It has nothing to do with money. He is very generous and doesn't need my money, he has a full time job. As a matter of fact he even helps me with my bills.
Please help, am I cheating?
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Ok, so I'm still confused. Are you an escort, or not? If so, under what name do you work, and what are your stats? And which services do you provide? Are you a "safe" GFE? Do you provide BBBJ? If so, do you swallow? Are you a greek freak, or do you "save" that for the BF? Do you go BBFS or BBGREEK with him?
Peter I'm not working nor am I trying for business here. Is it not ok for me to post without trying to work? I needed advice from fellow industry people, still do but I am not trying to generate business so none of those questions are relevant or appropriate.
Please help, am I cheating?
---Dr. Moe
Your question must be rhetorical in nature.
---Dr. Moe
If your not working why the question? I mean it can't be an issue if your not even doing the job right? Or were you working and now he is holding that over your head?
Victoria
I do not know you. I read this post and I think you have great insight. I think that ladies can gain alot from reading it in fact.
Great post and thanks for the insight. Happy Belated Birthday!!!
My feeling is this:
I simply refuse to be in a relationship and in the business at the same time. It just wouldn't work for me.
First off, I wouldn't want to be with a man who is okay with a girlfriend/partner/SO who is in this business. Years ago (1999), I worked briefly for a woman who was running an agency, seeing clients, and living with a man at the same time. And the guy had a job too, but was also benefitting from the money she made escorting and running the agency. And every time I turned around he was beating the living sh*t out of her and putting her in the hospital.
One time, he damn near broke her back and it was nearly a week before she could walk again. As usual, she lied to the police (who knew perfectly well how she was injured and that she was lying to protect her commonlaw), signed herself out of the hosptial against doctor's orders, and got her mother (who was in her 50's and also working as an escort for the agency) to carry her out of the hosptial and take her home and put her in bed beside her abuser.
Now I'm not saying that the kind of man who can accept being in a relationship with a woman who works as an escort is necessarily abusive, but for me personally, I have to consider this: What kind of man would be willing to accept/settle for a woman he has to share with other men? It's just my opinion, but I think it would be one who doesn't have a very high opinion of himself, or her for that matter. And in my experience, insecure men can be very abusive, if not phsically, verbally and emotionally—which in the end is no better—it still kills your spirit and self-esteem.
An insecure man can often put others down in really awful ways to try to feel better about himself. And it's pretty hard to work at this when you feel like sh*t because your man is ripping you apart and picking fights and telling you that you're a piece of crap before you go out on a date. So when you get down to it, what's the point to doing both? It really is a lost cause. It hurts you, it hurts him, and it hurts your business.
So, if you think this is a good man for you, make a choice—commit to a him and a relationship with him, or commit to yourself and your escorting business, but don't think you can serve both and have a happy life in the long run. Human nature being what it is simply won't allow it.
And if you find a man who is willing to accept both, RUN LIKE HELL!!!
And if anyone here who is under 43 (it's my birthday today) and not yet a grandparent disagrees, spare me—I'm older, wiser, and have more life experience than you. So there!
Anyway, sorry to advise and run, but if I don't get out of here NOW, pick up the cake (it was my daughter's birthday yesterday), and get to my daughters' and granddaughter's place, I'm never going to hear the end of it!
I do not know you. I read this post and I think you have great insight. I think that ladies can gain alot from reading it in fact.
Great post and thanks for the insight. Happy Belated Birthday!!!
Thankyou Victoria Rose for your reply as it might have given me what I needed to make a decision about my future.
truth..even if it hurts
lets all get honest here:
if you are in a relationship with anyone, man or woman, and you are either a client or an sp yes for fuck sakes..pardon the pun.. you are cheating.
but to put it in perspective..we are all adults, we make our own decisions..so stop the whining and the agonizing...you are cheating..either stop what you are doing..or shut up about it and get on with whatever you are doing to stay happy..just protect the kids.
my two cents.
lets all get honest here:
if you are in a relationship with anyone, man or woman, and you are either a client or an sp yes for fuck sakes..pardon the pun.. you are cheating.
but to put it in perspective..we are all adults, we make our own decisions..so stop the whining and the agonizing...you are cheating..either stop what you are doing..or shut up about it and get on with whatever you are doing to stay happy..just protect the kids.
my two cents.
