so so, and others were really really good. As good as any SP we have had. So, in terms dollar cost averaging, it ended up costing us just over USD$200 per couple based on the USD$1500 cost differential above that of a regular cruise. It works out pretty good versus what we would have paid for an SP here.
Because of this, we have a hard time justifying seeing SPs. Unless of course they are in low cost places like Asia or Eastern Europe. Of course, swinging is not for everyone. It requires a co-operating SO. But If there is one, then I feel it can be a cost effective to have fun with your spouse versus seeing an SP. I am not saying never to see an SP, but I am saying that maybe you might want to check with your SO whether swinging is something that she might be interested in. I did with mine, and I was very pleasantly surprised to see she was and happy with the savings to our pocketbook.
Some background. My wife and I have been married a long time. She is a smaller BBW whom I consider to be sexy. But she has a body image problem, same with many women her age and size. We first started seeing female SPs as a couple for threesomes, and had some really fun times and made some great friends that way. Through one of these SPs, who included her husband in the session, we were introduced to full on couple sex. We did have several 4sum sessions this way with SPs and their SOs or BFs, and it was great fun, much better then just another female in a threesome. I really enjoyed seeing her get pleasured by 2 or 3 people at the same time, and she had lots of fun doing it. But frankly, fun as they were, they were not cheap. Some sessions we had with an SP couple, although PSE, ended up costing as much as $$$$$. I have been fortunate, and many SPs tell us what a great relationship we have. She enjoys watching me receive pleasure from other women and I am the same for her.
Because of the cost concerns, I decided to try swinging. I did some research and we settled on a club in Seattle (New Horizons, now closed) for our first swinging experience. We chose that club to minimize running into anyone we might know from work, and also, it was a very well reviewed and awesome club. At that time, the membership dues and party fees were not cheap either, around USD$1.2, but still a lot more affordable then paying for an SP couple. We had a great time, there was a live band, catered food, swimming pools and 2 hot tubs, as well as frog chairs, sex swings, orgy rooms,, etc. We were like Alice in wonderland. The atmosphere was very sexually charged and sight of scantily dressed women was very arousing. She changed to her lingerie outfit and met another couple about our age. We hit it off and went upstairs to have sex. We always play safe, but even so, she was so wet that her pussy was foaming on the other guy’s dick. It was very arousing to see her take his large cock all the way in, and her loud moaning that accompanied that. We had a good time with this couple, and it was strange socializing with them afterwards during midnight snacks. We don’t do this with SPs as we are out the door after that. The main thing was that she was on an emotional and mental high. She was surprised that another man would find her 50 year old chubby body sexy and fuck her till he came. I told her that I always knew this, but seeing that for herself from another perspective that was not her husband’s was giving her a lot of self confidence.
Since then, we have attended swingers events almost exclusively. This includes hotel parties, (we have organized them as well as attended others), swinger clubs and even a swinger cruise. Although there is no guarantee that we will get laid at a club or event, financially speaking, it was still better off then paying for it. On our recent swinger cruise, we went to the Caribbean for one week. Total cost was about USD$5000. That includes hotel and airfare, and the cruise itself. The cruise was marked up almost 100% from a vanilla cruise, so I figured that the total extra that we paid on this cruise versus a regular cruise was about USD$1500. We totally enjoyed the sun and sand and beaches, and the sex of course. We each had sex with 7 different partners, pretty much an average of once a night. And some were multiple times with the same couple. We really enjoyed ourselves and made some friends along the way. Of course some sex partners we had were so so, and others were really really good. As good as any SP we have had. So, in terms dollar cost averaging, it ended up costing us just over USD$200 per couple based on the USD$1500 cost differential above that of a regular cruise. It works out pretty good versus what we would have paid for an SP here.
Because of this, we have a hard time justifying seeing SPs. Unless of course they are in low cost places like Asia or Eastern Europe. Of course, swinging is not for everyone. It requires a co-operating SO. But If there is one, then I feel it can be a cost effective to have fun with your spouse versus seeing an SP. I am not saying never to see an SP, but I am saying that maybe you might want to check with your SO whether swinging is something that she might be interested in. I did with mine, and I was very pleasantly surprised to see she was and happy with the savings to our pocketbook.
