Please.Thank You. You're Welcome.

[Cock Throppled]

How difficult is it to use those five words? Why are people so impolite?

Are we forgetting how to behave in public or around other people?

The Skytrain and buses are two areas I really notice how badly people behave around others, but even in the office and in restaurants I see rude behaviour all the time. Even worse, I see people who display superior attitudes to those they think are below them in status or income.

 

[Warl0ck]

Ain't the world a grand place? Kids used to beat each other up, now they cyber bully kids till they kill themselves. At one time you could speak up and say your opinion & others might think "I disagree". Today, people set out to intimidate & cyber stalk you, attempting to destroy your career, family, etc. Not hard to expect though when you create a world where the mantra is "have it your way". I'm glad I'm not 21.

 

[MrBrown]

Yeah, amazing how manners went downhill...

My pet peeve is the lack of common courtesy people have when you do them a favour or send them a message, typically via email.
No thank you, no confirmation of receipt, nada. Just goes into a black hole.

And that's with people you thought you had a relationship worth investing in.

I think it's just people are selfish and not ashamed anymore.

Getting too old for this bs. Now I only give people one chance to blow it and they are for all intents and purposes DEAD to me.

 

[johnsmit]

Well just by reading the first few comments I can see where "please,thank you and your welcome "went. The world's :me...me.and fuck you "attitude has all ready changed many people, but don't let it change you . Ifor it your nature to say please and thank you , keep doing it

I allways do ,hold doors open for others and do my best to acknowledge texts. Yes I have friends that I say good morning to almost everyday by text or phone them and I get no reply for a day or two.But I still send it because why let there action change my nature.I care about them and I'll let them know. I don't need to turn my back on people if they gave no time for courtesy. I can be paishent and long suffering when it comes to friends and being friendly in this world.

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

Yeah, amazing how manners went downhill...

My pet peeve is the lack of common courtesy people have when you do them a favour or send them a message, typically via email.
No thank you, no confirmation of receipt, nada. Just goes into a black hole.

I think a lot of this has happened because of our techno impersonal devices we seem to cling so dearly too.
We seem for the most part to have lost the act of simple courtesy because we are no longer interacting with
live souls as much as we used to. It's all taken a back seat, now that we stare at cell phones and such instead of each other.

Welcome to the modern age. :sad:





....................QM'r

 

[badbadboy]

How difficult is it to use those five words? Why are people so impolite?

Are we forgetting how to behave in public or around other people?

The Skytrain and buses are two areas I really notice how badly people behave around others, but even in the office and in restaurants I see rude behaviour all the time. Even worse, I see people who display superior attitudes to those they think are below them in status or income.

Manners seem to have become less important to parents raising kids.

Teaching kids the please, thank you and you're welcome seems to be remarkable when you notice a child using those words.

My manner senses perk up when I say 'thank you'

and the usual response now around Vancouver is 'no problem'

or worse in the States they say 'uh huh'

wtf? How difficult is it to say 'you're welcome' ?

 

[johnsmit]

The favorite word of this younger generation is "fuck"

 

[Warl0ck]

I think a lot of this has happened because of our techno impersonal devices we seem to cling so dearly too.

My world is technology but I agree with you 100%. There are a lot of good things about technology but there are some very bad things. It was Mr Robot (a show on hackers) who said we live in "controlled isolated bubbles in the form of social networks". I think that comment was absolutely accurate on the current state of the world. The rise of hate, anger and misogyny is because everything has gone digital. We're not longer engaging a person, we're engaging a digital presence. Look at a typical modern conversation via text. The person may just up and disappear in the middle of it, no notification or anything. You wouldn't do that in reality but we do online. We now see people as one dimensional and we treat people that way. And our anonymity allows us to be crass & cruel and hurt other people. We can no longer just STFU, we have to say something. So if a chubby girl posts a picture she likes of herself on social media, 2 people say "pretty girl", 10 others say "fat ho".

@Tim McGee: The primary reason I don't partake in forums is for that very reason. I read this forum for 10 years and only signed up last week. I am finding that I no longer read mainstream media because the comments are fucking bullshit. It's almost laughable how stupid some of the comments in modern media are. I don't want my life filled with negativity so I tend to just turn it off. The hate shit consumes you.

 

[frisky business]

How difficult is it to use those five words? Why are people so impolite?

Are we forgetting how to behave in public or around other people?

Hi Cock,

You've started an interesting thread. I certainly think that good manners are at the heart of any civilization that's worth living in.

Sometimes I take public transit, bus or skytrain, and my experience or observations are different from yours. I see average people giving up their seats for the elderly or disabled. I've never had a driver be less than perfectly polite when I've asked "how much?" or "do you stop at. . .?"

But here's the kicker, when people get off the bus, I frequently hear them call out "Thank You" to the driver. I don't remember people doing that before.

A while ago I was taking the bus and happened to sit near the front. The driver stopped to pick up a pasenger in a wheelchair and gave complete help to that passenger including tieing her wheelchair down to the braces provided. There was this semi-emo chick sitting in the bench at the front that faced the driver. She kept saying things like "Grandpa, make sure you get those wheels tied down." or "Grandpa, lets get going, you can't take too much time at this stop."

My first thought was: you rude c**t, how dare you call the driver "Grandpa" just because he has silver hair and a silver beard? However, when the bus got going, the semi-emo chick and the driver resumed their conversation, talking about people that they both knew. It turns out that he really was her Grandpa, and she was along for the ride so they could enjoy each other's company.

Gawd I love being a Canadian.

FB

 

[Cock Throppled]

The favorite word of this younger generation is "fuck"

Yeah. How did "fuck" become part of everyday speech? That's another one I hear constantly in public.

Just saw Christmas Office Party, and even though it's a movie, I wondered how staff kept using the word to their bosses as casual greetings and comments and were never called on it.

Is that normal in some offices?

At my place, no staffer would dare say, "What the fuck." to a manager if they were told they'd just made a mistake.

 

[westwoody]

I feel the world is becoming a very angry aggressive place.
People drive like idiots. People cut into lineups, or abuse express checkouts because they feel more important than anyone else.
Rudeness is just a symptom of this.

 

[Caramel]

I was just thinking of the EFF word yesterday and how its used so casually, I remember when my mom would freak out and cover my little sister's ears whenever it was heard or said, but nowadays its so accepted everywhere and common that everyone has become immune to it, I blame the merge of hiphop into mainstream culture...now its accepted to be informal and laid back in many circumstances and situations. I guess its OK takes the pressure off to be a certain way and allows people to be themselves more.

And I think people are rude because they are angry at the world, the high prices, income inequality etc. I really admire philanthropic and caring selfless people, I was watching CNN heroes and it restored a little bit of faith in humanity for me. But in general I'll never have hope for humanity as long as there are things like exploitation, abuse, sexual abuse, pedophilia, human slavery, racism, etc happening all over the world (especially how the Canadian judicial system only decides to punish a child rapist for 2 years :O - SICK)

 

[Warl0ck]

I was just thinking of the EFF word yesterday and how its used so casually, I remember when my mom would freak out and cover my little sister's ears whenever it was heard or said, but nowadays its so accepted everywhere and common that everyone has become immune to it, I blame the merge of hiphop into mainstream culture...now its accepted to be informal and laid back in many circumstances and situations. I guess its OK takes the pressure off to be a certain way and allows people to be themselves more.

And I think people are rude because they are angry at the world, the high prices, income inequality etc. I really admire philanthropic and caring selfless people, I was watching CNN heroes and it restored a little bit of faith in humanity for me. But in general I'll never have hope for humanity as long as there are things like exploitation, abuse, sexual abuse, pedophilia, human slavery, racism, etc happening all over the world (especially how the Canadian judicial system only decides to punish a child rapist for 2 years :O - SICK)

I don't think hip hop is the director Caramel. I think it's the reflector. It reflects a society filled with people who are marginalized and left behind. This industry is ripe with women like that. Women who feed their families by selling their bodies. And the general society and a whole buy of the "buyers" of this don't give a single fuck. The government happily creates "laws" to enforce that.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I am constantly amazed at how uncivil society has become. "Me first: hell with you!" is a prevailing mindset it seems. I see this in stores, in transit, and of course, in my text messages. When I taught elementary school, I took great pains to inculcate good manners in my students, because to me, manners will always matter. I remember a school clerk/typist saying to me "I always know when a student at the office is one of yours: they say 'please', 'thank you' & 'excuse me'." We ought to treat each other with courtesy & DIGNITY, because isn't that the way we all want to be treated? When I get a rude or disrespectful email or text, I don't need to reduce myself to slinging insults: that only reinforces the stereotype that every sex worker is a virago! I can reject rude behavior by modeling what's appropriate. I will continue to spread courteous behaviour when I can...and when someone needs a tuning up, I can do that without resorting to vulgarity...

Unless you really deserve to be told to take a flying fuck on a flaming rolling donut!��

 

[Cock Throppled]

Is it just a generational thing?

I see guys talking to their girlfriends and casually refer to them as "bitch" or "ho", not in an angry way, but just in reference. My first thought is always, "What is wrong with you, girl? Don't you have any self-respect to allow yourself to be demeaned in public?"

But to younger people, they don't seem to recognize the terms as demeaning. The other weird thing (to me) is how poorly dressed guys are on dates. Like, make an effort, dude, and girls - EXPECT a guy to think you're worth making an effort for.

 

[johnsmit]

Oh I doubt very much that a girl accepts being called a bitch and a ho ,but it is the nature of the guys they hang out with and the music and" culture " they choose to be part of.

That more of this messed up generation of either having a trophy bad ass boy friend or the guy making out he has a bad ass girl friend that he can treat like he want and get what he want..It is still two selfish people putting non a show..Listen to them complain when they are with the girls or the guys with their Bros. There is not any joy

 

[uncleg]

and the usual response now around Vancouver is 'no problem'

Seems appropriate when you consider how many people act like it's a big problem just to do the job(s) they are being paid to do.

 

[Warl0ck]

Is it just a generational thing?

I see guys talking to their girlfriends and casually refer to them as "bitch" or "ho", not in an angry way, but just in reference. My first thought is always, "What is wrong with you, girl? Don't you have any self-respect to allow yourself to be demeaned in public?"

But to younger people, they don't seem to recognize the terms as demeaning. The other weird thing (to me) is how poorly dressed guys are on dates. Like, make an effort, dude, and girls - EXPECT a guy to think you're worth making an effort for.

Well said. I think it goes beyond the whole term bitch or ho thing. The one thing I can't understand is the whole super sized ass thing. Some women seem to treat themselves like a sex object willingly. As for the poorly dressed male population I think it's part of a bigger thing. I work in an almost entirely male industry. Younger males seem to have absolutely zero interest in females so they don't put forth much effort. When I was in my 20's, I did anything and everything to meet chicks. Young males today seem more interested in video games & technology than women. So, they're just disinterested and disinterested people don't put forth much effort in anything.

 

[johnsmit]

If your talking zbout how guys dress
The one that I don't get is wearing pants that hang below their ass.

And to accomplish this they buy pants with short legs and have to walk and stand bow legged , like they just riad a long way on a horse or they have some very large junk or just shit their pants lol

 

[westwoody]

Fucking coincidental that I read this right now.
I am just about to smack someone.
Took a dear lady friend to a very expensive restaurant, hoping to have a good time. Dinner is basically ruined mood-wise by a family of assholes.
Two pairs of grandparents, parents, and three spoiled toddlers. The mother is incredibly loud, everyone in the place can hear her every word. Toddlers are standing on the dining chairs in their wet snow boots.
One of them came over and sat under our table. Grandpa comes over. Instead of taking the kid back to their table, he sits down at ours and starts talking to the kid under our table. Excuse me but I am trying to have a date here. Gramps thinks kid is adorable and keeps telling us how funny this is. Finally kid goes back after ten minutes under our table. Ladyfriend is wondering what the fuck kind of idiots live in Winnipeg.
Waste of $200+ on attempt at romance.
There you have it, no respect, just let their kids walk all over everyone.
Finally they leave. Three chairs taken away for cleaning covered in dirt and slush.
Nobody sets limits on kids anymore.
So we have young adults who do not respect anything.